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Singles/Never Married Persons - Psychosocial Characteristics Of The Never Married

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The never married are a diverse and complex group. They differ by sexual orientation, age, health status, ethnicity, and living arrangements, and are as varied as married persons by social class background, education, occupation, and income level. The life satisfaction of the never married, in general, is similar to the married and better than for other unmarried groups, particularly the divorced. The health status of single men tends to be poorer than for married men, while never married women tend to enjoy better health than other women. In later life, the never married are more likely to face economic insecurity (particularly older women) and weaker social support networks (particularly older men) than are their married counterparts. Marcia Bedard (1992) and others contend that the happiness of single people is related to meeting their social and economic needs, not to the issue of being single.

The literature finds other gender differences in how singlehood is experienced, and these differences tend to be complicated by age. Although current older single women tend to be significantly disadvantaged in economic terms, younger and middle-aged single women tend to have high general ability scores, are highly educated, and have high-status occupations. The situation for single men tends to be different. Many men who remain unmarried are often "those at the very bottom of the social scale, with no women available who are sufficiently low in status" (Unger and Crawford 1992, p. 386).

Never married women tend to manage their lives better than do single men. Studies suggest that single men are more depressed, report lower levels of well-being and life satisfaction and poorer health, and are more likely to commit suicide than single women. It may be that single women's greater ability to maintain close and supportive ties over their lifetime with family members, particularly siblings, and with friends, contributes to their greater overall well-being.

In general, however, never married people report satisfaction in terms of friendships, general health, standard of living, and finances. They are more likely to live with others, such as siblings or other relatives, than are the widowed or divorced, and less likely to be lonely when compared to the other unmarried groups. Although the social networks of the never married tend to be smaller than for the married, the majority of never married individuals are socially active, with friends, neighbors, and relatives, as well as dating partners. Family ties are often central in the lives of the never married, particularly never married women, whose roles include caring for parents, being a lifelong companion to siblings, and serving as a surrogate mother to siblings' children (Allen and Pickett 1987). Friendship ties also take on great significance in the lives of many never married adults, particularly women, across their life course (Campbell, Connidis, and Davies 1999).

Nevertheless, people who remain single throughout their lives still face difficulties. The availability of a willing sexual partner, particularly in later life, is more likely to be a problem for the unmarried than for married couples. Further, for those who live alone, the financial costs tend to be greater than for those who share a household. Also, because most informal support is provided by a spouse and/or adult children, the never married in later life are more likely than the married to have to rely on formal support. When caregiving needs increase, never married older women in particular have a greater likelihood of requiring placement in a long-term care facility than older married women or those with children.


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over 3 years ago

I'm 35 and never married and don't have children.

For me, it's more about circumstances and then personal choice. I grew up in a very controlling, strict family. Of course, I don't think my parents meant any harm by it. They were raising their children the best they knew how.

I'm the oldest of four children. My parents were kind of loners, moving from Charlotte, NC to Louisville, KY. They never interacted with neighbors or extended family. We were a family of 6 and we only saw each other. My parents were always afraid of something bad happening so we weren't allowed to have friends or go to school games, parties, date, talk on the phone, etc. Then when we turned 18, we were free to leave. So we had no social skills, didn't even know how to make friends. Subquently, i've messed up every relationship I've ever had. I spent so much time alone, that now, it's all I crave. I've never wanted the responsiblity of children. I love my alone time. I love to read, travel and just be alone with my own thoughts.

I don't think that you have to suffer for being alone. There is plenty to do and you don't have to feel bad because everyone else has a spouse and kids. Having those things won't necessarily make you any happier than you already are.

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almost 3 years ago

I am 29, never married. I recently broke off my engagement with my fiancee. I have a good job. I have had sex with multiple women over the years, albeit infrequently. I expect this trend will continue into the future.

However, I am fairly certain I will NEVER get married. The reason is that this broken engagement has left a really bad taste in my mouth because the reason it fell apart was 100% about the MONEY, namely mine. I felt completely used, like everything she had ever said about loving me or having any kind of meaningful desire for me was a lie, because underneath it all everything was based on money, and if the money spigot were to turn off she would have left me in heartbeat (instead of me leaving her). That is not love.

I do not want children. The world is overpopulated, and children are annoying. People who regret not getting married because getting married and having kids is "what you're supposed to do" are idiots. Why would you let someone else tell you "what you're supposed to do". Most people are idiots. Who cares what most people think?

People judge me all the time but I couldn't care less. I will do what I want, whenever I want, however I want. This doesn't extend to everything of course - at work you have to toe the line. But in your free time, the world is your oyster. I walk around my apartment naked with the windows open. Some of you guys would be a lot happier I think if you just adopted this worldview. Do whatever the F you want. Seriously. If you procreate because you're "expected to", you are likely going to be a crappy parent. You aren't doing the world a favor by popping out a kid. In fact you're likely doing it a disservice.

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over 4 years ago

Interesting posts. Just turned 55, never married so I have no kids. I like what the article says about becomeing a surrogate mom to others kids. Alway thought I would marry and have kids etc. After my hysterectomy at 36 the biological clock became a moot point. In the socio/economic groups that I am a part of, reproduction was often a stong impetus to marry both for males and females. My new motto is "Just because you can reproduce does necessarily mean that you should."

I think that never married women tended to work on their education and progressed in the work place. Men that did not marry at the time that was ususlly "customary" were not motivated to progress in other ways for whatever reasons.

Am seeing a trend now, albeit small where a widower dates and marries a spinster type who is generally well educated and self supporting.



Back to the issue of chidren, in my own case I have been spoiling nieces and nephews for 35 years. The advantage I have found for myself is that it is like having grandkids without the inconvience of adult children. I have multiple peers who are now raising their grandchildren because the child's parents or parent is too dysfunctional to hold a job or stay out of jail. I once had an elderly patient while doing home health care as a nurse who was raising great grandchildren because she was the only one in the family not in jail. I suspect that my maternal instinct is presently sublimated in mothering my sisters children, ages 2 to 11. The "threat" of sending them home serves as an excellent way to keep their behaviour at a socially acceptable level.

I feel badly for the younger women who lament the lack of a spouse and the children that come with that life. I want to hug them and say get a awesome education and work your butt off. Don't lower your standards just to have a man in your bed. Anyone can do that. Being unhappily married is a lot worse than being happily single. Another choice that I made throughout my life so far is to not be sexually active. At least the doctor never had to tell me I was in love.



I had a professor who used to say that well adjusted people are well defended people. My defenses have probably kept me from making rash decisions so the consequeses of said choices have been minimal and have not included sensitive children (who often pay a price for the "sins of the parents.") Be a good friend to those in your circle of influence and depend on yourself for your own needs.

One of my favorite lines in a movie... Albert Brooks to Holly Hunter, "Wouln't it be great if needy was a turn-on!"



I have dated a little, had a couple of long term relationships that were movie buddy types (hoping for more) but each of these gentlemen were emotionally unavailable. None of these men are gay. I find thatat this stage of my life I have no need to trade down. Life is good and fun for the most part. I now joke with my little sister about who is going to wipe by butt when I can no longer do it as I plan to maintain my independace for as long as it is feasible. At least I don't have to worry about a dysfunctional kid getting to pick my nursing home.

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over 4 years ago

I am a highly educated and employable, gorgeous (so I'm told) woman in my early 30s and also a never married, but seriously committed to being married. My boyfriend of 2 years is in his mid-40s and I am afraid that he does not value marriage as I do, or simply does not want to be married to me.

I just want to thank all of you men for opening up your hearts on this comment thread, because I think I've realized for the first time that it may have more to do with his inexperience than our relationship together. I think decades of inexperience (or lack of opportunity, depending on how you look at it) doesn't necessarily just kick-in even when you feel like you've found the perfect match. I think while this article shares a particular type of truth on the lives of unmarrieds, it leaves out the notion of compassion and feeling of lack-of-choice, which several have expressed on this thread. And I think when one is discussing issues of love, coupling, and fitting into society at large, the only way to analytically think about it is through the lense of compassion. And it is with great gratitude that I just wanted to thank all of you never married men on this thread who have helped me gain insight into how he has been experiencing the world.

It is true, we are all unique, some outwardly so, others more inwardly so - and tonight I say a special prayer for us all to meet our own unique perfect match, and, in the meantime, be able to find, enjoy, and continue to uncover our own uniqueness to ourselves most of all.

Thank you for sharing your story.

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over 2 years ago

First of all..I don't belong to an outer space community. I am 49 years old woman, traveler surgeon and nice..people think i am attractive but they don't know my real age as I was doing like Demi Moore, a lot of plastic stuff including nose and boobs job( that's contradictory: a doctor interested in plastic surgery)when i was 20 and 30 I didn't meet a guy who would make me happy so when I reached 39.... I realized that i needed to do something I always wanted to be a surgeon instead a radiologist...so I made a decision to shift from radiology to surgery..It was hard at the beginning but when I fulfilled my dreams and became a surgeon...a successful one because of my big experience.......I found my husband....and guess what? I am pregnant at this age..it sounds weird but it happens...I didn't want to but my husband wanted absolutely to have a kid with me because he told me a few words that changed my mind: do you think a kid would mind his 60 years old mom is JK Rowling? .....i got pregnant without IVF or any medical stuff...maybe it is my energy that I got by keep working on my dreams...I know I won't live so long to see him growing..but young parents die also I saw many of them in my everyday work... My husband is a 49 years doctor also and a very successful one......divorced from an unhappy marriage since many years.
My cousins and friends who kept nagging about my single life most of them is divorced or crying in the dark because of their unhappy marriage.....and most of them are useless and their kids are poor...
Lonely life is a blessing for people who take advantage of it....think of marriage as a station in your life or a train u should take when the wagon is full of happy people...never take the wagon only to keep moving with other people..moving with your dreams is so powerful because it makes reach any station you want.

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almost 3 years ago

people have prejudices even against women if they are single, I (38, never married, very few relationships) often get asked if I am gay or psychologically maimed.
Truth is, for many years I was painfully shy, so, not being a supermodel, I had very little choice on who to date, and also for years I had really bad taste and was into bad boys and "interesting" guys (aka crazy). Now thank god I matured and things are different, but still I am left the stigma: why did you spend most of your life alone? What I noticed, in me but also in my older single friends, is that we are less laid back than other women who were always in a relationship, we had to toughen up and never say that we need anything, and say out loud that we were happy with having some fun.
I feel this view is very squalid and very remote from what I always wanted (to love and be loved) but I don't know if changing this view will also change my relationship status...

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almost 4 years ago

I am a 34yr old male who works 5 days a week who also lives at home with his parents.Unfortunately the ladies look down on me for that.

I come from a good home/family with no anti social problems.

The problem in this day and age women generally do not need a man to take care of them security or financially.We are experiencing the independent female today.

Its also a myth that women take more more notice of personality then looks believe me i have found that out the hard way.

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about 3 years ago

Hi,

I am 44 years old, male and have never married. I have never had a girlfriend, never had sex or any other form of intimate contact with women (though I was hugged and kissed once, neither being at my instigation). I believe I am physically tolerable to look at (women have described me as young and angelic looking) and my weight is normal for my height. I do physical exercise (cycling and light weights on alternate days).

I am not single by choice and I am extremely lonely. I do have some hobbies that help to keep me sane though. Seeing married couples and parents with children, on the other hand, upsets me greatly. Somehow I feel I have completely failed in my "life mission" that was pre-programmed into me - finding love, getting married, having children and supporting them and my spouse.

Like other respondents, I have had feelings (sometimes strong) for members of the opposite sex, though whenever I have tried to act upon them it has ended in failure. I am not shy around women either - I am actually more comfortable around them than I am men.

Unfortunately my life took a terrible turn about 15 years ago when I was assaulted by a gang whilst I was innocently walking home alone one weekend. They did a lot of damage to me physically and I still suffer chronic pain every day of my life. I was retrenched from my employment 10 years ago as I was no longer able to function due to the pain and I have not had paid work since. At least I own my home and am debt free, though the retrenchment and the chronic pain will mean that I will need to claim a part pension upon reaching retirement age.

Because of this situation, trying find a relationship is beyond hopeless. I could offer a lot of emotional love and perform the household domestic duties (as I do for myself now), but financially I could not support a family or spouse and my numerous chronic health problems would mean that any social life would for the most part be within the walls of my home. I have no idea at all if I could satisfy a women sexually, as I have absolutely zero experience and would not hire a prostitute because of my moral stance on having loveless sex.

I would do anything to go back in time to the day before I was assaulted, but the reality is I have to live each day at a time. I would dearly love human companionship but at the very least I do have a cat who absolutely loves me and follows me everywhere I go.

I honestly hope that people dont have to go through what I am going through. I feel like I am a completely useless person and of zero value to society. It might seem stereotypical, but I feel I am nothing but a burden on both society and the people close to me, even though I am able to function fully independantly except financially.

I wish any single person who wishes to get married all the very best, though I agree with what others have said - I still think it is best to be single (no matter what) than unhappily married. It kills me, however, knwoing how much love is inside me but there won't ever be anyone to experience it. I think every human deserves to experience loving someone and being loved by someone. But for me, the fact that no one outside my immediate famiy has ever loved me burns a hole straight through my heart.

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almost 3 years ago

I'm a 34 year old female who has never had a long term relationship. I don't have children. I'm 5'10 with model looks. I'm moderately successful and run my own company. I'm well educated and have dated a lot of men. I've even dated quasi celebrities and athletes. I feel more at ease to know that I'm not the only person who is having a hard time with dating. My family dynamic was/is toxic with lack of boundaries and my father was married to my mother and to another woman (so illegal) who ended up supporting my mother, sister and I. We lived in a home about 10 miles away from my father and step mother. My father was bi-polar and controlling. Always threatening our well being and financial standing.

I suffer from clinical depression- a chemical imbalance that can only be controlled with medication and I have ADHD. I guess I've never been socialized to have a healthy relationship. I do want one. I've spent thousands of dollars and 10 years in and out of therapy and 10 days in a clinic. I've learned a lot about myself and I understand myself but I still have work to do.

I wonder if I will ever have it together enough to be happy and able to make someone else happy. I am fulfilled professionally for the most part. I hope that I can at least have one great relationship in my life. It doesn't have to be marriage and I'm alright with not having children. I just want for once to not have the other shoe drop. Every time I think I'm there with a guy where I feel comfortable and almost safe, he pulls away from me or rejects me. I have an extremely hard time connecting with men and I always date the wrong man for me. But at the same time the right men consider me damaged goods. I hope to some day be truly open to a man and not have my past get in the way of it. I know it will be hard work but it will be worth it.

