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Children of Alcoholics - Family Dynamics And Developmental Influences

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There is no doubt that living in the presence of an alcoholic parent yields negative impacts (Christensen and Bilenberg 2000; Crespi 1990; Steinglass 1987). Parental alcoholism can instill a legacy which affects the development of both individual family members and patterns carried forward from one generation to the next (Rosellini and Worden 1985; Seixas and Youcha 1985). Still, what are the specific developmental implications of living within a family stained by alcoholism?

Developmental implications of an alcohol-focused family. Much of what is known about the developmental implications of growing up within an alcohol-focused family system (i.e., a family adjusting and reacting to an alcoholic parent) comes from research comparing children (and adult children) of alcoholic parents to the children of nonalcoholic parents. The research conclusively indicates that children from alcoholic family systems are more prone to develop life-long psychological and/or behavioral problems than children from nonalcohol-focused family systems (e.g., Black 1981; Crespi 1985, 1990; Jacob et al. 1999; Woititz 1985, 1983). Thus, children of alcoholics are often thought to be casualties of parental drinking, with such generalized problems as impaired school performance, low self-esteem, role confusion, impulsiveness, and depression. In addition, partially as a product of the behavioral consequences associated with living within a dysfunctional alcoholic system, children of alcoholics are at-risk for abuse, eating disorders, conduct disorders, alcoholism, communication problems, relational deficits, and problems with intimacy (Whipple, Fitzgerald, and Zucker 1995; Chassin, Rogosch, and Barrera 1991; Jacob, Krahn, and Leonard 1991; West and Prinz 1987). Moreover, families of alcoholics tend to be less organized, less cohesive, and marked by increased levels of conflict than nonalcoholic families.

The developmental problems resulting from growing up in an alcohol-focused family system are further supported by the longitudinal research on COAs. In a 33-year study of children of alcoholics, for instance, Robert E. Drake and George E. Vaillant (1988) noted that sons of alcoholic fathers were less competent in such tasks as schooling and interpersonal relationships, were more likely to be delinquent, and were more likely to become alcohol dependent than sons of nonalcoholics.

In spite of the fact that much of the extant research has used relatively small comparative samples, the widespread problems associated with familial alcoholism cannot be discounted. Thus, Janet G. Woititz (1983) identifies thirteen long-term after-effects of alcoholic parenting:

  1. Adult children of alcoholics guess at what normal behavior is.
  2. Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty following a project through from beginning to end.
  3. Adult children of alcoholics lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.
  4. Adult children of alcoholics judge themselves without mercy.
  5. Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty having fun.
  6. Adult children of alcoholics take themselves very seriously.
  7. Adult children of alcoholics have difficulty with intimate relationships.
  8. Adult children of alcoholics overreact to changes over which they have no control.
  9. Adult children of alcoholics constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  10. Adult children of alcoholics usually feel that they are different from other people.
  11. Adult children of alcoholics are super-responsible or super-irresponsible.
  12. Adult children of alcoholics are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that their loyalty is undeserved.
  13. Adult children of alcoholics are impulsive. They tend to lock themselves into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternative behaviors or possible consequences. This impulsivity leads to confusion, self-loathing, and loss of control over their environment. In addition, they spend an excessive amount of energy cleaning up the mess.

Family dynamics within the alcohol-focused family system. As noted above, the alcohol-focused family system is associated with developmental problems. Although common sense would suggest that parental alcoholism would not be a positive influence, and whereas all children are not impacted equally, there is striking evidence that COAs have felt that their families were not "real" families and that the family environment was adversely impacted by an alcoholic parent (Wilson and Orford 1978). In addition, the research makes it clear that children within alcohol-focused systems often occupy roles that limit their autonomy, flexibility, and overall adjustment.

Building a conceptual framework, Edward M. Scott (1970) identified an assortment of roles often assumed by children of alcoholics. Each of Scott's identified roles reflects unresolved themes that hamper happiness and well-being. Those he categorizes as babes in the woods, for instance, retain many childlike and immature emotional reactions throughout adulthood. Likewise, Scott's bedroom adult reflects a person who finds adulthood through sexuality, while actually being hampered from psychological maturity and autonomy because of unresolved familial issues stemming from alcoholic influences. Elsewhere, Tony D. Crespi (1990), drawing on a detailed case analysis as a foundational framework, described the concept of tool children to illuminate a devastating categorization of roles in COAs, using the conceptualization of children as tools for parental needs. From sexual magnets used to gratify inappropriate adult needs to garbage children treated as so much discarded garbage, the model of tool children reflects the negative consequences which result when children are used in overly restrictive ways. Unfortunately, a tool that breaks when used inappropriately may be replaced; children cannot.

While different researchers use different terms for different roles, the concept of narrowly restricted behavioral roles is noteworthy for COAs. In effect, children in alcoholic families rarely learn the combinations of roles characteristic of healthy adult personalities and instead become locked into narrow roles based upon what they need to do to survive. Such roles (e.g., Wegschscheder-Cruse 1989) can include the enabler, the hero, the scapegoat, the lost child, or the mascot. As a result, COAs do not develop flexible behavioral ways of coping with stress and learn to focus on overly narrow ways. As the alcoholic becomes the focus of family adjustment, family members begin to act and react to alcoholic-induced and -effected behavior, rather than reacting in healthy unimpaired ways.

While this only partially captures the complex dynamics of an alcoholic family, it highlights how the developmental adjustment of adulthood is impacted by an alcoholic parent. While the effects of parental alcoholism can vary depending upon a child's developmental stage (Harter 2000), there is growing evidence that parental alcoholism impacts development across the lifespan. A sampling of developmental research conducted on COAs at different ages and stages of development reveals that pre-school and young children have demonstrated behavior problems, vulnerabilities to aggressive and delinquent behavior, and difficulties in such areas as academic achievement and cognitive functioning (Puttler et al. 1998); adolescents have demonstrated negative academic performances in English and math, as well as negative psychological and substance abuse outcomes (McGrath, Watson, and Chassin 1999; West and Prinz 1987); depression has been noted as elevated in college samples (Sher et al. 1991); and increased marital conflict, decreased family cohesion, and role distress has been reported in a middle-aged sample (Domenico and Windle 1993).

Ironically, in spite of individual efforts to separate and reject the family, the legacy of an alcoholic parent can assert influence and control over a wide array of life events, as well as a life course. COAs are at greater risk of possessing psychological and behavioral difficulties. H. Bygholm Christensen and Niels Bilenberg (2000) found that COAs had more than twice the risk as non-COAs for depression and social behavioral disorders and enhanced risk for alcoholism.


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over 5 years ago

Dear MissAnon ~

Wow! You really want us to think you are wonderful and without any flaws! Guess what? That desire to be perfect and control our perception of you is right on target for the adult child of an alcoholic. Look it up! Get in touch with your feelings of instead of trying so hard to be what you think successful and healthy looks like. If you were who you say you are you wouldn't be looking for answers here.

