Profile of Offenders
Efforts to conceptualize incest before 1980 led to it being categorized as a subcategory of pedophilia (Stoller 1975). Since then, the trend is to describe incest in terms of interaction factors in the family context (Bentovim 1992; Trepper and Barrett 1986). Some researchers believe that incest does not have a single cause; rather it develops from a combination of influences (Finkelhor 1986; Friedrich 1990; Maddock and Larson 1995; Trepper and Barrett 1989). Incest is a complex and varied family dynamic, although at the same time some patterns of sexual abuse may be predictable and reflective of general disturbances in family patterns of interactions (Maddock and Larson 1995). Some of the systemic factors that influence whether or not incest will occur in a family include intrapsychic influences, relational variables, developmental variables, and situational or circumstantial that make incest more or less likely to occur.
Researchers agree that perpetrators of incest are more likely to be males than females, although plenty of evidence has emerged since the 1980s that shows that some mothers do sexually abuse their children. Fewer female offenders are willing to admit to committing incest (Allen 1991), and society may consider women to be sexually harmless. But it is important to recognize the increased opportunity that women have to perpetrate incest as primary caretakers of children ( Jennings 1993). Women in all societies are given a great deal of responsibility of raising children, and with that comes control over their dependents. They are more often in charge of many intimate activities surrounding the care of the child, including things such as breastfeeding, putting to bed, and bathing. Some cultures where mother-son closeness is the norm may have more occurrences of incest. For example, some Japanese mothers initiate sexual acts with their sons after witnessing their sons masturbate for the first time in order to teach him about sex (Katahara 1989). One very small Australian study of a clinical sample of male incest survivors found a number of factors most likely to influence the occurrence of sexual abuse of young males (Harper 1993). Those include living in a single-parent family headed by a woman of low socioeconomic status where the mother suffers from a schizophrenic illness and/or abuses drugs or alcohol, and where there is a history of violent parental behavior.
Women may commit incest for different reasons than do males. Gender expectations and socializations may vary for males and for female perpetrators, but this does not mean that one form of incest is less harmful to the victim than the other. Regardless of the type of perpetrator, incest perpetrators commit incest for a variety of reasons. They often have poor skills in dealing with their emotions, demonstrate poor empathy skills, and display a marked inability to observe the behavior of others. These perpetrators are often emotionally in a developmental stage equivalent to that of the child they are assaulting.
In a study of seventy-five male and sixty-five female sexual abuse perpetrators, the men and women showed no difference in educational levels, both reported that their marriages as less stable than their parents', and both reported their need for emotional fulfillment is greater than their need for sexual fulfillment (Allen 1991). Both offenders report the least intrusive form of offending (exhibitionism, voyeurism, touching) to be more frequent than oral, vaginal, or anal intercourse. At the same time, women offenders were less likely to report committing sexual activities with children, more likely to report their own experience as victims of sexual abuse, and reported lower marital satisfaction. Women reported greater satisfaction with the relationship with their children, more sexual satisfaction with their spouses/partners, and reported having more sexual partners than the male perpetrators. Women offenders reported significantly higher need for both emotional and sexual fulfillment. Women offenders report more physical abuse by their partners and family of origin. Many more women than men sexually abuse with another (usually male) person whereas men are more likely to commit their offense alone ( Jennings 1993). Females tend to use violence less often than males during their offending (Krug 1989). Females are more likely to know their victims; the abuse is usually less frequent and shorter in duration; and female offenders usually have fewer victims ( Jennings 1993).
Men as incest perpetrators are not a homogeneous group. In a study funded by a grant from the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect, researchers identified five distinct types of incestuous fathers: sexually preoccupied, adolescent regressive, instrumental sexual gratifiers, emotionally dependent offenders, and angry retaliators (Williams and Finkelhor 1992). This typology helps to foster better understanding of the motivations for abuse and may enable better treatment for incest perpetrators. It should be kept in mind that an offender may not fit perfectly into one type; most offenders are a combination of one or more types.
The first type, the sexually preoccupied offenders, is characterized by a sexual interest in their victim, usually from an early age. This offender usually begins molesting the child before age six and continues the molestation past puberty. The second type, the adolescent regressive offenders, has a conscious sexual interest in their victims but usually do not begin molesting until the victims approach or reach puberty. The third type of offenders, the instrumental sexual gratifiers, uses the victim as a vehicle for sexual fantasy. These offenders are more sporadic in their offending, and they often associate the action with remorse. The fourth type, the emotionally dependent, is often lonely and depressed, sex is not a primary motivator, and they often romanticize their need for closeness and intimacy. Fifth, angry retaliators demonstrate low sexual arousal toward their victims but instead use the sexual assault to focus their anger. Often, the assault on the victim is in retaliation for a real or imagined infidelity or abandonment by a spouse.