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almost 6 years ago

I'm 39 (close to turning 40) and have never married/engaged or had children. I guess I was never presented the opportunity. I had dreams of being married and having a big family, but as the years go by it all seems to have faded. What do you you do when you're faced with the fact that no one chose you? How do you answer all the stupid questions from others? (As though being alone in life was a "choice")I'm slowly learning to be content and acceptmy life for what it is.

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over 3 years ago

Always thought I belong to a deserted group! Never married, stunning looking, post graduate educated female turning 43 this years! When your younger it doen not make that a great difference but when hyou get older things change dramatically. Not being married means you will never have the opportunity to be a spouse, a friend and someone to love. No kids mean you will never have the experience of being a mom, and grand mother. Life is so diffrent for us...

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almost 2 years ago

I am going to be 40 years old next year and I have never been married with no kids female. I can say that being never married is a deep lonely feeling. What makes it hard is I am from the states and it seems as if Hollywood makes a huge deal with those who are getting married and or having kids. I feel like a loser when I am reminded of me never have fallen in love with the right guy and not having kids. Soon very soon, I will not be able to have kids cause of my age. I know I am going to catch *beep* from some posters for me expressing how I feel and my hurts about never had been married, sad but true, I have seen it happen. I have to also note that I think about me being in Heaven more than ever as time goes on. So I guess you could say for me one of the characteristics of having to never been married is depressed and loneliness. Before you give me *beep* for what I wrote, ask yourself, that had to be a reason why you came on this site... For me it was to get a better understanding as to how I feel about this issue. Thank you

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over 2 years ago

I'm 53, single,a homeowner and work as a lecturer in a FE College.



I was the only child of eccentric parents who argued a lot, but who both relied on me to care for them. I loved both of them very much- despite my very controlling mother's attempts to break up any relationship that looked promising although oddly enough she approved of the real rotters.



Well- all things pass- my mother died three years ago and I now look after my father who has dementia and lives next door to me. I shudder at the thought now of a relationship with an older man- I think I'vemore than fulfilled my quota of being a carer.



At work, we appear to have moved from a mixed environment to an all female faculty- and these days it feel like being in a nunnery. My social life is non existent- I think I get two nights out a year- and my father always manages to put the kybosh on my having a good time. Oh and those nights out are all female, as is my exercise class. If I hankered after a same sex relationship I might be quite happy.



I'm not actively looking for a relationship- in fact over the past year I invited two ex boyfriends to dinner as aversion therapy-three hours of listening to them witter on about themselves was enough to make me count my blessings.



So- what would I really want? For starters a hug would be nice. When you're a single 50 something, there are few people who will ever offer physical contact. The company of an attractive man over a dinner table once in a blue moon would cheer me up- perhaps as a Christmas gift to myself. Even a massage from a man would be even nicer- if I could find a spa that offered that.



what did the 'Wife of Bath' in chaucer say? What every woman wants is her own way. Marriage isn't for everyone- when your parents' misery was thrown in your face constantly, it isn't always right for everyone. But no-one deserves to be so lonely that they cry themselves to sleep. What I want- and need is so very little- yet in our world it feels like crying for the moon.

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over 3 years ago

About to turn 42yo male.

Attracted to & desired relationship with members of the opposite sex from a very young age but I have only gone on 3 dates when I was 30 to 1 woman(who I wasn't physically attracted to & was verbally abusive) had sex when I was 17 a few times with 2 girls individually of course). Never before or since. 17 was 1st time living off base at 18 I moved out & across the country to get away from military step father & be free or so I thought.

I'm a short male, with no siblings, broken home, constant moving military brat, etc. Recipe for social problems. As an adult especially from regular verbal, physical harrassment from males & zero interest as best I can tell from women. I've become a social isolate, shy, lonely, depressed & now bitter & cynical. Kind of hard to be happy & confident like that, huh. I don't think I have anything a woman wants(except maybe to drain my bank account) & could never make one happy. It wouldn't be worth trying if it's not mutual anyway.

I've had the same job 23years making 50-60 grand a yr for the last dozen. So doubt that is bottom of the barrel. I just want to be accepted & wanted the same as anyone & it doesn't appear that earth & humans are going to fit the bill.

I'm glad now information such as nitrogen exit bags are available.

It's just a shame. I've always tried to be kind, helpful, donating lots of time & financial resources for others(mainly via computer) but am hated or willfully hurt so much by people in person for being short, white or quiet/introverted/shy what have you. I'd rather avoid people than want to hurt them which contact seems to lead to more & more.

I don't know what more I can say but I wish you all the best along with permanent peace and happiness someday for those who are lacking it. Have a nice day :o) Bing!

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over 2 years ago

Often wondered how many persons, both male and female are in the same boat as I......Me, an attractive, literate, well spoken individualistic female of 61 years, a true single, never married, never cohabitated...Medically employed for 32 years, loved every second of my capacity... Engaged over 30 years ago, but never came to be....Having no siblings, deceased parents, am not a auntie, and because of my upbringing, strict and all, girl's private schooling/boarding as well, am somewhat elusive, extremely private, have golf friends, walking friends, but it remains as that..I enjoy my own company...I come across as gregarious, but even that is forced. I look forward to solitude as I come home. In my own words, Life is good....Signed, alone by choice.

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over 4 years ago

Just turned 40 here, never married/no kids guy. Like many in this position, I've had very low self-esteem, confidence, and extreme shyness/social anxiety problems since my teens.



Never dated till my early 20's, and had very few dates. Always went out with women who I wasn't attracted to (they initiated the relationships) so I had basically no pleasure from these relationships.



Even though I'm told I'm quite good-looking and have a muscular physique, I've never been able to attract women. Over the past ten years I've become very bitter and cynical which, when coupled with shyness and depression/low self-esteem, is a definite attraction killer. Quite resigned to living the rest of my life alone now though. C'est la vie.

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over 2 years ago

I'm a 38 year-old male and I have never been married. I had a girlfriend for a couple of months about 10 years ago, but outside of that I have had no love life to speak of. I have never had sex and outside of that one pathetic dating experience I have not had intimate contact with women beyond the socially compulsory hugs and kisses. Despite being told that I'm good looking, I believe that I am, in some way physically abhorrent. I have always been a bit overweight, but in the last three years I have changed my lifestyle and now am approaching my goal weight. Despite thse improvements, I get the impression from people that I might have that perfect combination of subtle flaws and defects that make a person physically revolting.

I have a Ph.D., a good job and am an active volunteer firefighter among other community volunteer pursuits.

I believe that some people are simply not fated to find love. I believe I am one of those people and have come to accept it, but only after years of trying, hoping and failing miserably. I have now become hardened, isolated, cynical and introverted. I am now a horrible person. I have no hope, no faith and nothing to sustain me except an unquenchable curiosity at what comes next; what fresh misery will befall me. Unfortunately a core cowardliness prevents me from simply committing suicide. It has now become my only remaining hope that I can die heroically. I find myself taking greater risks and acting with less and less regard for my own life. I only hope that nobody else jeopardizes their lives trying to save mine.

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over 2 years ago

I am in my mid forties and never married or had children, but I still dont lose hope in meeting that special person and although its just a hope, I also dont depend on that special person to make me happy. Once a person commented; that I looked like I was getting it every night. If only she knew the facts. Happiness is a state of mind and with thoughts you create in you a feeling that brings peace and happiness inside you. Its beautiful to be married if you meet the right person, but not if you marry because its expected of you, and have kids, because its the right thing to do. I look at my siblings they alway look miserable, upset, stressed, angry and disappointed in life, yet they are married and with children and good finances. So it makes one wonder is it marriage that makes a person complete, or something else. I like to think its something else and more deeper. There is nothing wrong with being single, or even marrying much, much later in life. I find that sometimes single people, are more educated, more modern and with the times than married people. Single people are always out there, doing something worth while and learning everything there is to know about the world, what makes it tick and how one single person can impove try and it. I find that many married people tend to live in a bubble, give up on life after a while and spend their days, judging, critising, and gossiping about anything or anyone when given the time of day. They are more insecure than those who are single, because single people, esp if you have never married, know how to look after themselves and be independant. They learnt throughout the years. They are self confident and realise you dont need a partner to bring you happiness. If an opportunity arises to meet someone you go for it, but you dont expect it to change your life, its to add to the happiness you have already created for yourself. That happiness people forget to realise takes time to learn and understand. As the old saying goes, the hardest person to get to know, is yourself! If one looks carefully, women dont actually become really successful until their later years anyway. In their forties and fifties especially is when a woman begins to shine the most, because she has a life behind her that has maded her who she is and a future that can still go on for another forty or fifty years if you look after yourself and health. Here are two very successful women and I am sure the list can go on and on...Single women, Condoleezza Rice and Julia Gillard. Both mature, both single, both never married with families and both are not only attractive and draw in crowds, getting attention where ever they go, but als both dont need a partner to keep or make them happy. If they have someone, it just adds to the already mapped out wonderful future they have been given and are now living.

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over 4 years ago

I'm 42 never married, and have dated three people in my life. Never felt very close to my dates. I've always been physically attracted to women, to the present day. But the last time I truly felt "I have to get to know this person" was like when I was 21. But I was too shy and insecure, etc. Never felt the fire the same since. I'm not attractive, and I'm and overweight. I walk almost an hour a day briskly, but I eat too much. (I don't want to find out what kind of fatter pig I would look like if I didn't walk every day, giving I'm already a fat pig)

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about 3 years ago

I am 29, high social skills, educated, into adventure and love travelling, attractive (blonde, 5'2, toned, curvy, great health).

However, my dream is to live in the mountains alone and meditate.

Marriage would effect my sole/soul time to my mind and yes, it is selfish but its my life, my Spirit and my spiritual future. I would rather save for a house now (which is what I am doing) and then go life off the grid and do what I want to do, which is, meditation.

If i met someone who wanted the samething, awesome, but I doubt that will happen, so I choose my life with love.

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almost 3 years ago

I'm 36 good looking, ruby player shape and I make a solid salary, yet I have managed to go through life without ever having a real girlfriend, thus limited social confidence in this arena. I'm from a small town, so selection is limited and now in my 30's its almost non-existent because all the good looking women are taken and not all of us can easily pick up a 20 something like on tv. I recently went to Match.com, then found out all of those good looking women on the search screen are'nt really members, they simply logged in for the free search. Well its fat girls, single moms, or the girl at the dollar general, ain't life grand.Just thought life would be more rewarding, I'm actually thinking of flying out to Nevada for a prosistute.

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almost 3 years ago

Those who thinks single men are losers are completely idiot!

I am 30, single, have no intention to get married. However, I have over 1 million dollars in assets that my parents gave me.

I am very intelligent, holding a PHD in hardcore science and earning at a whooping $130k/year.

I simply am too nervous and overly sensitive and didn't find myself like being in a group of people.

Had a few relationships and the women I've dated were tooo fuxking demanding and I wonder if it's simply bad luck or women in general are like this.

I have no desire to have kids and I don't believe people like myself is capable of bringing up one as I've been in relapse of depression for too long and mental disorder was running through my family and no desire to have my children suffering that too....

I also don't like people very much for they are either selfish, self absorbing or snobbish.

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about 3 years ago

If a man chooses not to marry it is usually because we enjoy having no responsibility and greater financial freedom. For some men marriage is not an option, maybe they have some sort of social anxiety and can't form relationships. But other than that reason those men who choose not to, only do it out of choice not because they can't. And hence, they are happy with that decision.

Like me! I am 35 and not married because I chose not to. And I am very happy with my decision. I have been in several relationships and have so much else going on in my life I don't feel the need to be with anyone on a permanent basis. Single women in my age group, I can marry any one whenever I want. But I won't. Just because I am 35 and financially able to get married, it is not a default responsibility upon me to do so. Some of you women may say I am afraid of committment and that maybe so. But I am also in total disagreement that anyone has to get married or you will be lonely and miserable forever.

I have done much with my time so far. And I am not advocating a hedonistic lifestly for all single people. Break tradition and dont worry about marriage but also go out there and find something you are good at. Whatever it is that interests you, you will eventually excel in it and can make a change for everyone. Marriage is no big deal. Plenty of men and women are unhappy in marriage and want to get out, then at 35 they look back and wonder where their life went.

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almost 3 years ago

ETA: The more I look into the marriage issue, the more I realized that good people like myself never married but the badasses are in and out of marriages all the time, producing kids.

I wonder if it's due to our over sensitive nature & over moral view to this world made us loners... These much lower moral people don't give a damn about responsiblity and emotion. All they did were seeking the prettiest (male/female) to make them look good and produce silly children all over.

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about 4 years ago

I am 30 and I have never dated a girl.I have always had low self esteem,I was fat when young and in my teenage years I suffered from a skin condition on my lower body.Women show a lot of interest in me coz I appear very handsome.I know I will disappoint them if they saw my very bad skin.



My first sexual experience was with a prostitute just recently out of curiosity of how sex feels.I didn't enjoy it one bit and highly regretted it.



I guess now my hand is my only lover,but I cant say I am unhappy,I know marriage life is hard and I dont think I can really make a woman happy so I am better alone.



I just wanted to be a normal a guy with a normal family but it seems I was meant to walk alone and die alone...peace

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over 2 years ago

I'm 67, straight and never ever married. Got close once, but I was in the wrong occupation. I had just re-enlisted in the Navy for 6 years. This was during "Vietnam", so I got dropped like a hot iron! "Down the road", I retired from the military. Get married? Nah, the "Feminist Movement" made it quite plain I was never needed or wanted. So when I "go" my bennies go too!

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over 2 years ago

Feeling abit low tonight; it happens sometimes - been afew years since its reeally hit me this hard.

I chose the life I live so I dont pity myself or seek pity; but I do egret the path taken... I isolated my self socailly by 20 - 21 keep either only 1 or two friends, though eventually time and trails have split us apart.

I'm 33 now...and while at work I am actually pretty laid back and get along well with coworkers, the idea of doing anything OUTSIDE of work bothers me greatly - I'm so stuck in my insular life of one that it feels like a huge waste of time and a hassle to hang out with others... But I hate even THAT feeling - Its like I bang on the bars of jail i put myself in, unwilling to leave but despairing if I stay.

Is it even possible to find friendship and romance at my age? I know I am relativly young - but I keep thinking most socile bonds are formed and maintained from teens and 20's - and all those connections I have ignored or seen shattered.

Or maybe it is possible - but my mind and heart are were I left them, stilla t the age of 20, so I expect innocent love and friendship - not the mature, wise and responbile nature of a person my age...

maybe I dont even need love, maybe I just need to be happy with myself and what good things I do have in my life already - including my coworker buddies.