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almost 9 years ago

my husband had alcoholic parents and had a very dysfunctional life and we have been married for 25 years and out of the 25 he has been unfaithful for 22 years.I filed for divorce recently and he says he loves me and wants only me but at the same time he was dating but asking to come home he didn't know I knew and continued to lie and say he was doing nothing.Anyway, he is now going to counseling and in my oponion trying to get away with what he's doing by blaming his alcoholic parents and his screwed up childhood.I feel that once you become an adult you have the option of NOT doing things and taking responsibilty for your actions.Am I wrong about this?He destroyed our marriage and our lives.Our kids have no rescept for me because I continue to see him and I have no rescept for myself because he's treated me like crap and until now basically let him get away with it.I am so angry and would get alot of satisfaction out of physically hurting him.

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almost 6 years ago

i im 16 & pregnant. I have an alcoholic mother that choose her beer over me. when she is drunk she just passes out on the couch or starts yelling. All i want to do is cry because i don't understand why i deserve this life & im a good person but i just have no where to turn no more and i really dont know what to do because i dont want to be living here when i have my daughter because i dont want her having this in her life i want so much better for her. I love my mom but she just wont get help.

any advice????

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almost 8 years ago

Once again, we see the huge gap between credible scientific research and the popular literature. The works of Woititz, Black, and Wegsheider represent popular literature. It would be helpful to look at more credible sources using samples other than self-selected ones. The COA article by NIAAA and Orford's more recent books are worth taking a look at. No doubt growing up in a chaotic environment has a negative impact but to oversimplify and generalize is grossly inaccurate. I hope that the day will soon come that we lose the "one size fits all model" and embrace the reality that there are a large number of "programs" that one can "get with" in order to improve their lot and their lives.

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almost 9 years ago

hmmm Stained perhaps, but there are some positive effects in my case. I see the stains and deterred from any further and needless destruction. I learned so much from my parents, that I am able to employ now helping others as I continue to help myself. Please mention there are some of us out here that have turned the negative abuse into positive education, and empathic understanding. The hurt and abusive memories will always be there, that will not change, but I choose to use my understanding to help other children learn to cope.

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about 9 years ago

I feel less stained and more dyed but the premise is a good one. Generations of abuse exist in every branch of my family tree and I did not get out intact. I abused drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, food, and sex. I've been working with a therapist for 7 years now and have been sober for 6. My children are working with their own therapists to counter the dysfunctional legacy that their father and I brought to their lives. I am hopeful that they will be the generation that can reach adulthood with appropriate coping skills.

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over 5 years ago

There are real problems between the popular view of `adult children` and reality. The AA model which is quasi religious and treats the alcoholic as the same as the partner and children is in my opinion dangerous. The alcoholic family dynamics are very complex and change depending on where you are situated within the family and which adult was the alcoholic. I don`t appreciate the set of ideas about who we are as adult children. To me it is dangerous to generalise. It is more important to an adult child - a term which is in itself questionable - to be treated as an individual. For those looking for answers there is less `popular` but more authentic research in journals and on the web if you google `family dynamics of alcoholics`. Generalisations lead to labelling which is not helpful.

I do believe that any family with a member who is an alcoholic in treatment should be forced by law to have family therapy on a long term basis for the sake of the children to prevent abuse.

I sympathise with the first response from autumn2.

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over 9 years ago

I think stained is a correct way to describe the situation. I too am a child of alcholism and can safely say it has stained my life. I am the person I am because of alcoholism. However, I do not fall under the category of many of the above descriptions. I think it is important to study the various types of alcoholics to correctly define the outcome or assumed outcome of the child. I am writing my thesis on this topic, please e-mail me if you'd like to give testimony or further discuss.

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over 9 years ago

Stained is certainly a word that makes sense to me. Now a 45 year old (eldest child of an alcoholic family) now with a my own family of two little girls (who are diagnosed with CF) and the fact that I recently lost my mother to drug abuse (albiet prescribe drugs due to self prescribed ADD), the crap has resurfaced. Somewhere in between a fairness issue and that life can be messy, I have recently taken to see a therapist to reslolve long time anger. issues. Interestingly, he has suggested the possibility of revisiting AA or Alanon again. I read the behaviors above and realized how much of that behavior is true.



That I am responding to your posts without much thought behind the words is interesting in itself.



Maybe this will go somewhere.



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over 5 years ago

intersteing

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over 5 years ago

I am an adult child of an alcoholic and I dont agree at all with the above view.

Just to give a short description of my experience.. My mother is an alcoholic and i am the oldest of five. Her and my father had a very dysfunctional relationship for as long as i can remember. Me and my three brothers and sister suffered a lot. My mothers sadness and depression lead her to alcoholism. To cut a very long and painful story short she failed two rehabs and i now feel that she is coming close to the end of her journey, she is drinking herself to death..and i have absolutly no control over it.



I am currently in my final year in uni, have a management position job, have lots of friends and am generally a pleasant and happy person to be around. I do not portray any characteristics that differ from my friends just because my mother is an alcoholic.

I feel that i posess a higher level of maturity than a lot of my friends and they always look to me for sensible advice. I do not talk about my situation very often unless someone asks, it is horrifing for people and they dont know what to say..thats fair enough, i totally understand!

In a way, the above article and similar articles i have read scare me. Why do I not possees the behaviours of a 'normal' aldult alcoholic child? Is this something that will affect me a few years down the line? Am i going to become an alcoholic? will i marry one? Sends shivers down my spine! There are hundreds of articals online that express similar views to the above..and it seems to be scientific fact that if you are an adult child of an alcoholic you are damaged!

I have never received councelling for what i have gone through, and still am going through and i feel fine about it. I have accepted that my mother has a serious illness. In my eyes its like she has cancer. Do adult children of cancer patients suffer any abnormalities? I am happy with my self, have high self esteem and am living my life :)

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over 9 years ago

"Still, what are the specific developmental implications of living within a family stained by alcoholism?"



I am an adult child of an alcoholic. I find the use of the word "stained", as used in the article, very offensive and unecessarily hurtful. Might it have been just as easy, and less biased, for you to say something like, "...living within a family 'affected' by alcoholism"?

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4 days ago

I never believed in spell casting, but After 6 years of dating, I still imagine how Dr Aza brought my ex lover back to me in just 24 hour. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster that really work. am sandra by name,I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real on line spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Aza, He helped me recently to reunite my relationship when my ex lover who left me, When i contacted Dr Aza he cast a love spell for me and my ex lover who said he doesn't have anything to do with me again, he called me and started begging me. he is back now with so much love and caring. today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the powers of bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my lover,and the most surprise,is that our love is very strong,every day is happiness and joy. and there is nothing like been with the man you love.i am so happy my love is back to me with the help of Dr.Aza if you have similar problem i will advice you to contact him ,he is there to help you and put a smile on your face. his email: azaspellcaster@gmail.com or you can whats App his line:+2348107155060

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15 days ago

'After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that don't believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I meant a spell caster called Dr Zuma zuk and I email him, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email: spiritualherbalisthealing@gmail.com or call him +2349055637784 you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything. CONTACT HIM NOW FOR SOLUTION TO ALL YOUR PROBLEMS'

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15 days ago

Hello viewer's , i want to share with you of a great spell caster who help me cast a spell on my ex boy friend who used me and dumped me for my girl friend, so when i met this great spell caster called Dr Aza, i explain what i was passing through. So he gave me instruction to follow, which i did, after three day's when the spell was cast, my ex boy friend called and started apologizing to me and said he want me back.You can also contact him if you have any problem via email azaspellcaster@gmail.com you can call him or what,s App his number:+2348107155060, to help you with your problems.