Besides there being some risk factors for becoming an incest perpetrator, the authors of one Swedish research study suggested there may be protective factors that prevent some victims from entering the victim-to-abuser cycle (Glasser et al. 2001). Those include: (1) positive self esteem; (2) the presence of other important adults in the child's life; (3) religious education stressing positive development and forgiveness rather than sin and damnation; (4) success in school, sports, or other activities; (5) personality, strengths, and social situations that promote long-term goals; (6) parental monitoring reducing the frequency of abuse; and (7) age-appropriate sexual knowledge prior to abuse.
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about 1 month ago
please withold my name. My youngest brother molested my youngest sister from the time she was six until she was twelve. She is now in her forties and revealed this to me, my sister and another brother several years ago. Her mental anguish over these assaults and betrayals by a family member were indiscribable. Our mother is 86 years old and has not been told which in turn leads to the confusion of why we do not allow the youngest brother to be part of family gatherings anymore. Yesterday he and his girlfriend (who does not know) arrived at a family gathering for the celebration of mom's birthday and we three confronted him (for the first time) and told him he was not welcome, because we knew what he had done. He appeared startled, defensive, confused and responded with 'that only happened once and never again'. We knew better but his response still planted doubt as to if these memories were 'false' in the youngests sisters mind. The family is in turmoil, we have had to tell a lie to protect mom from the truth, she is very angry at us for 'driving' the brother out of the fold and it just looks like it is going to get worse before it gets better. My sister has had to live with this all her life, we support her and love her unconditionally. How can this brother have removed what he did from his mind so completely?
about 1 month ago
It is interesting to read profiles on sexual perpetrators. There is a great deal of information out there on survivors and healing, but not a lot on the perpetrators. It helps to read about perpetrators--to help understand these crimes so victims can realize that the abuser was not their fault. Fathers and step father who sexually abuse their own children--are masters at fooling their victims into believing that they were at fault. My perpetrator has convinced himself, that although he had sex with me when I was in elementary school--that this was my fault. I initiated it. I was a bad child. He did nothing wrong. He does not define what happened as "sexual abuse." He seems me as a willing accomplice. Many victims remain silent, because the perpetrators have shamed them into believing these bizarre and false denial systems. Putting the perp under the microscope, puts the blame where it belongs. We were innocent children, no matter how distorted the perp's thinking is. Now, if only the perpetrators would read up on their pathology. It's hard to suffer to so much, as a result of the abuse--knowing that the perpetrator sleeps soundly at night, not giving one wit about the wake of destruction they've left behind.
3 months ago
Both my husbands and sons suffered the affects of living with an incest survivor. After I forcefully complained by the age of 12, when I finally had words, I was beaten by both parents for years. I didn't act out the anger, I ran away, depressed and abused alcohol. I was always the "sick" one. My mother minimized, denied, and said I ought to get my act together and quit blaming. When I had granddaughters, the fear for them being around my father forced me to open up. My sons quit visiting them. Even after confrontation, and trusting that finally mother understood the damage she continually exposed me to, I discovered they were still denying, telling my family I had "problems" and was a liar. And my father continually made sexual remarks to me as a grown woman about my body, patting my behind etc.. This is a deal breaker. I am now 11 years sober, they are in their 80's and ill, and I'm going to confront again and tell them I can't be around them. To me, they are both abusers. They'll have to deal with their old age alone. I'm not responsible for the choices they made, and I'm not responsible for their misery now. I had the misfortune to be born to a couple of nuts, now I am FREE!
4 months ago
good info. i am an incest survivor and came to this site as research for a book i am currently writing. as part of my healing, it is my goal to open the eyes of the abusers and help them to empathize with feelings of the victim. victims have questions and the abusers have the answers. It is about time that they start coming forth with those answers.
11 months ago
Interesting. I never looked into the profiles of the abusers before. I was molested by my father, seems he was a adolescent regressive, emotionally dependent type. I'm glad I avoided the victim-to abuser cycle, probably several of the reasons listed. Some intervention helped I suppose. Although I still suffer with depression 30 years after the fact. I figured he was sick in the head, he eventually got alzheimers. Anyway, I needed the info for a school project, I'm finally getting a degree. Better late than never huh? Good luck to all