I dont know.

feel bit better venting this into the void though; still regret the path I took, but I can live with it.

And you the reader - I hope you find some inner peace in your life; I understand just how heartbreaking it can be sometimes~

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over 2 years ago

I'm a 38 year old male never-married physician. I've had a number of on/off relationships. The closest I came to marriage was a girl who asked me to move in with her. Women consider me to be very attractive and yet I've always thought that this worked to my disadvantage. I tend to always think that girls think the worst of me so if they are shy to meet me then I just assume that they are not interested.
I had a lot of narcissistic and borderline traits when I was younger. I did therapy for 15 years and managed to get back on track. However years of depression and feelings of suicidality left their mark. It seems I was able to meet women much easier when I thought too much of myself. I recently was in a relationship with a girl who turned out to be more narcissistic than I ever was and I had to end it. She was extremely attractive and sexy and I did go back many times even though I knew I shouldn't. However eventually I arrived at a place where I really felt much more mature and her very self-absorbed ways drove me away permanently. I've recently undergone a big shift in my priorities. I'm not obsessed with making money and I've started doing things that I really enjoy. I don't know what the future brings. I've just kind of arrived at a place where I'm willing to accept whatever happens.

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over 3 years ago

I am 27 and have three siblings (three of us remain single) only the eldest got married, but that ended in a divorce.



He now lives with a new Lady and her daughter. I agree about what one person said "people think it strange that you live at home" I think why bother having a house all on your own when you can live with the people you love the most and get on best with. All three of us live at home with our parents, we help financially and offer support to one another be it chores, looking after one another when sick ect..

most importantly friendship.

I have yet to have friends that I get on with aswell as my sisters and brother.

Moving out to be on your own I think is a newish concept, in the early 1900s right upto the 70s it was common that all the children stayed at home and contributed an income to the house. When any did meet someone it was when they got married they left, some wouldn't. I honestly believe our situation is down to a strong bond amoungst one another.

It should be noted too that both my mothers parents and fathers parents had the same in their houses even when some of they're children got married (not all of them did and live as far as i can tell happily single either sharing a home with each other or on their own) they still congrigated in both my grandparents houses to the effect that there children were raised with cousins in their grandparents house.



I hope I am making sense.



If I get married then I get married I am not really pushed, I do not think I will find anyone as great as my siblings.



Relax alittle go out more even on your own. When you can socialise as much aspossible.



Take care of each other

God bless.

Stephen

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about 5 years ago

I am a 33 year old male and never married. I don't plan on getting married. I go out on dates two or three times a year, usually when women ask me or friends set me up. I just don't have any desire to "settle down". I enjoy doing things on my own. I have friends I hang out with when I want. I'm not at the bottem of the economic scale, I make $40,000.00 a year.

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about 3 years ago

Wow how my heart aches for so many of you after reading all of the posts from the past few years. I came upon this site because yes, I am single. College graduate, 26, no children, and pretty too. And I have yet to find a man who will honestly love me and I him. Yes, I've been the giver of unrequited love, adored by a few, abused by enough, and beaten by one. So out of sheer exhaustion I remain single. Yes, I get lonely and cruise the internet for 'statistics' to tell me I'm in the norm... for 'statistics' to give me hope... And then I remember who I am. That I am a daughter of God and not forgotten...and that HE has a plan for me that will fulfill my spirit and soul if I allow it to...And it may or may not include marriage. Of course this is miserable as I struggle with the loneliness... but as I fill my hours with His attention, it becomes less so. Please, with a hopeful heart and open mind, read this article on purposeful singleness:

http://www.singleness.org/perspective.shtml

Bless you all.

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over 4 years ago

The never married community is diverse and varied. Some are unmarried by choice; others by circumstance. The reasons for unmarried status are all over the map. Many different causes.



I am a man of 60, who is childfree, and never married by choice. Since having children was not on my life agenda, marriage didn't seem important to me.



Although I was uninterested in marriage, all of the women who I knew were even less interested in marrying me.



But, all in all, I would rather be single, than married and wishing I were single.







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almost 5 years ago

I am a 48 yr old man & never married.No dates.Girlfriends & certainly no kids.Probably because I was shy.No confidence.Low self esteem.Anxiety etc.

I've had crushes on certain females sinse I was about 18. I remember having a crush on a girl called Kim which lasted about 3 yrs & did after about 15 mths actually get the courage to ask her out but to no avail.

Then the spell was broken & I developed a crush on someone else which lasted for many yrs & obviously turned into an obsession and never got round to asking her out & the stupid part was because I became somewhat obsessed with this now inacessable idol, I missed out on women which I believe "AFTERWARDS" were showing an interest in me.Watta said git I am.

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over 2 years ago

I've read all the posts here and the overriding sense I get is one of resignation and of having given up. It's sad to see that because, in general, nothing comes to you in life, you must seek it out. There are many excellent self help books out there. Please, go buy one and use a highlight pen to mark areas that appeal to you and that make you feel better and think in a more positive way. Then, when you wake up each day just flick to a random page in the book(s) and read a single quote / section. You should feel a bit better again, so try and keep that thought in your mind all day.

Your mind is a thought producing machine. You must train yourself to take a step back from your mind and watch what thoughts it is generating. When you learn to notice yourself getting into negative thinking patterns then that is the moment to stamp them out with your favourite self help quotes! Only once you begin to retrain your thinking will you feel better. The good news is that the more you do it the easier it gets!

Spirals. We all know what a negative spiral is, a vicious circle that drags you down. Now, imagine you are in a barrel sat right on on the peak of a hill. One one side of the hill is what you fear, one the other side what you desire. You start thinking about the negatives and the barrel starts rolling down the hill towards them. The more it rolls, the faster it gets and the worse things seem! So, stop the barrel, push it back to the top of the hill and look at the positives. You will then start rolling down the other side towards what you want, things will snowball and you will have great positive momentum! A positive spiral.

When good stuff starts to happen your mood will lift and you will see everything differently.

Whatever your personal situation may be, it's always possible to improve it. Self confidence in a person’s character is one of the most important things the opposite sex look for, even if they don't realise it. As you being to think more positively you will find your confidence increases. Another poster here wrote ‘You don't have to "feel" self-confident to be self-confident. Action is confidence.’. This is so true, a brilliant quote. Even if you are nervous and shy inside, project yourself positively to others and soon you will become that person.

One thing you must ALWAYS remember is that the past is gone. Why waste a single second of the present or future on regrets from the past? You must learn to be more forward focused. Imagine yourself on your death bed looking back at your life and thinking 'damn, why didn't I just do something about it?'.

Never forget also that to be successful or to win, you must take risks. Therefore sometimes you are inevitably going to lose! This is a simple lesson in business and life, learn from your mistakes and keep trying and the chances increase that you will eventually succeed. Generally, failure is a lot more common that success so you need to learn to be thick skinned and not take rejection personally! Don't give up!

I went through this whole process a few years ago and it really helped. Some of the positive thinking quotes I found, and others I came up with myself, really are amazing and digging through them today they are still powerful.

The main point I want to make is that you have to take ACTION. Otherwise, nothing will change. Monitor your thinking, be future focused, take action, stick with it. My thoughts are with you.

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about 3 years ago

I was married once in my 20's and it was a DISASTER. The creep I married lived at home with his parents and had bills up the wazoo. I had a good job with benefits, a nice car and a condo my Mother and Step-Father helped me to buy. Looking back I realize the pig only married me to live off of me and he refused to give any money towards paying the monthly bills, even after we bought a home together--so I was forced to work overtime constantly which has resulted in poor health now (I have severe osteoporosis and numerous fractures)at age 51. Thank God I got rid of that p.o.s. and although I ended up getting mixed up with another abusive psycho who beat me up and fractured my spine (rendering me permanently disabled) I would NEVER have stayed married to such a horrible excuse of a human. I feel that there are two reasons that my life turned out the way is has and one being that I married a pig who tricked me pretending to be in love and only had eyes on my bank account and the fact that he "conditioned" me to an abusive relationship screaming, yelling, throwing stuff, punching holes in the walls every month when I asked him for money to help pay his expenses. Threats and intimidation have no effect on me and I feel that is the reason why. This greedy thief would drive around with 4 or 5 uncashed paychecks in the glove compartment of his car and refuse to give me even $50 to cover a mortgage payment (always accusing me of "ripping him off"!!) so my checks would bounce and we'd get a late fee.(Interestingly enough he ALWAYS had plenty of $$ for golf, bars and Strip Clubs with his friends).

Before you judge any and all women out there as to why they lost interest in men, marriage and family take a moment to think about what horrors some of us women have experienced.

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over 3 years ago

Hello, as odd as it may seem, I am 20 years old and I have social problems that will likely prevent me from getting married.
I am an awkward person who runs out of ideas when talking. It's very sad and frustrating. I spend most of my time alone and very few friends. To make it worse, I shake and turn red like a tomato when I find myself in social situations. It's embarrassing to the point that I only want to disappear.
I have accepted this and will work towards getting a job or building a small business. I am currently doing internet marketing part time and at the same time on my way to becoming an engineer.
I have tried to tackle my problem but it's useless. People think I am arrogant because I don't talk. The thing is I am just a quiet person.
One thing I remember though is I lived my first 6 years with my mom alone in a third world country and moved to the states at the age of 14.
My parents never got married. My mom used to beat the crap out of me with belts, sticks and even a hose. I think she was emotionally unstable. I don't blame her. This is just unfortunate things in life. My response to this problem has been pathetic and now I pay the consequences. I accept it and will continue on with my life.

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over 4 years ago

I just turned 37, and I have never been engaged or married and never even had a serious girlfriend. I was a happy, attractive, athletic, guy and had a number dates in high school and some during my first two years of college. I think the main reason I have never had a serious relationship or married is because I was diagnosed with kidney failure at age 20 and had to have a kidney transplant.



I have never been able to come to terms with my medical problems, and simply do not know how to address this issue with anyone I meet so since the diagnosis I avoided dating. What woman would want to date or ecen consider marrying someone who is probably going to become too ill to support a family and die young? This GOD AWFUL curse that took out my kidneys is hereditary so having kids woulsd not be a good idea...and mose women want a guy who can give them babies.



The medications that I must take made me gain weight and although people tell me I look ok, I do not feel attractive anymore so when possible I try to avoid social situations. If I ever meet someone who is interested in me I just don't bother to return their calls or emails.



My kidney transplant failed when I was 35 and I had to go on dialysis. That was like being in a sub station of hell for 9 hours a week. I finally had a transplant after about a year of that and was hoping things woudl get better...but they didn't. I had to be out of work for 6 months due to complications which has now cost me my career. Now I am trying to live on unemployment and disability which is a fraction of what I used to make in my job. If I had known all of this was going to happen it sure I would have had the second operation...and just died.



My life is such a train wreck at this point thet nobody would ever want me. I have never had sex with a woman in my entire life and probably never will unless I go to a brothel and pay for it. I am very depressed, and lonely and honestly just hate what my life has become. I am so jealous of my friends and siblings who are happy, healthy, married and living the American dream that I realy don't like to be around them anymore. My life really has no meaning, and I honestly wish that I would die peacefully in my sleep because I am just sick and tired of it all.

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about 7 years ago

I'd like to hear from others who have never married, never had children and how they feel about it in retrospect. I'm 66, still attractive, female, who almost married a few times, and did not. Now wishing I had done so and feeling like I'm just now ready and able to have a mutually fulfilling relationship...I wonder if I ever will find that person who I'm willing to share a life with...only one man in my life would I have done so with, only one man whom I wanted to have children with. Now, due to our society and my own expectations...I feel I haven't truly lived life. Still..I have hopes to have a partner who will treasure me as I do him. Anyone else out there who wishes to share their experiences?

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over 5 years ago

I agree that single unmarried men have less social contact than similar women,because society regards single men over 40 as weird and a threat,but women are seen as more trustworthy and approachable,small minded people where I live ask why I'm not married or have a girlfriend and say are you gay or a pervert? I just say,women don't find me attractive,besides I have nothing to offer women like money or property,because even with the so called equality,men are still supposed to provide everything,a wealthy man will take on a poor women,but it rarely happens the other way around,women say they want equality,but only as and when it suits them,anyway women occasionally like me as a friend,and often as a pen pal but using a computer,I don't go to pubs or night clubs,but go to folk clubs and folk festivals as well as canoeing , walking and cycling clubs,where I do meet women,but the only single ones are far too young,I have never had sex or a girlfriend,and to be honest am no longer bothered,but I am very lonely and only 41,so it's going to get a lot worse.

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about 1 month ago

I'm 41, a firefighter/medic for 16 years.
I do not date a lot of women. But I have had 6 serious relationships (shortest 2 yrs, longest 4 years).
I am referred to by the wives of friends who try to set me up as the "tall dark handsome" type. I suppose.....but.....
Aside from the superficial what I am interested in is a woman who knows who she is,, says what she means and does what she says.
I am very clear from the on-set of the, "getting to know you" phase and throughout the relationship of my views on marriage ~
Marriage is NOT a fairy tale - it is a reality created by two people who are committed to the same long term outcome for their lives TOGETHER as team in this crazy world we live in.
There is the relationship of marriage - it takes work
There is the business of marriage - it takes work
The personal commitment invested is not 50 / 50 but rather,
I bring my 100% - you bring your 100%
AND (here's the kicker) - I DONT WANT CHILDREN.

Here's my frustration. All 6 of the women I have been in relationship have evidently believed that after I discovered how wonderful they were I would change my mind.

Generally it's taken about 18 months and then each one has started suggesting its time to move in together (I have only lived with one), it's time to get married, "I'm getting older and I have to start thinking about children"

Well like WHAT? What were you thinking when I clearly stated I would not have kids? "Oh for me he'll change his mind"?
And when they discover that I was and always do say what I intend, they either freak out and tell me something's wrong with me OR dig in and try harder for longer to change my mind ("if you really loved me") until finally "it's over".

I would love to have a reality based life partner in marriage to share life with, love with, experience the good bad and the ugly with, see the world with - I just don't want children.

In my profession 1 out of 2 marriages end in divorce. Many of my fellow firefighters are in their 3 rd marriages - all with children.

In my profession I see how people live, the smoke screens they live behind - I don't want to live a lie.

In my profession I see how people are forgotten by their children. Elderly folks for good or bad still living isolated, getting food delivered to them by meals on wheels (often times we are their only visitors) and hearing their stories of their children, the happier days only to discover that their kids live within driving distance yet never come to visit or even check to see what their parents living conditions are.

In my profession I see that life is too short to live it as a compromise simply because society dictates what "normal" is.