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19 days ago

I am nat by natasha. Greetings to every one that is reading this testimony. I have been rejected by my husband after three(3) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kid to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster Dr Ajaguna, have help a woman to get back her husband and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 2 days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband. Thanks for Dr.Ajaguna .His email: ajaguna7demons@gmail.com


Whatsapp: +2348115187453
Email: Ajaguna7demons@gmail.com
Website: http://ajaguna7demons-com.webs.com

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19 days ago

Advanced Death Spell on Ex Husband In The World

However we have no problem in ridding you of your foe or foes in a very rapid manner.....with our time proven highly advanced death magick enchantments. This type of specialized magick is termed as "Death Spell on Ex Husband." These types of spells rapidly and permanently rid you of your foe or foes by death working in your enemy's natural environment.

Are you more comfortable staying in the realm of Voodoo? If so, there's no problem with this - as we are voodoo specialist's, and excel in the area of Ancient Death Spell on Enemy . The great thing about our spells is that karmic pay back doesn't exist as all of our spells are written up in the ways of Peace, Love, and Justice.

We are masters of this particular and highly advanced Death Spell on Ex Husband that has been passed down to us by our families of sorcerors and sorceress from as early as the 13th and 14th centuries. This art includes hand crafted "Life And Breath Dolls." The Hand Drafting of the Target's very own specifically designed Astrological spell offering plate,

Our Death Spell Curses quickly manifest in many diverse ways in the target's natural environment specifically for the purpose of ridding the client very rapidly and permanently of the enemy foe. Ridding yourself of an enemy via magically, is quick and highly effective as it fully unfolds through the natural circumstances of the enemy Target.

Spells for the fine Magickal art of Death Curse Magick Spells are normally what is referred to as "Blood "Spells; as blood is the main currency used to appease the Angelic Host of WAR, LOSS, TORMENT, ACCIDENTS, ETC. and much more adversity than one can imagine, that would be carrying out the client's wishes in regards to, say for instance, removing the other man or woman from a marriage or other type of relationship, or whatever the case may be.

In fact these types of spells maximize the punishment to the ENEMY FOE to match the punishment for the offenses that the ENEMY has inflicted upon the client in the manner of not only radically severing the ENEMY FOE from the client's life by a QUICK DEATH, but giving the client all the elements of a highly specialized designed state of the magical art " Ultimate Divine Retribution" upon the ENEMY FOE in every way that is specifically requested by the client.

A dark death curse of this nature depending on the circumstances involved in the individual situation may also be combined with a marriage curse or to utterly RUIN the life of the enemy foe completely that might be looking to undo a marriage situation. Our black magic Death Curses are REAL SPELLS that are fast acting and waste no time for the client in getting the job done.On the other hand, perhaps your'e not looking to cast a curse but needing to have a death curse removed.

To remove a Death Curse from a divorce or marriage situation would be a good thing for all concerned. We cast top of the line spells protecting against death, divorce, and other curses. If you believe that someone has sent you a curse spell to cause you to greatly suffer, then you better not play around with this, as it will achieve it's ultimate goal of sudden magical manifestation if given the time to do so.

These types of spell enchantments are stealthy and manifest very rapidly. If caught in time, the damage caused can be reversed. If a person is slow to get immediate help their situation, it will only grow more dire as time goes on. All that's needed is the Target's name and a hand written letter of request to Divinity sent to us. If you do possess imprints of the intended Target, then all the better. Most of the time a picture and a name will do.Do you feel someone may have cast a Death Spell On You?

The Signs Of A Death Curse:
(1)- Loss of appetite.
(2)- Loss of sleep.
(3)- Numerous Nightmares.
(4)- Loss of friends for no reason
.(5)- Constant Love & Relationship problems.
(6)- Frequent Illnesses for no apparent reason.
(7)- Non-diagnosable medical problems.
(8)- Aggression coming from Strangers. Friends and Family.
(9)- Endeavors never seem to work out to the positive.
10)- The lack of or very poor finances.
(11)- Seeing & Hearing things others don't.
(12)- Thoughts of Suicide for no apparent reason.
(13)- Frequency of accidents and or freak accidents.
(14)- The continual and over whelming feeling of Dread or Dispair.
(15)- The Quick Termination of Relationships.

Whatsapp: +2348115187453
Email: Ajaguna7demons@gmail.com
Website: http://ajaguna7demons-com.webs.com

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24 days ago

My name is gologo madar, and I am very happy for posting on this blog
on how a great spell caster helped me in bringing back the love of my life.
I know there are lots of women like me out there who have done so much to
bring back their Husband, I am here to tell you all to search no further
because his right here. I sincerely believe if there are up to five
like DOCTOR OWOLABI this world would be a better place, I have seen people
complaining on how fake spell castes promised to help them but couldn't but
with DOCTOR OWOLABI I tell you your problem is solved already. My Husband and
I had been apart for 3 YEARS and I couldn't bear without living without him,
I have tried everything to have him back but nothing was working until I saw
numerous testimonies about a spell caster call DRCTOR OWOLABI and how great
his work is. I contacted him via email drowolabisolutionhome@gmail.com immediately
and follow the step that he ask and in the next 48 hours my ex lover called me
and was eager for my forgiveness and that he wished nothing more than to have
me in his arms forever. I filled so much joy and happiness that I found DOCTOR
OWOLABI, I hope you all here will find this testimony of mine and get your husband
back in just 48 hours. DOCTOR OWOLABI contact is drowolabisolutionhome@gmail.com or you
can call him on +23408124209863 or+16828086703 you are the next to share your testimony to every one.

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28 days ago

I appreciate the wonderful work done by Dr Fara for bringing my husband back to me, for almost 1years now my husband left me and never return again, i cried profusely every night because i was always lonely, i even paid visit to his parent to plead with them to help me beg him to return home. she was lust after one notorious girl, i don't know what he sees in that girl that he doesn't sees in me, i was down folded but everything was back to base when i came in contact with the great Dr Fara who helped me to bring back my husband in just 48hours after casting a love spell for me, my husband that never picked my call, started calling me unmentionable and unstoppable, today we are happy to be back together with my husband. contact him today and witness the same miracle from him on his email: drfaraspelltemple@gmail.com or call him through his mobile number: +2348054265852..

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10 months ago


TRADITIONAL HERBALIST HEALER AND FORTUNE TELLER +2348067268474 FOR ASTROLOGER HERBALIST,SPIRITUAL,LOVE SPECIALIST AND FORTUNE TELLER CALL DR Ajaguna,
DR Ajaguna is specialized in treating diseases and solving people’s problems as mentioned below.
*Read And Tell All Your Problems Before You Mention Them To Him
*Bring Back Lost Lovers, Even If Lost For A long Time In 3Days
*Remove Bad Spells From Homes, Business Etc
*Ensure That Promotion You Have Desired For Along Time At Work Permanently, It Stimulates Growth Of Tissues And Muscles Thus Increasing The Size.
*Guarantee You To Win That Troubling Court Cases, No Matter What Stage
*Ensure Success As You Get Rich Quickly
*Eliminate Family Fights Between Children And Parents, In Laws, Husband, Wife And Ensure Peace And Harmony In Home.
*Recover Stolen Properties To Your Business And Trace Where About People That Hate You.
*Attract Customers to Your Business & Trust Your Trade into A favorite.
*Swollen Body, Pain Of The Joints And Bones.
*Extreme Protection For Those Who Are Doing Dangerous Jobs Like Security Guards, Bank Managers, Cash Transporters Etc.
*Guarantee That Your Loved $ Trusted By Your Challenges, Husband, Wife, In-laws, Friends Etc.
*Quit Alcohol, Smoking, Drugs, Using Purely Herbal Therapies With No Side Effects. *Do You Have Body And Vaginal Pains, Bad Periods, Lots Of Fat All Stomach Pains, Problems Homes/Work/Kids, And So Many Others QUICK BOASTING CHARMS FOR MEN:
*To Enlarge Your Penis To The Size You Want In (3Days) Quickly
*Attract Charms For Ladies To Love You. OTHER PROBLEMS
*Are You Fired & You Want Your Job Back?
*Unfinished Jobs From Other Herbalists
*I Promise To Solve & Finish Whichever Problems That Other Herbalists Failed.
*Do You Have Body Pains That Medical Doctors Have Failed?
*We Also Offer Special Prayers Like Duah To All Religions. And so many more So If You Have Any Problem Or Disease Bothering You In Life Stop Crying In Silent The Solution For That Is Here Call DRajaguna Email: lovespellcasters@yahoo.co.za
Email; lovespellcasters@yahoo.co.za
MOBILE +2348067268474
Website http://revengespellcasters.co.za

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10 months ago

TRADITIONAL HERBALIST HEALER AND FORTUNE TELLER +2348067268474 FOR ASTROLOGER HERBALIST,SPIRITUAL,LOVE SPECIALIST AND FORTUNE TELLER CALL DR Ajaguna,
DR Ajaguna is specialized in treating diseases and solving people’s problems as mentioned below.
*Read And Tell All Your Problems Before You Mention Them To Him
*Bring Back Lost Lovers, Even If Lost For A long Time In 3Days
*Remove Bad Spells From Homes, Business Etc
*Ensure That Promotion You Have Desired For Along Time At Work Permanently, It Stimulates Growth Of Tissues And Muscles Thus Increasing The Size.
*Guarantee You To Win That Troubling Court Cases, No Matter What Stage
*Ensure Success As You Get Rich Quickly
*Eliminate Family Fights Between Children And Parents, In Laws, Husband, Wife And Ensure Peace And Harmony In Home.
*Recover Stolen Properties To Your Business And Trace Where About People That Hate You.
*Attract Customers to Your Business & Trust Your Trade into A favorite.
*Swollen Body, Pain Of The Joints And Bones.
*Extreme Protection For Those Who Are Doing Dangerous Jobs Like Security Guards, Bank Managers, Cash Transporters Etc.
*Guarantee That Your Loved $ Trusted By Your Challenges, Husband, Wife, In-laws, Friends Etc.
*Quit Alcohol, Smoking, Drugs, Using Purely Herbal Therapies With No Side Effects. *Do You Have Body And Vaginal Pains, Bad Periods, Lots Of Fat All Stomach Pains, Problems Homes/Work/Kids, And So Many Others QUICK BOASTING CHARMS FOR MEN:
*To Enlarge Your Penis To The Size You Want In (3Days) Quickly
*Attract Charms For Ladies To Love You. OTHER PROBLEMS
*Are You Fired & You Want Your Job Back?
*Unfinished Jobs From Other Herbalists
*I Promise To Solve & Finish Whichever Problems That Other Herbalists Failed.
*Do You Have Body Pains That Medical Doctors Have Failed?
*We Also Offer Special Prayers Like Duah To All Religions. And so many more So If You Have Any Problem Or Disease Bothering You In Life Stop Crying In Silent The Solution For That Is Here Call DRajaguna Email: lovespellcasters@yahoo.co.za
Email; lovespellcasters@yahoo.co.za
MOBILE +2348067268474
Website http://revengespellcasters.co.za

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10 months ago

My dear reader, you have to read this.
Dr Saloba doesn’t ask for testimonies and he doesn’t charge. He is genuine and people get to meet him by luck. But right now am your luck if you could meet him. Every other testimonies you read here are scams...... Dr Saloba is a trusted and I happened to meet him by chance after a friend told me about him. I followed these internet testimonies and was hugely scammed to the extent that I wanted to kill myself. Dr Saloba turned my situation around by bringing back my ex boyfriend back to me and made me regain double of what I lost over to these scams. He made my ex boyfriend come crawling to have her back again. All I spent was $200 and at last gained back all my lost money and even double of it. His email address is : Salobaspiritualtemple@gmail.com OR call his cell phone number on +2349036493771 but please don’t make him know that I published him on net. He is just wonderful and I wish whoever that finds him good luck. Don’t forget his email address is Salobaspiritualtemple@gmail.com
Yours truly
Patrica Edmond

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10 months ago

My dear reader, you have to read this.
Dr Saloba doesn’t ask for testimonies and he doesn’t charge. He is genuine and people get to meet him by luck. But right now am your luck if you could meet him. Every other testimonies you read here are scams...... Dr Saloba is a trusted and I happened to meet him by chance after a friend told me about him. I followed these internet testimonies and was hugely scammed to the extent that I wanted to kill myself. Dr Saloba turned my situation around by bringing back my ex boyfriend back to me and made me regain double of what I lost over to these scams. He made my ex boyfriend come crawling to have her back again. All I spent was $200 and at last gained back all my lost money and even double of it. His email address is : Salobaspiritualtemple@gmail.com OR call his cell phone number on +2349036493771 but please don’t make him know that I published him on net. He is just wonderful and I wish whoever that finds him good luck. Don’t forget his email address is Salobaspiritualtemple@gmail.com
Yours truly
Patrica Edmond

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11 months ago

i am DR EHOHO, i am here to give solution to your problems, Are you looking for spell caster that can bring back your ex? Do you wish to be promoted in your office? Do you need a divorce in your marriage? Do you want to get rich, Do you want every body to obey your words, are you looking for protection or you want to win that court case that is disturbing your mind? do you want your husband or wife to be tie forever with you? Do you need herbal care or you want men and women to run after you? Do you want cure any kind of diseases? what kind of help you need from me? contact me today and your problems would be solve. contact me on: drehohotemple@gmail.com or Cell number 08128037847.