I love kids, I think they are great little people. I just don't want to bring any into the world.

For women out there I'd like to say, please.....if you want children GREAT have them but with a partner who wants them as much as you do. If you are with someone who you are patiently (or fighting with) to change their minds and it's been a year and still they are not - then BE HONEST with them and yourself - it's time to move on.

And for women out there, really? Really?? REALLY???

I am 6' 4", a health and fitness focused lifestyle, 6 figure income 15 years from retirement. A recently promoted Captain in my fire dept. I live in a beach town and live within my means, great credit, like to travel, love baseball, love and play hockey (which means I can skate and move and am FIT)
I do not have an ex wife or children as an extension of my life

Is there not women who are looking for a fully committed relationship, a healthy and happy, progressive lifestyle with the "one they love" - WITHOUT CHILDREN???

One last thought -

If we all thought about procreation as a Global Community we would all see that the Planet is telling us (and this is based on fact) -
Every problem our future faces has been and is directly and / or indirectly caused by OVER POPULATION.

But no one wants to talk about that.
Just keep recycling and conserving your water, hope that more of us can afford 60k for an electric car (and find a charging station when we need it - and an electric car that can carry a load of kids as we carpool).

And keep popping out those babies. Maybe there will be someone else who won't have ONE to balance out those of you who keep having 2 or 3 or 5 or "Kate with her right".

Sweet dreams.

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over 3 years ago

OH!god I am 50 now & as said earlier no dates,gf's,relationships etc.Probably due to shyness,low self-esteem,confidence & so-fifth.

Have had crushes on people forever it seems,And bcause of that i.ve probably missed out on people (girls)who have wanted to get to know me,I mean its been staring me in the face at times in the past I mean I remember when I first started work I worked in the mail room & there was this girl who worked in this office who I believed was giving me the eye as they say but I was so shy that I started to try & avoid going into that office where she worked bcause up till then I had had no experience of anything like that so I would'nt have known how to handle it.If there was anything going on.I was just 17 at the time.

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over 4 years ago

This is my second comment. I read some of the latest posts.



I want to say "relax...you are normal."



The sad thing is that you all and myself are very valuable to the world. Most of us are very intelligent and have great genetic material. Most of us grew up in loving households.



The worry I have is that the future will be an idiocracy. The wrong people are getting married. the right people are not producing children.



I'm 50 and male. I have seen numerous articles about a male's biological clock, that fathering a child when you are in your 40s/50s or older increases the risk of mental illness in children. That's the risk I do not want to take.



As I said before I was almost married. To an intelligent woman. But I got cold feet. She has two children now by some other man and she is now divorced.



I don't blame society for this predicament. It's just my circumstance. I took fifteen more years than normal to grow up. I wanted variety and separated from the woman of my dreams. Such is life.

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about 5 years ago

I am 62, people who do not know me well just assume I am either married or divorced, because I do not look like a guy who would never get married. I have dated at times but dating did not work well for me as I am not comfortable with commitment.

I think I was predisposed to the single life, because as a middle child in a family with eight children, I kind of got lost in the shuffle, was very shy, and really did not learn how to talk to women until I was well into my adulthood.

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over 2 years ago

I ended up here on accident, because I was looking up something else. Some of the comments are a bit sad. I must have had my head stuck in the sand for a long time, or it has recently became more popular, but I've been noticing everywhere I look that a lot of males that are quite angry about females...and obviously this isn't going to help getting into a relationship where both people have a mutual respect for each other.

Anyway I'm 24, enough time for things to change. I'm not married, I have no interest in marrying. I can't take care of myself let alone children, so I have no plans on having any of those. I'm not social and not too interested in that. In that I have no social skills, so I also make less money than most people, and I have average looks at best. I see a lot of comments on how women want men with money only, but it works both ways. Most men do not date below their status, unless the woman is so attractive that somehow she ends up with an equal status anyway.

I honestly don't see that big of a difference between males and females. Both genders have been used for money before, both lie, both have issues. It's all the same. Honestly you just have to pick the right people, and stop going after the wrong ones just because they are attractive or socially alluring.

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almost 3 years ago

i swear i,m looking for love
hi how ru

my name Mohamed


i,m from Egypt Cairo

i,m working?
Specialist personnel affairs in the airport l of Egypt Air

i will tell u every thing about my life

i never drunk

i never smoke

i don't have girlfriend

i don't have kids

i don't have wife

don't afraid i,m not bad man i,m not hack i,m not any thing bad name of god and i swear i just looking for love and friend and name of god i,m good man

i want tell you something about my self if you dont have mind

i,m single to i,m looking for love i want tell you something to coz you not think i,m bad or i need any thing
i swear i never make sex with any one i swear i,m still virgin man i never make any thing bad and sex coz i,m not animal i need do that with right way with my wife with my love
i,m looking for feeling and love before i do any thing like that
i,m looking for one women one wife not many,
not one yr or 2 yr i,m looking for wife from ever
i,m so sorry coz i say that but i must be say that to know,
who i,m

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almost 4 years ago

I'm a 29 year old man, soon to be 30, with no ambitions of ever getting married, or having children. All of my friends my age are in the early stages of their marriages, or in a long term relationship.

For me, I've seen and read stories of people getting married in their mid twenties and later, and then getting divorced in their thirties, or forties. I don't want to have to go through that, and have that as a possibility.

Also, our society is churning out some daring and rambunctious, "Sex and the city" types these days. For a conservative and old fashioned value guy, that can be threatening. With the many gadgets available today, facebook, twitter, cell phone, chat, etc... a virtual hookup is in most cases only a flirtatious text away.

I think it comes down to finding a like minded, ethically sound, person.

Many women are also very tied up into their careers and have little time for a relationship.

I have respect for those couples that have been together for years, the old frail couple celebrating their 40th anniversary, a tell tale of a time past.

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almost 5 years ago

The reason why never married single men might be happier than divorced men, as the article suggests, is that certainly a divorced man will feel the pain of having committed to marriage, only to have it later break up. That is why so often divorced men just have to have a woman. The pain can be remedied by making a good assessment of why the marriage failed, and then carefully searching out a more suitable partner for a second marriage. Just living with another woman will never make a man happy, the commitment of marriage is a requirement for that.

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over 5 years ago

The line "Many men who remain unmarried are often those at the very bottom of the social scale, with no women available who are sufficiently low in status" is completely ridiculous. I do agree to the fact that one is required to have a suitable partner to carry on and live your old-age, but the decision to stay single has in fact no way related to your social scale.

I am well educated, well placed and am living a very happy and content life. I have never married and never will (by personal decision/choice).

I am 28 yrs old and I personally believe that marriage is a individual’s decision to share his/her life, to be prepared for compromises and willingness to make sacrifices.

Being alone, allows us to be at peace, allocate tremendous time to activities which you dream of and have a jolly time.

I completely disagree to the above high-lighted line. It’s redundant.

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almost 3 years ago

as a straight man, i was married twice and was very happy at the time. both of the women cheated on me, and i never cheated on them. i was a very caring and loving husband at the time. they were, and still are the biggest whores and losers that are now out there trying to break some other mans heart. this is the reason why good men like us are having a problem meeting decent women today. lets not forget those filthy lesbians that are out there as well. what a disease they are.

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about 3 years ago

I no longer have very many restrictions on the type of lady I am seeking, I am now open to one that drinks and smokes and spends a lot of time at the bars....why? Just to find ONE lady that is willing to go on ONE date.....I suggest all men to take any opportunity that you are offered. It will only happen once, possibly twice in a lifetime. I was offered around age 28 to go on a date and end up in bed with her. I turned her down. I will not recommend turning the offer down.....unless you enjoy being single at 37yr old with no one desiring you....Ever notice the people who say to wait for marriage never did?

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over 3 years ago

I'm a 30 year old male nurse. I am overweight but carry it moderately well. I love sex, am socially out going, though somewhat awkward since I have aspberger's autism but I am well liked by many people. I haven't had a girlfriend since 2005, and we stayed friends with benefits for a few years.

Marriage scares me because I see how it financially devastated my father, and I am scared of losing everything I work for. I have never been able to date someone of equal status because women marry up (evolution).

My problem is that I like attractive women. Not model gorgeous of course but with a nice curvy body, a symmetrical face, and youth. As a man this is what I'm wired for. I have placed an ad on websites with my pictures and education and honestly, I thought I was a decent catch but apparently it showed me differently. The only ones that showed interest in me were older than me (not interested), morbidly obese, had kids, and worked at a crappy jobs. I'm willing to compromise at some things BUT EVERYTHING? WTF.

So considering that marriage is difficult and my choices are so awful, I have opted to just stay single. It's not by choice, if I could find someone I am attracted to, that I could trust with my finances I would be willing to marry. Unfortunately, I can't find a special woman I so desperately desire and I'm unwilling to scrape from the bottom of the barrel just because I'm lonely. I'm not happy about my fate but it is what it is.

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about 3 years ago

I met an 55 year old American man while traveling in Vietnam who was with a beautiful Vietnamese woman around 30 years old. She was too old to get married, and he had problems meeting American women all of his life that wanted to marry him. He wasn't "attractive" by American standards either. Replace Vietnam with Thailand, China, Japan, Brazil, Columbia, Poland, Czech Republic, etc. Enjoy life, travel abroad, no matter what your age. Your self-esteem issues will improve simply because people are nicer in other countries outside the USA. You will find love when you least expect it!

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over 3 years ago

This article is just another attack on men. Its sexist and deeply degrading to all men. It's just another Women are 'strong' men are 'weak' articles. I am a man of 36 years old and I am unmarried and alone. This article depressed me and made me feel even worse. It is not a choice that I am alone. I live ina very horrible city and am invisible to women. I have never been given a chance. I just end up getting judged. I wanted to be married to have a life, a family. But it is looking more and more like those htings will not happen for me. Life alone is not fun. It really hurts me and makes me feel badly about myself. I feel ugly, worthless and like a failure. And this article helps to re-enforce those feelings. I hate this site and i hate the person who wrote this article. I would rather be hit then suffer reading things like this. That only serve to degrade and hurt men. Many women get a confidence boost from this kind of hate. That is all that it is. Substitute 'Jew' for men and listen to how this kind of crap reads out. Its okay to trash men these days. The backlash from all of this is brewing out. The constant degredation and disenfrnachisment of Men is going to lead to some very horrible things in this world.

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over 4 years ago

Well I'm a 39 year old female nearing 40 and I've also never been married. I think it has alot to do with the fact that I'm incredibly shy, and incredibly self conscious. I JUST KNOW ONCE I GET MY PLASTIC SURGERY I WOULD FEEL A WHOLE LOT BETTER ABOUT MYSELF. Although I still get alot of guys who try to talk to me THE PROBLEM IS ME. Everytime a guy tries to talk to me, I either throw their number away, or I think they only want one thing, OR I PUT MY HEAD DOWN WHEN THEY TRY TO TALK TO ME. So there you have it. I think I'm ok looking but I guess because of all the emotional abuse I went through as a child I guess the only way to overcome this and finally feel good about myself and then finally probably get married is to get plastic surgery.

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almost 3 years ago

i'm sorry, but f@ck you. i'm not married because women are fucked up wanting you to be their personal slave. they want everything while you have nothing. what's the point on marriage, seriously? i've never dated a woman with her sh!t together and at one time, made probably twice of 90% of women my age and still couldn't find any worthy of proposing to. the one i was about to happened to be stalking me online and on a mission to make sure i was unhappy at everything i was doing.

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over 3 years ago

I am 43 and am very sad I never married and had children. I feel betrayed by the men who made out that they wanted to marry me and settle down x 2. I must be really stupid or something as they both had no intention. Prehaps my dowry wasnt big enough as we live in a world that is driven by the dollar, I guess I am becoming cynical with age, but I am most likely right. I am a beautiful intelligent woman and am now going to end up on the lonely scrap heap of life...discarded by the men who wasted my time with no honorouble intentions. I am furious with the people who supported them in wasting my valuable time, when I could have been in a loving relationship and had a husband and children. I feel so betrayed. I am almost moved to hatred by he betrayal, but the tears start flowing and I am the one who suffers. Why are men so cruel and why do people support cruel mens intentions ? I guess I will have another glass of wine to help numb my existance...

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almost 5 years ago

I am a 48 year year old never married man. I have had around 6 dates in my life and never had a long term girlfriend. I would get so nervous and shy on dates and come off as boring, when I really am pretty interesting. My problem is I always go for very attractive woman. Attractive women have so many choices.



I am still pretty happy and spend my time with friends that are also single.I have a special bond and feeling for never married men over 45. I would love to get married someday but doubt I ever will.

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over 4 years ago

50 years old, never married male here. I was almost married once. Lived with a wonderful woman from another nation. But that was in my late 30s and by that time I was too set in my ways. These days, she is divorced and with two children. We still are friends.



I just could not compromise. That was my problem. Nor could she.



The mainstream media is cruel to us, particularly men, saying that we die much earlier than married men. However if you do some research on internet, we single men tend to take on a lot of preventable risks compared to married men. In other words, we do not have a partner to minimize our extremes (drinking, gambling, driving fast). And single men are more sexually active, and many times more susceptible to STDs. If you are health-oriented from the start, you tend to live as long as a mariied man.

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almost 3 years ago

most women have such high expectations of men and so little to offer that most marriages are bound to fail!
Women want everything that men have and also want what they deserve as a woman. When time passes and they get older and uglier, they become even more demanding without realizing that bargaining time is over because the clout has completely gone!-Too late they realize this and endup alone and bitter and a welcome patient for psychiatry and plastic surgery!

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about 2 years ago

hi i think this network should connect me with Jon this 44yr old guy I am 33yrs and a single mom of one I am also born again and feel what Jon feels everyone needs someone in life.

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over 2 years ago

Dear Jon,



Do you have email....



Your story has touched my heart.



Janine.

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over 3 years ago

WOW!! I am surprised at the justifications and rationalization people make for their lack of fullfilment. Sorry folks someones gotta break it down clearly. Get to working on your relationship issues. I was a commitment phobe..Had my first child and wow. Its the best thing better that what I wanted for 10 years of school and lousy career. Which you end up working ..paper paper and computers and meetings..Get a grip people..Also look at counseling or therapy. Time passes by quick and these yrs will not be here again. And yes sometimes its worth changing a bit o who you are to be happier..that dont change who you are is crap..thats what got you in this mess..not changing some rigid attitudes..