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12 months ago

BE CAREFUL HERE NOBODY CAN HELP YOU HERE OR EVEN SUGGEST HOW YOU CAN GET YOUR EX OR LOVE BACK,ANY TESTIMONIES OF MOST SPELL CASTER HERE MUST BE IGNORE.BECAUSE MOST OF THEM ARE SCAM I MEAN REAL SCAM WHICH I WAS A VICTIM AND I GOT RIPPED OF THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS BECAUSE I WAS SO ANXIOUS TO GET MY WIFE BACK AFTER SHE LEFT ME FOR OVER 2 YEARS WITH MY 7 YEARS OLD SON JERRY,I HAVE APPLIED TO 7 DIFFERENT SPELL CASTER HERE AND ALL TO NO AVAIL THEY ALL ASK FOR SAME THING SEND YOUR NAME YOUR EX NAME ADDRESS AND PICTURE PHONE NUMBER ETC WHICH I DID OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND MOST OF THEM WERE FROM WEST AFRICA UNTIL I SAW A POST ABOUT MAMA ANITA SPELL AND I DECIDED TO GAVE HER MY LAST TRAIL.SHE ASK ME FOUR THINGS MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND $380 AND SAID MY EX WILL COME BACK IN 24HOURS, I HAVE PAID OVER $3000 ON SPELL CASTING AND COURIER AND NOTHING HAVE WORK FOR ME AFTER 3 DAYS I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I HAVE LOST SO FAR SO I SAID LET ME GIVE HER A TRY SO I CALLED HER AGAIN AND SEND MY REAL NAME,MY EX AND MY EX MOTHER NAME AND THE $380 BECAUSE I SWEAR IT WAS MY LAST TRY SO I WAS WAITING AS SHE TOLD ME TO WAIT TILL NEXT DAY AND I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT BECAUSE I REALLY LOVE MY WIFE AND WANT HER BACK AT 9PMTHAT DAY I SAW MY WIFE ON LINE ON FACE BOOK AND SHE SAID HI AT FIRST I WAS SHOCK BECAUSE SHE NEVER TALK WITH ME FOR THE PAST A YEAR AND 9 MONTH NOW I DID NOT REPLY AGAIN SHE SAID ARE YOU THERE? I QUICKLY REPLY YES AND SHE SAID CAN WE SEE TOMORROW I SAID YES AND SHE WENT OFF-LINE I WAS CONFUSED I TRY TO CHAT HER AGAIN BUT SHE WAS NO MORE ON LINE I COULD NOT SLEEP THAT NIGHT AS I WAS WONDERING WHAT SHE IS GOING TO SAY, BY 7.AM THE NEXT MORNING SHE GAVE ME A MISS CALL I DECIDED NOT TO CALL BACK AS I WAS STILL ON SHOCK AGAIN SHE CALL AND I PICK SHE SAID CAN WE SEE AFTER WORK TODAY I SAID YES SO SHE END THE CALL IMMEDIATELY I GOT OFF WORK SHE CALL ME AND WE MEET AND NOW WE ARE BACK AGAIN I CALL MAMA ANITA THE NEXT DAY THANKING HER FOR WHAT SHE HAS DONE IN FACT I STILL CALL HER AND THANK HER AS MY LIFE WAS NOT COMPLETE WITHOUT MY WIFE PLEASE BE CAREFUL HERE I HAVE BEEN SCAM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS IF YOU WANT A TRUE LOVE SPELL THEN CONTACT MAMA ANITA (mamaanita.lovespellsolution@gmail.com) or mama.anitaspellcraft@hotmail.com website http://kelvinlargemyself.wix.com/anita

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12 months ago

HOW I WAS SAVED FROM A COLLAPSING RELATIONSHIP BY DR ERIVAN DEB THE GREAT SPELL CASTER

My Name is Alisha ken from USA, I want to say thank you to Dr Erivan Deb for the good thing he has done for me,Though am not sure if this is the best forum to show my joy and happiness for what he has done for me but i can't hide my happiness and my Joy so i have to share it with people, my marriage got crashed about two years ago and i tried all i could within my power but to no avail. i saw post and testimonial about the good things Dr Erivan Deb has been doing so i decided to give it a try. though he is always a busy man but when he responded back to my email, he gave me 48 hours for my marriage to be restored really just like he said my marriage was restored since then I am happy and i am living happily i am so grateful to Dr Erivan Deb you can always email him here: {erivanspellhome@yahoo.com} or http://erivanspellhome.bravesites.com/ or call his cell phone +2348187568820....

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about 1 year ago


Testimony on a spell caster who brought my wife back to me. My name is Randy Mark,i live in Italy,and I'm happily married to a lovely and caring wife,with three kids.A very big problem occurred in my family five months ago,between me and my wife.so terrible that she took the case to court for a divorce.she said that she never wanted to stay with me again that she didn't love me anymore. she packed out of my house and made me and my children passed through several pains. I tried all my possible best to get her back, after much begging, and she confirmed it that she has made her decision never to see me again. one evening,i met a friend who asked of my wife. i explained every thing to him, he told me the only way i can get my wife back is to visit a spell caster because it has really worked for him too. i never believed in spell but i had no option than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited.{drehohotemple@gmail.com} the next morning i sent a mail to the address and the spell caster assured me that i will get my wife back in three days.What an amazing statement!! I never believed, he spoke with me and told me all i need to do which i did. on the second morning, surprisingly my wife who didn't call me for the past five months gave me a call to inform me she is coming back that was how she came back same day with lots of love and joy and she apologized for her mistakes pains she caused me and my children. Then from that day our relationship is now stronger than ever before,by the help of a spell caster.i will advice you out there to kindly visit the same website {drehohotemple@gmail.com},if you are in any condition like this,or you have any problem related to "bringing your ex back or getting promotion in your office,talk and obey or having any kind of sickness such as cancer, HIV AIDS, or any kind of deases Contact him today on this Email: drehohotemple@gmail.com or cell number +2348128037847

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about 1 year ago

Greetingns from Success Miracle Grace, I am from Ireland, I am here to share a testimony about the great woman called Dr sandra, who help me to bring my wife back to me wih the help of her powerful spells. My wife left me with no reason for another man, i do all i can to get her back, but nothing was working out, until I met this powerful spell doctor, I explained everything to her and she promised me that My wife is going to come back to me, I said Ok he demanded for money to buy some materials to cast the spell which I send to her, after two days she get back to me telling me everything is Ok, that I have to receive a parcel, she send me down the parcel and I received it after three days, I met a letter in it, I used the parcel for one week only and the next week my ex calls me and ask for forgiveness and i accepted her back and she promise never to leave me anymore and promised to stay with me and love me only forever. I just want to say thanks to DR SANDRA for her kindful work which she had done for me. Readers out there if you are passing through same problem I will advise you to contact DR sandra via her email address SANDRASOLUTIONHOME@OUTLOOK.COM and also visit her websites here with the Link below http://sandrasolutionhome.webs.com

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about 1 year ago

Greetingns from Success Miracle Grace, I am from Ireland, I am here to share a testimony about the great woman called Dr sandra, who help me to bring my wife back to me wih the help of her powerful spells. My wife left me with no reason for another man, i do all i can to get her back, but nothing was working out, until I met this powerful spell doctor, I explained everything to her and she promised me that My wife is going to come back to me, I said Ok he demanded for money to buy some materials to cast the spell which I send to her, after two days she get back to me telling me everything is Ok, that I have to receive a parcel, she send me down the parcel and I received it after three days, I met a letter in it, I used the parcel for one week only and the next week my ex calls me and ask for forgiveness and i accepted her back and she promise never to leave me anymore and promised to stay with me and love me only forever. I just want to say thanks to DR SANDRA for her kindful work which she had done for me. Readers out there if you are passing through same problem I will advise you to contact DR sandra via her email address SANDRASOLUTIONHOME@OUTLOOK.COM and also visit her websites here with the Link below http://sandrasolutionhome.webs.com

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over 1 year ago

My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won't give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn't going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231)

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over 1 year ago

My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won't give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn't going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231)

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over 1 year ago

My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won't give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn't going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231)

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over 1 year ago

My name is Taylor Borg,All thanks goes to Dr.Trust for saving my marriage from toning apart.i feel so grateful and only have good words about a powerful spell caster named Dr.Trust who helped me bring back my wife. We had been apart for 4 months, at first I was thinking if I was doing the right thing by contacting a spell caster, but I so much love my wife and won't give her up for anything in this world. I decided to contact Dr.Trust through his mail address I found on several testifiers messages online,and I told him about my situation, he laughed and told me my wife will be back to me in the next 48 hours. I felt it wasn't going to happen at first until my wife called me and was so eager to have me back more than anything on earth.. Now we are together and she cant do without me,and both of us are happy. I feel so happy sharing this testimony because there was no negative act attached to his work. His work was smooth and fast. Thanks to Dr.Trust for bringing back happiness to my life. I swear with my life that Dr.Trust is a man to trust and take your problems to. You can contact him on his e-mail if you really truly want your love back. dr.(ULTIMATESPELLCAST@GMAIL.COM OR ULTIMATESPELLCAST@YAHOO.COM TEL: +2348156885231)

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over 1 year ago

Am helen from united state i just want to say a big thank you to PAPA Dr.Olawole for what he has done for me,he brought back the man i loved and cherish with all my heart, A man who left me for another woman for good 3 years,with 2 kids,i just decided to check some spell caster's but all kept deceiving me,until i met Dr Olawole, i was going online when i saw an article that people shared about this great man Dr. Olawole he told me not to worried about, everything will be over . he ask me what to do and i quickly made a provission for it i never let money to be my problem because my husband is very important to me and i love him so much until he told me that my husband will be back in 3 days time,am so greatful today that my husband is back to me and we are happy and he always wanna be by my side,i will advice you people not to fall in the wrong hands but to contact Dr.Olawole who is trustworthy and straight forward,you can contact him via email Ugbeninspellsolutiontemple@gmail.com i will not stop sharing his because he saved my marriage. ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL: UGBENINSPELLSOLUTIONTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM
IF YOU ALSO NEED SOLUTION IN THE FOLLOWING PROBLEM,CONTACT HIM AS WELL.
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance

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over 1 year ago

Am helen from united state i just want to say a big thank you to PAPA Dr.Olawole for what he has done for me,he brought back the man i loved and cherish with all my heart, A man who left me for another woman for good 3 years,with 2 kids,i just decided to check some spell caster's but all kept deceiving me,until i met Dr Olawole, i was going online when i saw an article that people shared about this great man Dr. Olawole he told me not to worried about, everything will be over . he ask me what to do and i quickly made a provission for it i never let money to be my problem because my husband is very important to me and i love him so much until he told me that my husband will be back in 3 days time,am so greatful today that my husband is back to me and we are happy and he always wanna be by my side,i will advice you people not to fall in the wrong hands but to contact Dr.Olawole who is trustworthy and straight forward,you can contact him via email Ugbeninspellsolutiontemple@gmail.com i will not stop sharing his because he saved my marriage. ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL: UGBENINSPELLSOLUTIONTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM
IF YOU ALSO NEED SOLUTION IN THE FOLLOWING PROBLEM,CONTACT HIM AS WELL.
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance

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over 1 year ago

Am helen from united state i just want to say a big thank you to PAPA Dr.Olawole for what he has done for me,he brought back the man i loved and cherish with all my heart, A man who left me for another woman for good 3 years,with 2 kids,i just decided to check some spell caster's but all kept deceiving me,until i met Dr Olawole, i was going online when i saw an article that people shared about this great man Dr. Olawole he told me not to worried about, everything will be over . he ask me what to do and i quickly made a provission for it i never let money to be my problem because my husband is very important to me and i love him so much until he told me that my husband will be back in 3 days time,am so greatful today that my husband is back to me and we are happy and he always wanna be by my side,i will advice you people not to fall in the wrong hands but to contact Dr.Olawole who is trustworthy and straight forward,you can contact him via email Ugbeninspellsolutiontemple@gmail.com i will not stop sharing his because he saved my marriage. ONCE AGAIN HIS EMAIL: UGBENINSPELLSOLUTIONTEMPLE@GMAIL.COM
IF YOU ALSO NEED SOLUTION IN THE FOLLOWING PROBLEM,CONTACT HIM AS WELL.
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance

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over 1 year ago

If i don’t share my testimony then i will be an ingrate
Dr Abbey the great brought back joy and happines into my life by bringing back my marriage of 10 years with my husband with just a come and go reunion spell.
i was a sad woman before i met dr Abbey but it took him just 24 hrs to change everything now am happy again because my man is always with me with no issues or misunderstanding. sharing this testimony so other people who are suffering from relationship problem can know that there is still hope with people like dr.Abbey around.
pls contact him directly on dr.abbey31@gmail.com or +2349090331199

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over 1 year ago

What a great man, a great thanks to DR.KPELEDE the man that bring me out of this sorrow this is the man that can as well help the world, on this diseases I can remember 5 year ago when I was searching for cure, and how I have spent much money and I finally lost hope due to my conduction I have to put my hope on god, lucky to me last week here I was on the internet, check on how many year I can spent on earth them I see a comment about this great man DR.KPELEDE what a lucky day for me and today am giving my testimony about him I have never believe there is cure at all, but this man just want me to give him a try, if he cannot do it I will know his is not DR.KPELEDE that he have been doing this cure for more than many year now I put my hope on him and also my dear god but today am very happy to give this story to you all, it all happen when I was 23 year well because of this disease I can get married and very happy today am now negative I can get married now to my follow people that is on my shoes this the good way to say bye to this diseases HIV/AIDS contact this man now Dr.kpeledesolutiontemple@gmail.com..and i pray that he will help you also.All thanks to DR.KPELEDE, you can contact Him immediately on.kpeledesolutiontemple@gmail.com....

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almost 2 years ago

Today has being the most happiest day of my life after 1 year of sadness and sorrow without being with the one i love, i tried all my possible best to make sure i make my lover happy but it never seems to work out well it was like am doing everything in vain but all thanks to Dr.Azuka for coming to change all my worries and sadness to Joy. i knew the great man when i read some wonderful reviews about Dr.Azuka how he has helped a lots of people on there relationship problem i was reading a magazine which then i saw great testimonies as well which then i decided not to waste time.he told me not to worry that he assures me that within 48 hours everything would be sorted out i believed Dr.Azuka so much because i believe he can't fail me and i sent him all my details. Truly Dr.Azuka never failed me,my husband who left me for good a year come back to me. My husband and i have been living contentedly since this spell caster reunited us together with his love spells. Thank you so so so much Dr.Azuka for your powerful spells. expressions are not sufficient to say thank you. here is his email address Greatazukalovespell@gmail.com or greatazukalovespell@yahoo.com tell +2348071398555.or +2348100399287.