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almost 6 years ago

Im a 26 year old male and have never married. I think the line up there that said "Many men who remain unmarried are often "those at the very bottom of the social scale, with no women available who are sufficiently low in status". In my experience this is complete bunk. There is a growing number of people who seriously believe the concept of marriage, especially in the United States, is a terrible idea. If you're like me and dont have a desire to raise children, then there is absolutely no reason to marry. There is no benefit for the man to get married. Its in a mans brain wiring to want a variety of people in our sex life. This is coming from Dr Drew who ran the loveline show for over a decade. Men need variety and every intimate relationship has an expiration date. Why would you sign a lifetime contract with someone in your 20's? People live a long time now. When the concept of marriage came into existence the average life expectancy was 25-30 years tops. You had nothing to lose by getting married at those ages. Things have changed, people are evolving, and marriage isnt for everyone. Theres a lot of unhappy married people out there who will wreck the rest of their life because their too afraid to divorce and move on. Either for bogus religious reasons or their warped sense of morals, they'll let their 1 life on this planet be tainted with someone they no longer love. This is the saddest existence you could strive for, and it seems everyones lining up to sign their life away.

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almost 4 years ago

"Its also a myth that women take more more notice of personality then looks believe me i have found that out the hard way."(Matt)

So, So true. Women are different. Not just in the plumbing department, But in the electrical and everywhere else. They speak a language all their own and many times when they say 1 thing they actually mean something else.

"Many women are also very tied up into their careers and have little time for a relationship." (nyn2)

And when Women like that think that they finally ARE ready, Guess what? They will be the very ones that will whine and complain about the available pool of men and probably have a lot of regret about men and will wish that they had the same chances now that they had then. That big house that they worked so hard for will get awful lonely by then. It goes back to being selfish and self centered, which were comments that I made on an earlier thread.

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over 2 years ago

Marriage only benefits women. Women seek marriage only to attain social and economic status and once attained, are legally supported, entitled even, to get everything from the man, including the clothes on his back.

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over 2 years ago

I'm so sad that when I get older I won't have to have sex with some old hag, not. This article is such a load of crap. I've seen what you have to give up to be married.......your whole life. Even if I decided to spend an extended period of time with one partner it wouldn't be through marriage. Every marriage I've seen both partners give up there time money and friends then end up resenting their partner for a wasted life. Love is nothing more than a chemical reaction in the brain nothing more. Love can happen between any 2 people with similar interests and no mind of their own fallowing the herd of the masses. Marriage is the resort of the lonely and desperate. Just because a person decides to live a single life doesn't mean its any less fulfilling, no I hate spending all my time and money on me and friends its terrible. And for the love of god I don't get having kids, your telling me that instead of fighting that instinct you'd rather give up 18 years of your life, five of which is spent with sleepless nights and poop, I'm so envious. I'm a US MARINE and I've seen more and done more stuff than people in their 60's, so sorry if I don't resign to a life of boredom quite yet(ever). Live good die young, because I don't go around being jealous of old people who can barely wipe themselves and are still married to an extremely unattractive mate. That's got to be some great sex huh, so please the next time you try to express the differences between marriage and single life put in all the facts even the unpleasant ones.

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over 3 years ago

I am a female 56 and had come from an abusive childhood from a man that was very controlling. I was also put down every time for being too fat. I dated in my 20's to a man that was a little older than I who also came from an abusive family from his mother. It did not come out well we did not marry I called it off. I focused on my career and became self supporting and independent. I also am in a career where independence is needed. I am a RN and it is a very hard concept for some men to understand that looking at another person body is a part of the job. There is not anything sexual about it. Anyway I have tried some dating sites but I believe that at this time in my life it is not a good time I am the caregiver of my 84 year old mother with dementia. I had tried to have a relationship with a man who thought we had something in common because we both lived with our mothers. But unlike myself he had never left home. I lived on my own for 25 years in other states. To start a relationship based on living with parents is not a good reason to start a relationship. Needless to say I ended it and it was not pretty he had fallen in love with me in just a few weeks. And I also do not agree with the statement about men being in lower income states. Oh and for my family situation I have 3 other sister all married and divorced with children and one sister has only remarried again a man she married in high school divorced and just recently remarried. I sometimes wonder if it is just my family or is it the times. I grew up in an era where the man paid for things. Now it seems men my age are looking for a woman to pay for things. I do not mind paying my share but this is sometimes what is not conveyed and people are not just mind readers. I know that the younger generation the men can stay home and be the stay at home dad while the woman works.

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almost 4 years ago

I waited for many years before I finally got Married and had pretty much given up on it when I found the right women. Things worked out for the best though because looking back, I was not ready for marriage and it would have be an absolute disaster to bring someone else, as well as children into the mix. I just had to many problems that I had to deal with within myself. Of course waiting so long has brought another set of problems with it.

Having said that, I will also say that many people who are marriage material do not marry. It's not because they can't find the right person, But (In my opinion) it's because they are self absorbed, and essentially selfish people who can, for short periods of time step outside of themselves but they always go back to themselves. It sounds better in our society to say "I'm just to independent for marriage" or "I'm my own person". I don't buy any of that. Whenever you see someone (especially someone who has never been married, and boasting of their independence) it usually bespeaks of a greater problem within themselves and they are not about to admit it as weakness. I don't care how persuasive they sound. I don't care how "educated" they are. I'm not at all mesmerized by their BS.(Baloney Sandwiches,of course)I'm not concerned with how good they look on "Paper" the proof is in the pudding.

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over 1 year ago

I'm in my early 40's, and don't play into the game most women expect men to play into, so, lol, I'm alone allot. I want someone to love me for who I am, not what they want me to be and thanks to the happiness machines, feminism, and propaganda these women types are a dime a dozen. I don't fault them directly as they are as much a product of their environment. As a result, I'll be happily retired in my 50's and doing the things I want to do instead of being her benefactor and slave. My musings may seem extreme but take a look around you, extreme is the new normal.

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over 2 years ago

i am a straight man that had been married at one time, and my wife cheated om me after being with her for fifteen years. i was a very caring and loving husband at the time, and never cheated on her. i was very committed to her as well, and knowing what i had at home i did not have to go out looking for it anymore at the time. now i am single and alone again, and let me tell you it really sucks being by myself. i enjoyed being married, because it beats being alone. and it is all good, if you can meet that special woman to be with and have a life together. it seems very difficult to meet another woman again for me, since many of them now are very nasty and have an attitude problem that i have noticed. but i will keep trying, and hope for the best. and good luck to all the men that are trying too.

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over 2 years ago

I am a married woman of 57 yrs with a single daughter and son--both of whom are very good looking, intelligent and well-educated. The daughter? 32 yrs old. The son? 30 yrs old. Both would love to be married. I ache for them both.

I was terribly disturbed by some of the posts below, particularly by Jon's. Jon--I am going to pray for you every morning. As a former high school teacher (and I LOVED my job!), I saw much of this in my later years of teaching--the world just became so cruel and uncivil.

I would just like to say that each of you is unique, special, and valuable! The system has just gone absolutely nuts.

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over 2 years ago

I really hate stereotypical ideas of growing up and getting married and having children and having a job to earn money to support the family bla bla bla. I always was different. I don't want to be tied down with a family EVER. I have always got my friends and my sister and I don't want to start "making a family of my own". I don't want to "settle down with someone". I want to be FREE! Like I am now. Once you have kids, your life will never be the same. You will waste 18 years of your life growing them up and don't expect to be free for long after that because you will have to look after your grand kids sometimes too. I am really proud and happy for the people who have lived their lives a little differently and who don't just get married. I am 15 now and I really hope that I never get maternal instincts or whatever because I don't want to be a frigging breeding machine like everyone else seems to be!!!!!

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over 2 years ago

I am 55 and never married.

I enjoy being single- I seem to have the temperament for it. I love

good friends, work, family,pets, and the sweet

smell of freedom. The most

difficult is the financial

part. Even though well educated, making enough to

have a house or retire has

been difficult. Thanks for

the great article. I am

proud to be part of the 13%

that are never married and

also content.

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over 2 years ago

Sitting here tonight I was searching for someone to chat with sharing similar stories...instead I found a dump load of sad stories...trust me I GET IT! I know this because everyday through work I have to be on the positive end of promoting positiveness...I am over the age of 40 and considered very attractive and have to get out more...I am home stuck...and need to get out there so this is my attempt at saying hello to someone stuck like me.

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almost 3 years ago

I'm 44 and have always been so out of it with women that I never got the experience I needed. At this point I'm going to need to find a real leftover if I'm ever to have a relationship with anyone.


The really sad thing is that I feel disgust not only about myself - despite being a highly talented and capable individual who's had some bad breaks psychologically - but about ALL you other men posting here. I find my fellow never-married males tend to disgust me. Even tho I udnerstand what we go thru and why, maybe it's too much like looking at my destiny.

We really do have the mark on us.

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about 3 years ago

I am 37yr old single male and waited to marry or even have sex. I would not recommed waiting past age 28 for marriage or sex. Once a man hits age 35 or above it is very very very hard to find even one woman to date or marry and forget about sex. I have tried for many months to find even one lady, none with go out on a date. From my perspective waiting is the worse choice to make. God does not reward waiting.....I have learned that the hard way.

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over 3 years ago

Sorry to hear about that Dave. But happy for you now. Hey, there is no age limit to find the right person. God bless!

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over 4 years ago

@biwc2002

I'm one of five. None of us has ever married. I don't think any of the men have ever had a girlfriend. The one sister came close but called it off.

I don't know the why of it all. I just know I'm resigned to it.

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over 4 years ago

I am a 39yr old man who has never been married and has no children.I never set out to not get married it just never happened.I have had alot of sexual partners in my youth and have had quite a few long term relationships.The shortest (besides a 1 night stand) being a few weeks to my longest being 6yrs.
I honestly believe if I had gotten any of my ex's pregnant I would have gotten married.I am a little old fashioned and I believe a child needs both spouses.I have come close to marriage a few times,but something always happened to change it.
I can say 1 thing I do believe and that is men and women have very different outlooks nowadays and it seems to be harder for the 2 sexes to get along.Most relationships I have seen and been in seem to bicker,argue and generally not get along.I think it is just a sign of our times that the people are more selfish and self centered and not willing to meet half way.I am guilty of that.
I can honestly say my outlook on women and relationships has changed greatly since I have aged.I no longer just care about the sex as much as I care about the company.I also care more for the persons feelings and not hurting them.At 20 I didn't care at all I just wanted sex lol.That attitude caused me to hurt a lot of nice ladies.
I have also learned if you start arguing alot and name calling it just gets easier.The next thing you know your whole relationship is based on it.
I don't know if I will stay single.I like the company of a good woman far better than just my own.On the same token it will definitely have to be with the right partner and the time when we are both ready.
One other thing our society seriously needs to work on the vanity.No one is perfect(except Jesus, who was also single lol)and it is absurd to think your ideal mate will be a model.It goes for men and women.if you spend your whole life saying this person isn't good enough,next thing you know you haven't been with anybody and anyone is better than being alone.

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almost 5 years ago

I am a 45 y.o. never married male. Never had a serious relationship in my life. I'm quiet and shy and like both sexes, men more than women though. I have no desire to have kids. I think I have some social anxiety and a low libido as well. This state in life is a mixed bag. It's nice to be free and independent, but can also be lonely and unfulfilling at times. I think acceptance of the situation is about all I can do. I would like to meet a soul mate some day to share my life with, but have never really met anyone (that I know of) who would be compatible. I have a hard time telling when some one is interested in me. I'm not very socially adept to that, unfortunately. Such is life...

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almost 2 years ago

I am 31. I'm not married. I have not had a long term relationship. I do not want to get married.

I do not come from a broken home. My mom & dad have been married for over 40 years!

I am not shy by any means. I consider myself to be good looking.

I am very social. I have met interesting people in my life and travels. Some people where good, some people where a holes. They all have had positive impacts in my life.

So why do I choose not to get married or go on regular dates?

We only have one life to live. I live my life the way I want to live it. I will not have someone tell me how to spend my free time.

This world is full of beautiful places. I want to see it all. The hidden beauty of the forests in Russia & Japan. Hiking Pike's Peak in Colorado. Running the 130 mile Badwater race in Death Valley.

In order to live a long and healthy life, I commit myself to a lifestyle of proper diet and exercise. This takes lots of mental and physical focus.

I am a paramedic. The field takes dedication and commitment to learning. It is the best career in the world as far as I am concerned.
This also takes lots of mental and physical focus.

I can't be held down my some woman or kids. If I want to pack my bags and go on a weekend road trip I will do it.

I have seen married men and women ask permission to do something fun. WTF?!

I am not the type of man that sleeps with tons of women, and by getting married, I won't be able to do so.

Don't let this article get you down. YOUR LIFE IS NOT A STATISTIC!!!!!



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over 2 years ago

I found this article quite interesting, but what I am trying to find out is why it is so difficult for a single woman in her late 30's to find a life partner, even if she is relatively attractive and socially well adjusted?

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over 2 years ago

I am a single woman 39 and have been going through crazy times. People in today's world are very critical of single women past a certain age. It's funny to me because during my 20's all the guys I had physical and emotional connections with always say don't commit. Also female friends were concerned about having status and their relationships out on the table. Now that I am 40 just laugh at the rhetoric because still confident and happy not too shabby for a gal like me. :)

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over 2 years ago

I am 48 and lonely. I am married but been separated for 5+ years - because I am waiting for my youngest son to go to college. I get along with my spouse (although he lives in another state) am considered very beautiful, smart, funny and achieved - however am lonely. Would like to find someone who is not intimidated by strength and can look beyond traditional circumstances. Men are often intimidated and enjoy my company but are shy in attempting anything beyond, and I am looking for a strong man that can allow me to be ... just me. Why is it so difficult?

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over 3 years ago

I am 36 and never had an relationship. Neither has my other sibiling either. I guess what stopped me with relationships in the past was shyness and having really low self esteem. I try not to worry too much about never having an relationship even though it can be depressing. I just have to try to enjoy life and have fun. If I get lucky into an relationship that be an bonus, if not then I have to cope with it.

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over 4 years ago

Neither I nor my siblings have married. Our parents are always wondering if our staying single is their fault. They've been married almost 50 years. We're a mix of males and females, one is still a virgin. Anyone know of other families whose children are all never marrieds?

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over 3 years ago

I never married simply because my parents were alcoholics who abused each other and me and my siblings. they moved us far away from both sides of our family to avoid them finding out. not that their families would hve done anything. i have found that most folks readily avoid knowledge of domestic violence or child abuse, they just dont wanna get involved. they cant wait for you to be discredited if you tell and or cant wait til you turn 18 so they can tell yu to get over it.



Back to the never married thing. since we moved to a small town out in a coutry area. the standard for "mating" is to "knock em up and lockem up" i just couldnt do it. i lived with a couple of girls but between both our parents being appalled from a "moral standard" and the fact that the girls wanted to be pregnant so that "fate" would take place, we broke up.



country girls in a large amuont get pregnanat right out of high school and coountry boys knock em up to keep that girl with them.



the marriage usually doesnt last and then theres the child support, the playing the children against one another and so on.



i thought that i would meet a girlfriend and we would live together or just date until we arrived at marriage and family. WRONG!



by the time that happens the girls in your small town community are all taken and knocked up. and those who arent go to college and since i didnt go to college, they werent going to date me.



so i was relegated to older women. i still do this occiasionally but the other reason i wont marry is that more married women chase me than single women.



you see what happens to married people is that they take each other for granted or the struggles of making ends meet for their family or something else and "familiarity breeds contempt".



then they are both ready to fool around and one of them usually does.



this is where the man usually gets the bad rap. many women do this too as i can attest to. when i was younger i was stupid enough to fall in love with a couple of them. they left me for someone who could just keep it sexual.



now thats what i do. sometimes its frustrating not having that special someone for those speical occasions but hey, i wasnt having that anyway. now i bang hot married women who are starved for something the married life doesnt provide. and then whn you keep it sexual the women then WANT yo to marry them and are ready to divorde their husband!



i hate this but i would hate it more if i was the married guy getting fooled around on. or if you read the whole post, i would feel worse if i was the child abuser and wife beater my father was.



or if i was the divorced you schmuck who cant pay his child support and gets the kids played against him.



i just wanted to find something better than a cycle to repeat.



and by dreading the way it works for most in the environments that i lived in, i never participated.



sometimes i wish i would hve but i know these terrible things that i have described would have just been me in some way.



one more thing. women are brainwashed. the scope of it is amazing. they thing they have free rein to subject you to their bizarre moods, cycles and general stupidity because they have equal rights. i never get to do this- women would ruin me for any of those things. they would make me a social outcast or a stalker or the unabomer. women only afford felons understanding or rich guys.



and THEN they marry an abuser or a drug dealer or a rich guy who fools around on them.



a regular guy is just that-regular. and women cant help but portray you all as pigs in the media but at the same time loathe all the regular guys.



essentailly everything is made wrong. you should hear the pathetic excuses fromt the married women i fool around with-pathetic.



a man might develop a drinking problem. but almost every time a womens problem will be channeled through sex.



it intrigues them when a man does this.



so can you see why i would never marry.



this doesnt even count the money issues, and the petty stuff.

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over 3 years ago

this research area need to be explored on psycho social basis as well as should be placed against psychiatric morbidity. on the other hand i found this article a lit against sun. it informative and sound step for the novice researchers. expecting more.
thanks

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about 5 years ago

I find this article a bit humorous and some what stereotypicle. I find it difficult to believe that individuals who have chosen not to be married have anything but an improved life. I am a 42 year old male who revals in the fact that all financial, emotional and spiritual decisions are on my shoulders alone. There are several avenues to find social networks with similar interest. Especially for singles and/or the never married.



The company of the opposite sex is always enjoyable and should be a priority for single men. As we all age, it is our responsiblity to maintain a heathly lifestyle in order the attract the opposite sex. One desires one that is desirable. I think one who maintains a heathly lifestyle and a positive outlook on life "married", "unmarried" or "never married" can and will find successful and meaningful friendships.

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over 5 years ago

"It may be that single women's greater ability to maintain close and supportive ties over their lifetime with family members, particularly siblings, and with friends, contributes to their greater overall well-being."

Wrong, women are less likely to form close and supportive ties with friends than men are.

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over 2 years ago

I'll be 55 years old this year and have never been married, have no childen and no prospects of ever meeting the right man. I've slept with around 100 men in my life, mostly married ones as I was always afraid of committment and at the time, it made me feel wanted in some way. I'd go to work with a skip in my step and so happy but now I am so depressed.

During my younger years, my father criticized anyone I ever brought home.

I met a guy around 20 years ago who I now realized that he was the best thing that ever happened to me but he rushed things and I got frightened. After 2 weeks had to meet the whole fam damily and I just couldn't bring him to meet mine and this was brought up several times during our "short relationship."

I have a lot of regrets and am so despondant, and pray that God will give me one final chance before I die!

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almost 6 years ago

I am a 24 yers beautiful woman, a have 3 engagement rings, from 3 difrent mens, and still i did not make the big step, and i do not think that i'll ever make it. But i am shure that if you'll get merid, at one point you will fell sorry, and if you don't the same. And passing of the years showed me that my espectations grew up, with every year. From naw on will be more edificult..... I just want to say Congradulations to Miss Elaine. I do belive that some people are not ment to get married. It is pointless to feel sorry naw, that was your life unti'll naw, be happy with it



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over 2 years ago


Hello Dear ,
May the blessings of the season rest upon your life,
My name is Miss jennife dion, I got your contact details ( family.jrank.org ) and I'm interested in knowing you & being friendly with you .
I would appreciate if we get acquainted as soon as possible, you can reach me through my private e-mail stated below so that i will send my picture to you,so that we can get to know each other better.
My private e-mail: (j.dion55@yahoo.com)

I quite believe that we can start from here since it takes one to know someone. I want you to understand that race or distance does not matter but loving and caring matters a lot in life. I look forward to hear more from you soonest.
Yours truly,
Miss
jennifer

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over 2 years ago

hiii m sagar 21 year women if u r not happy her husband plzz. call me any time...09268802397 my email:sagar9363@gmail.com

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almost 3 years ago

I'm nineteen, and I've never thought of myself as the type of woman who would get married and have children. I know myself well enough to know that I would not make a good mother. I don't necessarily plan to be alone forever either . . . do you want to know the truth?? I want an older man! Not because I'm a gold-digger or anything like that. I don't want a "sugar-daddy." (Isn't that what people call it?) It's just that young men are so immature these days---they often don't know what they want except for sex, and sex is not everything (at least not with them, trust me). I'm not unattractive, but I hate the way young guys try to flatter me and other girls. It's ridiculous! I feel a little bad for you men who are in your forties here who have had such bad luck. I thought most men in their forties and fifties were all taken. I know I'm still a little young, so I'm waiting until I'm in my mid-twenties or early-thirties before I actually go for someone considerably older---still, it's nice to know you're out there!

Even if I end up single forever, I won't think of it as single. It's more like "solo." You can do anything you want. If you're not happy---move somewhere else, make different friends, get a new hobby. You don't have a family to tie you down. Sure, there are times where I look at other people's babies and think "aww" and consider for ten seconds what it would be like to have one of my own with a perfect prince of a husband. But like I said above, I'm not mother material, and I'm probably not good wife material. My personality is a little cranky, a little cynical. I'm a deep-thinker. I don't care what men look like on the outside---I want someone who is a little sour and quirky like me. The more grey hair, the better. I like men with glasses too---or men without glasses. Just because someone is good-looking doesn't mean they're gonna be good in the sack. And just because someone is a sex god doesn't mean they're going to be nice to have deep, long talks with. Everyone has their ups and downs, you know?

Anyway, I've found this article and all of your comments to be very enlightening. I try to soak up as much as I can while I'm still young enough to learn from other people's experiences. Thanks!

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over 2 years ago

RETIRED TEACHER,AMAN,74 YEARS OLD,LOOKING FOR MARRIAGE WITH WOMAN MORE THAN 60 YEARS OLD
FAHED

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over 2 years ago

Hi

This is Nidhi

I am married he cheated me he is not a responsible guy. i have a son of 4 yrs i m working in good company and staying with my parents. looking for a guy who will take care of me and my son

Regards
Nidhi

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over 2 years ago


hi
im linda from philippines married a czech man without childrens, how will i make divorce my czech husband?
do i have a support even if we dont have kids? i need your help to finish my problem,
thanks more power,
linda

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almost 3 years ago

I am nearly 34 aspiring to be a complete man. I had sex with a prostitute. I suggest to all men thinking of that to not go that route. But then again, if you can afford one you like it may just be the only kind of lifestyle you can have that can come close to your dreams perhaps. But I think
God may punish you even worse than before you did it. You may seriously regret it because there is a God that will make you regret it trust me on this one. I had sex with only one prostitute and before that I used to see beautiful women all the time now I rarely see beautiful women is as if God places them exactly the opposite of where I am looking as a punishment. This is the honest truth I don't know how else to explain it unless all the pick up artists got all the beautiful ones married off. Anyway I completely resonate with some of the guys here that hate seeing and looking at other successful couples the only guys I don't envy are the ones with sub par women but the guys that have it all I hate to the extreme. One thing I know some women will treat you like really badly some will not some will treat you nice at first but then treat you like bad later its a bad situation. If you like that up and down roller coaster you have to have really strong nerves but most people will be destroyed by that. The love is incredible but the rejection is equally remarkable and will completely efface the good feelings and can make you feel suicidal and homicidal. That's the honest truth. This world is so incredibly ruined words cannot express it sufficiently enough. No wonder people seek escapism like drugs and other avenues. Which may be a good thing if you know what you are doing. Anxiety and rejection can be treated with the right kind of treatments because all it is is a pain response but if you know how to control your pain mechanisms you are set. Some anxiolitics are things like schizandra and phenylethylamine which I can't go into detail here. But it all has to do with the nociceptors and opioid receptors I believe. Phenylethylamine is referred to as the love neuromodulator. It is anxiogenic. But you have to know what you are doing. You have to take it with an MAO-A AND MAO-B inhibitor like resveratrol from like japanese knotweed solary has a good one for that and also rhodiola will work to inhibit MAO-B. This helps keep the good brain chemistry up. The social anxiety forums talk extensively about this. I don't agree with drugging but herbs and natural compounds like L-dopa and DHEA may be of help. I hate Hollywood and the movies and media that are always feeding our fantasies. I wish someone would kill off all those liars. Riches, fame and fortune and good genetics and high earnings are a rare thing it is not the norm!!!
THE WOMAN WAS CREATED FOR THE MAN READ IT IS IN THE BIBLE, GODS WORD!!!THE WOMAN IS TO BE THE MANS HELPER AND COMPANION AND IS SUPPOSE TO FULFILL HIS SOCIAL NEEDS. BUT TRUTH IS WOMEN ARE GOLD DIGGERS AND THIS IS BECAUSE IF THEY HAVE CHILDREN THEY NEED THAT MAN TO PROVIDE ETC. THAT IS UNDERSTANDABLE BUT THE THING IS THAT WHY DO YOU HAVE TO GO FOR THE DOCTOR GO FOR THE GUY AT SUBWAY TOO.

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8 months ago

Man, all these comments are exhausting!!!

After spending more than 20 years with 4 different women and not marrying any of them... I made the right decision.

I am 47, I've been with hundreds of women, and I'm single by choice!

It's always the same... After awhile, they p u s s y-whip you down so low...
That they don't even respect you themselves!

So they bail you for some other chump, break your heart, and make a grown man cry!!
They proceed to marry the dude, have a kid, divorce him, and the poor sucker pays the rest of his life!

I not only will never marry, I don't even date anymore.

Chicks are for f a g s !.... And I'm not gay.

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over 1 year ago

this is for JOE SANE and other men of the same ilk:

I'm 56 and I must agree with you on your assessment of how the USA treats men. I HATE TO, BUT I MUST. White men, inparticular. It's starting to filter down to all men. Of all colors.

Boys are being taught to be docile--let the women rule. Girls are allowed/encouraged to be violent. Why not? Let them go into combat. Why not?

Why are they doing this?

Women gather. Take.

Men take what they want, need.

Women cheat to get what they want.

Men kill to get what they want. Men kill cheaters. We're taught to. It's our code.

Why, in general, do men kill their cheating spouses but women just divorce them?

Would women, in general, kill their cheating spouses if they didn't get compensation in divorce courts?

Do men, in general, need/value love? Do women not?

Hmmmmmm.

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over 1 year ago

I am 28 and married for 10 days and have no children.
I really loved the woman and wanted to take care of her for the rest of my life despite whatever the challenges. I wanted to be there for her whenever she needed me and love her so love. However, things are not always as they seem. Now I have decided that I will never get married. I have never dated nor slept with anyone to pursuit a swinging lifestyle. I will continue my life being a single and strong. I know I am not attractive and will have lot of criticism from women about being not rich and good looking. Most women are not of any quality anymore. They are sad creatures who like to swing like monkeys from one branch to another. I wish I never got married. I feel devastated every day and I know I got to express to progress. But most women are devils who have shape of angels.

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almost 2 years ago

This articleis highly sexist and offensive. The genralizations about men are incorrect but do fall into the current american narrative of degrading men on all fronts. I am in now way "low" for not having been married. At 37 I simply hve not found anyone of proper character. Sadly this society hates men and so do most women in the west. For me, this is sickness and clearly places a lot of pressure on men to measure up to unrealistic expectations from women. Most men in the west are alone and feel deeply hurt and un needed. To somehow suggest that this society can sustain itself in this way for any given periodof time is incorrect. Men who suffer often turn to make others suffer. There is a real problem in the usa in particular with the deinvestment in the well being of men. America will die as a result of how it treats its men. Declaring an unmarried man low is the first step towards invalidating all men who do not fit a specific mold.

Could it be that these so called "successful" women are the ones who are low? These individuals who place no value on human life andinteraction. Those who value money and degrees over life? Perhaps their " success" is more or less a sign of human failure? Perhaps men who resist the pressure to be what wome or society wants are indeed quite high as opposed to " low" as was suggested in the nazi written article above.

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about 2 years ago

ime 52 and ime going to have to side with joe on this one.reguardless of the exscuse that wemen give for there actions the effect they leave on men is just the same.there quest in life is baby,house car.when your both young and going out with them there trying to decide if your the typ that will surender the wheel to the boat and let them drive.go to work like a f-ing slave so they can make babys and you can pay the bills.years after they have achived there goal and the man is wore out they decide they want to have fun now becaus they sacrificed there youth haveing kids and missed out on being one so they finde a f%&#k buddy,always a guy whos been married,never single un married men.i know it can go both ways but wemen are kiniveing liers.most of the young girls i went to school with are now in there late 40s early 50s and have been married a fiew times and now devorced.in my early single days all my friends were married and all they did was fight and argue like my parents.i said to my self ,,,this is my future? this is happy? i like getting laid as much as the next guy but if the price for getting laid is a life time of mizzery then i guess ime not getting laid,and there are worse things in life.i like to drink the milk but i can not aford the cow so i guess i can,t drink milk. oh well.all my life i had always been nice to wemen and they have always been atracted to me as i am to them and enjoyed converseing with me but when it came to them chooseing me for a mate i guess i was never the right materiel .devorced men tell me ime blessed. in the end my opinion of wemen (event in my own family) is that there shallow ,life sucking and useing with disreguard for the damage they do to all who they leave in there wake.and when asked about the lifes they screwed up or used they always have an excuse to justafie there actions.i still have some time for some woman to come along and prove me rong but if the past is the best predictor of the future i donte see it happening.