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almost 2 years ago


My Name is TRACY, I am From United Kingdom. I wish to
share my testimonies with the general public about
what this man called DR SAMBOLA has just done for me ,
this man has just brought back my lost Ex husband
to me with his great spell, I was married to this man
called Steven we were together for a long time and
we loved our self’s but when I was unable to give
him a child for 2 years he left me and told me he
can’t continue anymore then I was now looking for
ways to get him back until a friend of mine told me
about this man and gave his contact email greatsambolaspiritualtemple@gmail.com
then you wont believe
this, when I contacted this man on my problems he
prepared this spell cast and bring my lost husband
back, and after a month I miss my month and go for
a test and the result stated am pregnant am happy
today am a mother of a baby boy, thank you once
again DR SAMBOLA for what you have done for
me, if you are out there passing through any of this
problems listed below contact him today greatsambolaspiritualtemple@gmail.com
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance.
(9) if you want HIV CURE DR SAMBOLA CAN HELP YOU WITH THAT CURE.

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about 2 years ago


Hello i want to share my testimony on how i married for the pass 12yrs
without even conceiving a baby and i have done all the medical check
up and the doctors said am okay yet i was still unable to conceive
until one faith days i was on the internet doing some research and i
saw a testimony share by someone on how a man call Dr.amine help
her to get conceive a baby after casting a pregnancy for her and i
have no option than to also contact this man on this same email which
is aminespelltemple@yahoo.com and to my greatest surprise after he
has cast the spell for me and he told me told have sex with my husband
and i did as he instructed me and to God be the glory at the end of
the month i miss my period and i want for hospital for check up again
and the doctor said am two weeks pregnant and i was so surprise and
all this came through with the help of Dr amine once again contact
him aminespelltemple@yahoo.com because he just save my marriage
and i know many of you are out there with the same problem don't
hesitate to contact him now\



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over 2 years ago

I want to use this medium to tell the world about Doctor OKAYA who helped me in getting my lover back with his powerful spell, my ex and i where having misunderstanding which led to our breakup though i went to beg her several times to please forgive and accept me back because i know i offended her but each time i went i always feel more deeply in pain and agony because she always walk out on me and would not want to listen to what i have to tell but on i faithful day as i was browsing i came arose a testimony of a woman whose problem was more than mine and yet Doctor OKAYA helped her with his spell so i was happy and also contacted Doctor OKAYA for help via email and then told him my story but the only thing he said was that i will wipe you tear with my spell so lucky for me everything want well just as he promised and right now i have got my fiance back and we are both living happily. there is nothing Doctor OKAYA can not do with is spell and just as promise my self i will keep testifying on the internet of how Doctor OKAYA helped me.Are your problem greater that mine or less i give you 100% guarantee that Doctor OKAYA will put an end to it with his powerful spell, contact Doctor OKAYA for help Via email OKAYASPELLHELP@GMAIL.COM

1. GETTING YOUR EX LOVER BACK.
2. WINNING LOTTERIES.
3. CHILD BEARING.
4. BREAKING OF GENERATION COURSE.
5. GETTING OF JOB.
6. JOB PROMOTION.
7. MONEY SPELL.
8. SPIRITUAL PROTECTION.
9. HERBAL CARE.
10. BEAUTY SPELL.

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almost 3 years ago

i just want to share my testimony here.. i was married for 12 years to my husband and all of a sudden, another woman came into the life of my husband.. he started hailing me and he was abusive..but i still loved him with all my heart and wanted him at all cost…then he filed for divorce..my whole life was turning apart and i didn't know what to do..he moved out of the house and abandoned me and my 3 kids.. so someone told me about trying spiritual means to get my husband back and introduced me to a spell caster called ashra so i decided to try it reluctantly..although i didn't believe in all those things… then when he cast the spell, after 3 days that he told me, my husband came back and was pleading..he had realized his mistakes..i just couldn't believe it.. anyways we are back together now and we are happy..in case anyone needs this man help, his email address ashraspellhome@yahoo.com his spells is for a better life

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about 3 years ago


I am ELIZABETH i want to start this way by giving a huge thanks to this man DR IGODO
for what he has just done today in my life . at first i thought it won,t work because many has failed me before but on a second thought i said let just try and to my best surprises PAUL my husband that said and insist he has nothing to do with me and my family called me immediately this great man DR IGODO of igodospelltemple@gmail.com cast a love spell on him and started begging for forgiveness well i love him so much and at once i accepted him back and today we are both living in peace and harmony, all the same the glory is to this man DR IGODO of igodospelltemple@gmail.com DOC I THANK YOU once again for you are worthy of all the thanks in my mouth today and forever am grateful and shall ever be to you . i also want to say if you are out there passing through a similar stuff or issues you can contact him today and i believe him will also help you out ,,,,THANKS BE TO THE GOD OF IGODO.

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about 3 years ago


I am ELIZABETH i want to start this way by giving a huge thanks to this man DR IGODO
for what he has just done today in my life . at first i thought it won,t work because many has failed me before but on a second thought i said let just try and to my best surprises PAUL my husband that said and insist he has nothing to do with me and my family called me immediately this great man DR IGODO of igodospelltemple@gmail.com cast a love spell on him and started begging for forgiveness well i love him so much and at once i accepted him back and today we are both living in peace and harmony, all the same the glory is to this man DR IGODO of igodospelltemple@gmail.com DOC I THANK YOU once again for you are worthy of all the thanks in my mouth today and forever am grateful and shall ever be to you . i also want to say if you are out there passing through a similar stuff or issues you can contact him today and i believe him will also help you out ,,,,THANKS BE TO THE GOD OF IGODO.

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about 3 years ago


I am ELIZABETH i want to start this way by giving a huge thanks to this man DR IGODO
for what he has just done today in my life . at first i thought it won,t work because many has failed me before but on a second thought i said let just try and to my best surprises PAUL my husband that said and insist he has nothing to do with me and my family called me immediately this great man DR IGODO of igodospelltemple@gmail.com cast a love spell on him and started begging for forgiveness well i love him so much and at once i accepted him back and today we are both living in peace and harmony, all the same the glory is to this man DR IGODO of igodospelltemple@gmail.com DOC I THANK YOU once again for you are worthy of all the thanks in my mouth today and forever am grateful and shall ever be to you . i also want to say if you are out there passing through a similar stuff or issues you can contact him today and i believe him will also help you out ,,,,THANKS BE TO THE GOD OF IGODO.