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about 2 years ago

“Oh God, my life was made hell by my wife just because she thought i was cheating on her, she said i come home late from work and i do not even have time for her at all, but she was wrong, the opposite was the case. I was awarded a project from my office and had to finish it so that i can be promoted.
so my wife packed away and move to her mother's place in the next city, L.A. I was devasted and i have not been my self for 2weeks now, until a friend introduced me to a spell caster online whose email is priestessmunak@gmail.com
I have never done anything like this, so it seems unsuall and somehow. but i just have to play along and wait because she gave me so much confident that my wife must come back in 3days.
I did all she required and she casted the spell. in just 3days as she has said, my wife came back in the evening pleading with her mom that she is sorry for acting rude. I was so surprise that i thought it was not real, but to my very eyes my wife was ready to do anything just to make me know that she love me to the finish.
I can never stop thanking Priestess Munak for her wonderful spell work. she brought my family to gether as one again.
priestessmunak@gmail.com spells works powerfully.

Rotius

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about 2 years ago

MOHAMED from CAIRO EGYPT DO YOU HAVE AN EMAIL

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over 2 years ago


COORDINATOR & HEAD OF ALL INSTITUTIONS & EVERYBODY, April 01, 2012

RESPECTED SIR,

EVERYBODY WANTS BETTERMENT OF FEMALES, WHY SO MANY RELIGIONS HAS BEEN CREATED???????????? IS MARRIAGE NECESSARY TO THINK FOR BETTERMENT OF ALL FEMALES???? Now, HOW to identify females / people by religion & country wise??????????????????????????????????????????

After finishing the EDUCATION doesn’t Marry & become A SAINTS’ to avoid all diseases & all corruptions. WHY TO MARRY & WHY A CHILD OR A MALE CHILD TO BE KILLED / SLAUGHTERED IN THIS ANIMALS’ WORLD??????? BY THIS THE CHILDREN, WHO WILL MARRY AND WHO WILL NOT MARRY BOTH /EVERYBODY WILL HAVE FULL OF KNOWLEDGE. >>>>PEOPLE / CHILDREN SHOULD BE CAREFUL FROM SCHOOLS / CHILDHOOD.

>>>>>EDUCATE A CHILD ALWAYS, ‘’HOW SHOULD NOT BE KILLED / SLAUGHTERED LIKE GOAT / ANIMALS’ BY A FEMALE OR THEIR WRONG EDUCATORS’ IN REMOTE AREAS’’????????????? WHETHER ANY CASTE???????????
Page no.68 (12th Line) If we think & ask them, they have nine lives in INDIA like Cats
and Boys are dying like houseflies.
Above written in HINDI BOOK -----------Bhartiya Nari
Written by Swami Vivekananda

WHY CRIME / CRIMINALS ARE THERE, GOOD WAS THERE & WORD GOD WAS MADE FOR LITERATE CRIME. >>>>>>>>>>>MANY WORDS HAS BEEN CREATED.
>>>>>>>>>>ANIMALS’ CANNOT THINK / TELL TRUTH.>>>>>>>

Page no.24 (18th Line) To-day the EDUCATION given to females is not good. We should
give Progressive & Truth Education and it is not only from the books.
Above written in HINDI BOOK -----------Bhartiya Nari
Written by Swami Vivekananda

AFTER A CHILD BORN MAKES HIM SITTING INFRONT OF ANY GOD,
WHY STUDY>>>>> THINK & SEE, WHAT HAPPENS????????????????????????????????
“THIS IS LITERATE CRIME”

Everybody can think on TRUTH. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE IN GOVERNMENTS / POLITICS WHOM WE CAN SAY THE AGENTS OF CRIMINALS OR CRIMINALS ARE THEIR GOD OTHERWISE HOW IT IS POSSIABLE LIKE THE DEATH OF FORMER PM OF INDIA LATE MRS. INDIRA GANDHI / MR. RAJEEV GANDHI OR OTHERS’ INCIDENTS. WHY YOU THINK CHILDREN ARE AS GOOD AS ANIMALS’.

-----Cont;-----2-----
RESERVATION & BETTERMENT OF FEMALES SHOULD BE MORE THAN 100%, WHY 33% AND EVERYWHERE SHOULD BE FULL OF FEMALES OF ALL RELIGIONS.

LIKE 50% females SHOULD BE FROM LOW INCOME GROUP OR FARMERS, WHO
WORKS HARD FOR FOOD FOR EVERYBODY (INCLUDES 20% PHYSICALLY HANDICAPPED)
10% SCHOOL STUDENTS’ INTERESTED IN POLITICS TO THINK FOR THEIR YOUNGERS
10% COLLEGE STUDENTS’ INTERESTED IN POLITICS TO THINK FOR YOUNGERS
10% TEACHERS’ BEST IN MATHS / SCIENCE / MEDICAL
10% DOCTORS’
10% SCIENTISTS’
IN ABOVE 30% LEARNED CATOGARIES MAY GUIDE OTHERS TO THINK BETTER / BEST.

Learn from animals’ / dead bodies / WORLD to discuss as doctors’ learn to save humans and scientists’ learn for developments & safety. PLEASE DONOT LEAVE ANYTHING ON ANY GOD & THINK BETTER / BEST. Differences between animals & humans is, Humans can think & have mind which can think for the best’.

Page no.47 (10th Line) The pride of man is due to his thinking power and man are
different due to his thinking power only.
Above written in HINDI BOOK -----------VEDANTA IN PRACTICAL LIFE
Written by Swami Vivekananda

SELECT ATLEAST FEW TRUTH / GOOD POINTS FOR CHILDREN TO REACH AT THE BEST LIKE DR. ABDUL KALAM / SWAMI VIVEKANANDA / BILL GATES / RAHIM ETC. BUT DONOT SING A SONG ONLY OR DONOT LISTEN ANYTHING LIKE STORY OF ANYBODY AND THINKS TO DO BETTER / BEST FOR PEOPLE / CHILDREN OR THINKS IN PRACTICAL FOR CHILDREN. THE HUMANS IN THE WORLD IS MOVING BECAUSE OF FARMERS, WHO’S WORKS HARD FOR FOOD. THE MAIN CORRUPTION IS THE GAP BETWEEN STUDY / THEORY / THEORITICAL AND PRACTICAL.

ATLEAST BY THINKING / WORKING LIKE DR. ABDUL KALAM / BILL GATES YOU MAY ALSO REACH TO BEST / EXECELLENT TO SAVE PEOPLE / CHILDREN FROM WRONG EDUCATORS’ / LITERATE CRIME. Think & you may RESEARCH, why Muslim males are giving their skin or a small portion of males’ organ in childhood. There is theoretical & scientific reason & behind this reason of ETHICS is also there, you can also think. Other differences may be also RESEARCH for children. TELL THEM TRUTH. Why humans cannot think above neck, if you think below neck, you are male & female. IF A CHILD HAVE MIND OR SENSIBILITY TO THINK BECOME A BEST DOCTOR / SCIENTISTS TO SAVE HUMANS’ OR THINK ON TRUTH for best world for children by automatic system OR simple law AND insist to become a scientists for the best world by healing or other technologies like sensor / laser / Nana technology / remote / reiki etc. A CHILD / YOU MAY UNDERSTAND BY A PICTURE WHAT THEY DO AND HOW THEY DO.
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over 2 years ago


Master Bunt;

Here the updated as you have requested on my situation. I have had
amazing things happen during the first week of my casting.Wilson has
done a 360 and is now talking with me and wanting to spend time with
me again. I can’t believe after all that has happened he actually
turned around and started talking and wanting to be with me. Its
AMAZING! You are like a god send, an angel in my life. What can I
say. Eliza and him just split up and he is wanting now to be with
me. We went out last night and he confessed his love for me and the
love told me how much he wanted to be with me. I still can not
believe that he has turned around like this. I am in shock. He was so
dead set on Eliza and not wanting to be with me that I could not
see it turning around. You know you were my last hope. After getting
scammed by many other spell casters that just wanted my money I am
glad that I put my faith in just one more person. I am in your debt
for a life time!

Tessy sys thank wintchcraftspell@gmail.com for me if he can not find this.

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over 2 years ago

hello every one i have just met with this priest of the reunitingexspell@gmail.com and i finally find out that he is really a truthful spell caster and so powerful and he is the most powerful spell caster that i have ever met. i wish i have met him before. and my husband have just come back to me and every thing happened just the way he had said it i am so happy that i have met with him and now i have my husband back to my self. if you all that are here have not tried him you just have to do so and get your heart desires fulfilled. stop been doubting i have tested him and i am now a fulfilled woman. sidney huster REUNITING EX SPELL TEMPLE IS GREAT.THANK YOU FOR THE HAPPINESS YOU BROUGHT ON ME. you can reach him if need be at reunitingexspell@gmail.com

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over 2 years ago

Having been a "traveler" for most of my years(67) and working during the "proper mating times", I have found it is no wonder that I have stayed single. My career didn't appeal to the young ladies at the "proper time"(Vietnam and women's lib), so being military was a no-no! So, I have the "benefits" that could have been shared all to myself! So sad, too bad ladies!

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over 2 years ago

Being single on the relationship front makes us often feel like failures. Mostly because of societies view of single men. We arn't really accepted by our peers. We're always treated like a sub category, or like were not correct. I think its this lack of social acceptance and judgement by others that makes us feel so self concious, and constantly reminds us and makes us feel guilty about our social status. It can turn us into people pleasers and make us try to live up to other peoples expectations. There is nothing wrong with being single, or just being who you are. Don't let others place their moral judgments upon you. Well enough said about that. Be proud of who you are. Don't feel bad about yourself because of a preconceived notion of how your life should be. God is love, and is about love and acceptance. Society on the other hand is often about judgement and rejection. God loves us the way we are. I myself must live in to day, and in the moment and be grateful for that, and know that God loves me.

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about 3 years ago

In response to some posts.

Shyness may be inherited. Fortunately, we have a brain that can develop new skills and behaviors around shyness.

Their are women out there who are open to relationships. They are geniuses at relationships.

You don't have to "feel" self-confident to be self-confident. Action is confidence. Relate by finding something in common, not by thinking about yourself or how you alone feel. Respecting emotional boundaries and empathizing with the other person is maturity and is behavior that shows you are not a "creep". Empathy is fun as you aren't thinking about yourself.

Some people may lack inherent ability to empathize. But there are things you can learn: just observe. Relationships are about the other person. Unfortunately some folks may have never developed these skills and don't know they exist because they don't have role models (broken families), withdraw too much even if they feel uncomfortable, electronic networks keep people at a distance, etc.

Friendships and healthy relationships are things that everyone values. TV, internet, music, magazines and the lot are not models--at all.

1) Do
2) Think about how the other feels you won't worry about how you feel
3) Develop empathy skills
4) Go forth and be human :) You can do it; I'm sure, because you are human :)

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almost 3 years ago

i am married. my husband age is now 36. his parents are about 65years. both of them are alive. i want to know how long my husband parents will be alive. i want to know the exact status regarding this. please provide me the accurate details in related to this. either his father or mother first and @ what age they will.

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1 day ago

Since met Dr Eziza everything about me is get better by the day. the given Dr Eziza has been doing it for alot of people, i also contact him for my marriage problem and now am giving the testimony of life. brothers and sisters out there is time for a change in that your situation you've wasted money on and everything still remain the same, here are the details to reach him:+2348058176289 ezizaoguntemple@gmail.com

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11 days ago

I have been condemned to bachelorhood forever. Growing up was hard. Stuck in a large controlling family. Highschool life stunk. All the girls went for the older guys or the ones with cars. As an adult several dates were a waste of money and time. Liars, crazy women, and hoochies after money.
If I ever date again.. It will be with a woman 8 years my junior. Anyone near my age had their fun without me. So I'll have my fun without them.
If that doesn't happen.. I'll just find a nice quiet place to die alone with my grief.

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11 days ago

I have been condemned to bachelorhood forever. Growing up was hard. Stuck in a large controlling family. Highschool life stunk. All the girls went for the older guys or the ones with cars. As an adult several dates were a waste of money and time. Liars, crazy women, and hoochies after money.
If I ever date again.. It will be with a woman 8 years my junior. Anyone near my age had their fun without me. So I'll have my fun without them.
If that doesn't happen.. I'll just find a nice quiet place to die alone with my grief.

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11 days ago

I have been condemned to bachelorhood forever. Growing up was hard. Stuck in a large controlling family. Highschool life stunk. All the girls went for the older guys or the ones with cars. As an adult several dates were a waste of money and time. Liars, crazy women, and hoochies after money.
If I ever date again.. It will be with a woman 8 years my junior. Anyone near my age had their fun without me. So I'll have my fun without them.
If that doesn't happen.. I'll just find a nice quiet place to die alone with my grief.