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about 3 years ago


my story goes to everyone out there that are in the situation that i have also being through. and how i was saved.I have been rejected by my husband after nine(9) years of marriage just because another woman had a spell on him and he left me and the kids to suffer. one day when i was reading through the web, i saw a post on how this spell caster on this address perfectspellcaster3@gmail.com have help a woman to get back her husband. and i gave him a reply to his address and he told me that a woman had a spell on my husband and he told me that he will help me and after 2days that i will have my husband back. i believed him and today i am glad to let you all know that this spell caster have the power to bring lovers back. because i am now happy with my husband.his email : perfectspellcaster3@gmail.com you can contact him for help and get your problem solved.

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over 5 years ago

Does anyone know of any report on the workplace culture that seems to be one big alcoholic family or that has key personnell who are in fact "adult children? "
Also- my mother's father was a roaring alcoholic but neither of my parents were drinkers- not tea- totallers but just didn't drink much- but I feel like I am an adult child with these issues- can the patterns established in my mom's childhood carry over and affect me too? Is it the "dysfunction" that carries over to the next generation and the next or am I just a nut job?
send me an e-mail if you like...thnx

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about 6 years ago

This article infuriates me. I am adult child of alcoholic and none of this is true about me. I once went to counseling to avoid being controlled and was accused of all sorts of things. This is because I checked yes when the correct answer was no on the question would you throw the alcohol down the drain. I thought we were going to go over the questionaire. Like in School. The idea of doing this was so horrifying to me that I wanted explanation. I would never have done this and still can not see how it could help. The person themselves have to change from deep with in and I have obviously known this from child hood.

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over 7 years ago

Had a good read of this and I can point out quite a few points relate to me very very well. I am currently 22 years old, and studying in Uni.



My father was an alcoholic from a very young age around 17.Mt mother didn't choose to marry him but it just happened. Anywayz, as a child I was beaten a lot. If I did something wrong, or if I didn't do my school homework i was punished for it. My father would come home from work drunk and take all this anger out on me and my sister. I as a child thought that I deserved being beaten for being naughty. i agree a child may need a smakc if he/she is naughty but not severely. I was even whipped as a child. I was always told I am not good enough and always had to do theings my fathers way. If he wasn't happy, then I did something wrong.This has given me very low self-esteem and socially isolated. When I am near large groups of people, I tend to act shy and very nervous. I feel everyone is looking at me. I get quite paranoid. I have not even managed to have a girlfriend and I am 22 years old. Other than that I have achived well academically in a way where I have reached Uni and have a stable job. I currently live with my mum and sister and rarely see my dad. He left the house when I was 13 since my mum got so sick of his drinking that she chose to divorce him without a choice and he had no choice but to leave home. I wonder if I will ever come out of this tough shell. Like I dont trust anyone at all. I keep things to myself and also, feel I cant trust anyone. As a young child, I was very hyperactive and couldn't sit still at all. very fidgety and nervous.



I dont know what to do. I will try and improve on my confidence and try and get a girlfriend. I am good looking, but lack the confidence.



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almost 8 years ago

I read this and it was like i was reading a discription of my husband, his parents and siblings. I am still discovering material and information on what is alcoholism and realise i know so little, however i do think this article has real value. I realise I need to unlearn alot of my own behaviours that I have developed as response as a protection mechanism to a disease I never understood.

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almost 9 years ago

This really hits home for me. I am 28 years old and was "raised" by two alcoholic parents. Needless to say life was chaotic growing up. Thankfully, I have never had a problem with alcohol but it has without a doubt affected me and I'm sure will continue to. It wasn't until I was out of college and on my own and in my first serious adult relationship that I realized the effects my upbringing had on me. I basically had to unlearn all of these things that I thought were normal. It was as if I were addicted to the drama, the chaos, and the turmoil because it was what I was used to. I'd run off at the mouth and say horrible and hateful things to my boyfriend at the time, never for a second thinking that these things that I had said would actually hurt him. In my family, we would yell and scream and tell each other how much we hated each other but we never actually meant what we were saying or thought the other person really hated us. These were just words and words meant nothing. I could go on forever about these "a-ha!" moments that have occured so far in my life but I'll spare you.
To Joseph, I am sad to hear about your situation. I think it's impossible to know how much of what we do today is a direct result of upbringing. But, I will say that I don't believe that it is an excuse for the betrayal and confusion that she has caused you. There is only so much that can be attributed to "abandonment issues". I think and I hope that in your heart you know what to do. Best of luck to you and everyone else for that matter.

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almost 9 years ago

Hi it's Joe the Soldier again. Would someone please respond. I have no idea about this stuff. Any insight would be appreciated. Thanks.

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almost 9 years ago

Hi It's me again. I just finished my counseling session and all I want to do is cry cos I see no hope.I feel like he's still conning me and using the counseling he's going to for his usual lies.I month ago he asked to come home so we could work things out but that same night he went out on a date.He lies allthe time.He's dated about 4 other women and thinks I don't know but contines the lies. Am I better off out of his life? Is there any hope of change if he's honest with this counselor> I am desperate. The marriage is dead but is there ANY chance to salvage a relationship for the future??? Help me.

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almost 9 years ago

I'm 29 and a deployed Soldier. My wife whom I married shortly before leaving was 11 when her alcoholic mother for years died by falling into a vent where she hid her alcohol. Now I just found that my wife 26 has been seeing someone. She cries that I left her, but says her love for him is "different". I've been talking to a counselor here who says she has abandonment issues and may hae viewed my long absence as such. I love her and want my marriage to work. And we had a wonderful healthy relationship for over a year when we got married. I want to forgive her and have told her that she can come back and won't have to wear the "scarlet letter". But she is an adult. I love her so much and hate to let her leave. Should I continue to tell her how much I love her and hope she sees I'm real and won't leave her like her mother or do I leave because she's an adult and knows better? Please help. I'm searching for answers and I'm lost. Thanks Joe

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almost 9 years ago

Stained...yes,that says it well about the pervasive,subtle or not so subtle blemish on family members in an alcoholic family.I grew up in an alcoholic home and am a recovering alcoholic.I don't hold my family responsible for my alcoholism and how my family life effected me.They didn't understand alcoholism any more that I did until I went to AA.In an alcoholic home,we children know something is wrong.We usually conclude that it's something with us.I never realized how I was effecting my children by my faulty thinking and perceptions,thus I passed on the legacy of alcoholic thinking to my children.In recovery,by using the 12 steps of Alcoholics Ana.Iam a healthier person.My grandchildren are proud of my recovery as are my children.I hope through my actions that I can at least weaken the cycle of alcoholism in my little family.At the least,my family has been able to see how recovery has changed my life and they know where to go if they want it too.I hope that my grandchildren will go to alateen.I have I child in recovery,but unfortunately not going to meetings.My oldest daughter knows a great deal about recovery but has never gotten a sponsor or taken the steps.Recovery is about taking action,it's not what's in your head.My other daughter appears to be going down the same road I did,she's probably an alcoholic.You don't have to drink or use any other substances to think like an alcoholic.Alcohol is only a symptom.It's the type of thinking that is passed on in an alcoholic family.You take on a role(s)the flunky,overachiever,perfectionist,whatever.You never just become who you are.You are always filling a role.The stain can be lessened and even removed by becoming involved in a twelve step program and getting a sponsor and taking the steps.