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about 1 month ago


My name is Jennifer and i want to testify of the good work done by a faithful DR PALOMA, a spell caster. in my life i never thought there is such thing as spiritual intercession. my problem started 5 months back when the father of my kids started putting up some strange behavior, i never knew he was having an affair outside our matrimonial home. it dawn on me on that faithful day 4th of April 21st 4:23pm when he came to the house to pick his things that was when i knew that situation has gotten out of hand and he then told me he was quitting the marriage which i have built for over 6 years, i was confused and dumbfounded i called on family and friends but to no avail. two months after i started having problem with my kids welfare rent-age and all of it, i really went through ***. until a day i was browsing on the internet and i happen to meet DR PALOMA Email palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com i never believed on this but i needed my man back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it but you know a problem shared is half solved after a 2das my husband called me telling me that he his coming back home and that was all. now we are living happily and i still do contact him on this email: palomaspelltemple@yahoo.com

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about 1 month ago

MY NAME IS ELISABETH FROM UNITED KINGDOM.
i want to use this golden opportunity to announce to the entire world, how happy and grateful i am today, shearing this testimony to the whole world. because of the full commitment with my ex after the casting of a spell by DR RAMAN that bring back my ex husband. it all happen after given birth to my first child, i found out that there was problem in my family because of the unusual behavior of my husband which lead to our break up, i tried all i could to bring him back, but all my effort was just a wast of time, the more i try the more things get worst, even when he hard the cry of my baby through phone call, all he could tell me was, *go to hail with the baby*, things went worst than i could Eva imagine in my life, all i was thinking about is how my child will feel when he found out that he grow up without a father, i was so worn out and confuse about life. the most painful thing was the fat that i love my husband so much to the extent that i could not concentrate in anything am doing. after five years of break up, i meet an old time friend, she was my course mate in the university, way back than, she ask me about my husband because she also attended my wedding ceremony, i was crying, then she notice that things went wrong, i told her every thing, she took me to this great DR called RAMAN,when we get there he told me not to worry that if i will let him handle the work that my husband will come back in 48hours, i thought it was a joke because have try three other spell caster nothing came out of it, so my friend told me to let him handle it, then i give him a chance, surprisingly the next 48hours i hard a knock on my door, then i opened, guess who i saw? i say the love of my live, he came with a powerful CAR, and some amount of money just to apologize to me, then i accepted. today we have three children and nothing will break us up again. if you need this DR RAMAN email him on ramansolutiontemple@gmail.com he is the best spell caster. thank you DR RAMAN, once again his email is ramansolutiontemple@gmail.com

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about 1 month ago

what a great testimony am about to shear to the entire world, is relay a joyful thing to be happy in your relationship i never have it in mind that i could ever been with my husband again in life. DR UNITY is really a great spell caster he can help you cast a spell to bring back your gone lost caster over lover back, make good money, spell for a good job, spell for protection, spell to guild your money, spell to win lotto and lottery and lot more. well it is a long story but i will cut it short, after 15years of marriage with three kids my husband started keeping late night, at first i thought it was normal, little did i know that he was bringing different girls to our matrimonial bed, to the extent that i was the one washing there cloth, because they said marriage is for better or worst, he started calling me and my children different names, i was so confused and there was no hope, so he told me to live his house with my kids, i left and was confuse about the sodding change, one day i was browsing through the internet, i saw a testimony about how DR UNITY help people with different problems, so i build my faith in him and contacted him, he told him not to worry that in 48hours he will find me and beg for forgiveness, i though it was a joke, when it was 48hours i hard i gentle knock on my door, (guess what?) when i open it was my husband and three of his friends knelling and begging for forgiveness, today he is the best husband a woman will dream to have and we are one and happy family. thanks DR UNITY. contact him because he is the only man who can help you with your problems. email unitylovetemple@gmail.com again unitylovetemple@gmail.com

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about 1 month ago

what a great testimony am about to shear to the entire world, is relay a joyful thing to be happy in your relationship i never have it in mind that i could ever been with my husband again in life. DR UNITY is really a great spell caster he can help you cast a spell to bring back your gone lost caster over lover back, make good money, spell for a good job, spell for protection, spell to guild your money, spell to win lotto and lottery and lot more. well it is a long story but i will cut it short, after 15years of marriage with three kids my husband started keeping late night, at first i thought it was normal, little did i know that he was bringing different girls to our matrimonial bed, to the extent that i was the one washing there cloth, because they said marriage is for better or worst, he started calling me and my children different names, i was so confused and there was no hope, so he told me to live his house with my kids, i left and was confuse about the sodding change, one day i was browsing through the internet, i saw a testimony about how DR UNITY help people with different problems, so i build my faith in him and contacted him, he told him not to worry that in 48hours he will find me and beg for forgiveness, i though it was a joke, when it was 48hours i hard i gentle knock on my door, (guess what?) when i open it was my husband and three of his friends knelling and begging for forgiveness, today he is the best husband a woman will dream to have and we are one and happy family. thanks DR UNITY. contact him because he is the only man who can help you with your problems. email unitylovetemple@gmail.com again unitylovetemple@gmail.com

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about 1 month ago

what a great testimony am about to shear to the entire world, is relay a joyful thing to be happy in your relationship i never have it in mind that i could ever been with my husband again in life. DR UNITY is really a great spell caster he can help you cast a spell to bring back your gone lost caster over lover back, make good money, spell for a good job, spell for protection, spell to guild your money, spell to win lotto and lottery and lot more. well it is a long story but i will cut it short, after 15years of marriage with three kids my husband started keeping late night, at first i thought it was normal, little did i know that he was bringing different girls to our matrimonial bed, to the extent that i was the one washing there cloth, because they said marriage is for better or worst, he started calling me and my children different names, i was so confused and there was no hope, so he told me to live his house with my kids, i left and was confuse about the sodding change, one day i was browsing through the internet, i saw a testimony about how DR UNITY help people with different problems, so i build my faith in him and contacted him, he told him not to worry that in 48hours he will find me and beg for forgiveness, i though it was a joke, when it was 48hours i hard i gentle knock on my door, (guess what?) when i open it was my husband and three of his friends knelling and begging for forgiveness, today he is the best husband a woman will dream to have and we are one and happy family. thanks DR UNITY. contact him because he is the only man who can help you with your problems. email unitylovetemple@gmail.com again unitylovetemple@gmail.com

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about 1 month ago

I'm 43 have two children , one of whom is living on his own as an adult. My youngest is 16 and lives with me at home. I have for the most part enjoyed being single. I have always felt that being married was to much of a controlled aspect to a "you only live once," Attitude. And whether I do end up eventually married or staying the same. I really look forward to where my life will lead. I have never expected to have the traditional story book or fantasy island thoughts of how a gender bias group should conduct themselves in a social setting; whether its religion or just basic cultural traditions. It never was on my agenda. My social support is fine , at times I am left to the ideals of entertainment,but the meeting new people , and building strong life long friends and companions is much better than being tied to an old post and watered and fed. Being single isn't for everyone , you have to be litterally brought up in a learn to live with yourself attitude. And know what you make in life is in your power so feeling alone never exists.

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2 months ago


am writing this because I want to testify how great Papa indianspell@hotmail.com is. Everyone needs to know! I am a very satisfied and happy client. I can’t tell how long it’s been since I’ve bought spells online, but none of them had the same results than his. Margaret definitely moved in with me 2 months ago. It was just a few weeks after he cast a love spell for me. If know I should have messaged him before, but I was a bit scared that she could find out about the spell hee did so I removed his email. Anyway, I can tell everyone who are reading this that they are doing the right choice to go with Papa indianspell@hotmail.com for a spell. It was always great communicate with him and all the services he offer are just excellent.

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5 months ago

I AM BELA i want to give thanks and i will always give thanks to DR.utimate who brought back my love that has left me for 6years within 48hours, i have said about this last week but i promised to always tell people about this every week end so that those that did not read about it last week will read about it this week, i have been looking for how to get this boy back to my life because i love this boy with the whole of my heart, i could not replace him with any body,one day i was watching my television when i saw a lady giving thanks to DR.utimate and telling the world how he helped her i was so shocked i could not believe it because i never taught that there are powers that can bring back lost love, then that was how i decided to contact him too because i do really need my love back,when i contacted him i told him everything and he told me not to worry that my love will surely be back to my arms within 48hours at first i could not believe because i was thinking how could somebody that has gone for 6years come back within 48 hours,so then i decided to watch and see,unbelievable within the next 48hours i got a call from unknown number so i decided to pick the call the next thing i could hear was my loves voice he was pleading and begging me on the phone that i should forgive him that i should forget all that have happened that he did not know what came over him,he promised not to leave for any reason, that he was really sorry for what he did,i was so surprised because i never believed that this could happen,so that was how i accepted his apology and the next morning he came to my house and still pleading for me to forgive him i told him that everything is okay that i have forgiven him, that was how we started again and now we are married, i promised to say this testimony in radio station, commenting this testimony is still okay but before this month runs out i promise to say this in radio station and i will,sir thank you very much.World please am begging you people to try and thank this man for me,or if you need his help here is his email address:utimatespellhome@gmail.com

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5 months ago

I AM BELA i want to give thanks and i will always give thanks to DR.utimate who brought back my love that has left me for 6years within 48hours, i have said about this last week but i promised to always tell people about this every week end so that those that did not read about it last week will read about it this week, i have been looking for how to get this boy back to my life because i love this boy with the whole of my heart, i could not replace him with any body,one day i was watching my television when i saw a lady giving thanks to DR.utimate and telling the world how he helped her i was so shocked i could not believe it because i never taught that there are powers that can bring back lost love, then that was how i decided to contact him too because i do really need my love back,when i contacted him i told him everything and he told me not to worry that my love will surely be back to my arms within 48hours at first i could not believe because i was thinking how could somebody that has gone for 6years come back within 48 hours,so then i decided to watch and see,unbelievable within the next 48hours i got a call from unknown number so i decided to pick the call the next thing i could hear was my loves voice he was pleading and begging me on the phone that i should forgive him that i should forget all that have happened that he did not know what came over him,he promised not to leave for any reason, that he was really sorry for what he did,i was so surprised because i never believed that this could happen,so that was how i accepted his apology and the next morning he came to my house and still pleading for me to forgive him i told him that everything is okay that i have forgiven him, that was how we started again and now we are married, i promised to say this testimony in radio station, commenting this testimony is still okay but before this month runs out i promise to say this in radio station and i will,sir thank you very much.World please am begging you people to try and thank this man for me,or if you need his help here is his email address:utimatespellhome@gmail.com

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11 months ago

i want to thank dr oririoko for the herbal hiv medicine he gave to me and my daughter, i was suffering from hiv when i gave birth to my daughter and that was how my daughter got the sickness indirect from me, but to God be the glory that i am heal with the herbal medicine that DR Oko gave to me when i contacted him. i want to use this medium to tell everyone that the solution to our sickness has come, so i will like you to contact this great healer on his email address: droririokohelphome@gmail.com with him all your pains will be gone, i am really happy today that i and my daughter are cured of hiv, we are now negative after the use of his medicine,my doctor confirm it.
once more i say a big thank to you Dr oririoko for healing hands upon my life and my daughter, i say may God continue to bless you abundantly and give you more power to keep helping those that want your help in their lives. email him now he is waiting to receive you.

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about 1 year ago

HELLO. I WAS GOING THROUGH THE ARTICAL ABOUT MEN THATS NEVER MARRIED. HAVE/HAS ANYONE EVER DONE A SURVEY ON OR FOR [[ EVER SINGLE GUY ]]?? THERE'S SO MANEY DIFFERENT CIRUMSTANCES THAT MIGHT KEEP ONE FROM DOING SO. FOR ME. ONE REASON IS,I HAVE A MENTALLY HANDICAPED SISTER. YOU MIGHT THINK-BIG DEAL A LOT OF PEOPLE THATS GOTTEN MARRIED. MIGHT BE IN THAT BOAT. BUT IN MY CASE. MY SOSTER WAS SO BAD I WOULD HIDE FROM HER ANYWAY I COULD. IN THE CLOSET'S,IN CORNNER'S,ETC. IT'S LIKE SHE WAS POSSED!! AND I ALWAYS WONDERED WHY MOM, OR DAD COULDNT, OR WOULDENT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. MOM WAS SUPER REGLIOUS. AND I KNOW SHE LOVED VIVIAN LIKE ANY MOTHER WOULD. BUT IT PUT ME IN HARMS WAY IN MORE WAYS THAN ONE. SHE WOULD GO MAD AT THE DROP OF A HAT. SCREAM,HOLLER,CRY,BEAT HER HEAD,HER STOMACH,PULL HER HAIR,YOU NAME IT. DAD WAS A VERY SMART GUY. SERVED IN WORLD WAR 2.AND WAS ABOUT 18 OR SO YEARS OLDER THAN MOM.ON THE FLIP SIDE. MOM WAS OVERLY KIND,TO FORGIVEN,SHOWED TO MUCH LOVE.FORMAL EDUCATION. GREW UP ON A FARM, WORKED SUN UP TO SUN DOWN.I DONT KNOW WHY IM WRITING THIS. I COULD WRITE A BOOK. AND ITS BEEN SUGGESTED I DO THAT. BUT I HAVE HAD A COUPLE OF GOOD LOOKING WOMEN IN MY LIFE! ONE I REGREAT [ VERY MUCH I LET GET AWAY ]!!!!THEN MABE IT WAS ALL MY FAULT.I ALSO TOOK CARE OF DAD WHEN HE GOT TO OLD TO DRIVEAND MADE ALL THE DECISIONS FOR MOM. AND ABOUT ALL TURNED OUT TO BE BAD. LOSEING OUR HOME. ETC. AND THE MORE I TRIED TO BETTER MYSELF,OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND AGAIN.BUT I HAD SO MUCH DESTRUCTION IN MY LIFE. IYT HELD ME BACK, AS WELL AS NOT OR NOT BEING ABLE TO LEARN,OR REMBER. I USED TO BE OUT GOING,UPBEAT,AND HANDLE EVERYTHING THAT CAME MY WAY. BUT IF ONE HEARS NOTHING BUT NEGITIVE SCREAMING,AND OTHER THINGS IVE MENTIONED. THEN IT GITS TO A POINT. YOU FORGET ABOUT AMBITION'S,AND ALMOST EVERY THING ELSE IN YOUR LIFE. MABE IT DOSNT REALLY MATTER ANYMORE. I HAVE-A BOOK-AS I SAID.

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about 1 year ago


My name is lizzy Johnson and my ex-boyfriend dumped me 8 months ago after I caught him of having an affair with someone else and insulting him. I want him back in my life but he refuse to have any contact with me. I was so confuse and don’t know what to do, so I visited the INTERNET for help and I saw a testimony on how a spell caster help them to get their ex back so I contact the spell caster and explain my problems to him….. he cast a spell for me and assure me of 3 days that my ex will return to me and to my greatest surprise the third day my peter came knocking on my door and beg for forgiveness. I am so happy that my love is back again and not only that, we are about to get married. Once again thank you Dr Freedom spell caster, you are truly talented and gifted contact his email:omonigholovetemple@gmail.com

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about 1 year ago

I hate this article. Do you think you could have posted anything any more degrading to Men? The understatement being made is so clear. This society truly hates men's existence.

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over 1 year ago

I finally got the one i love to break up with the woman that took her from me. She is my friend but she betrayed me and took him away from me and she stole him from me, every time i saw them together it hurt me so bad inside i wanted to cry, but finally after using your service to cast a spell upon them 2 to break them up, so i get what rightfully deserves to be mine, i cant believe this actually worked thank you so much for giving me a chance thank you Ancientspiritualtemple@gmail. com

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over 1 year ago

hi im 37 never married or got kids just a dog shes all i need.
I did have lots of men in the past 10 yeras but nothing important came out of it all just fun really. i dont miss having a man or a relationship i think im far better of doing what i want instead of doing for the other person. i dont envy people with kids as its so expensive now so all i do is work and think of myself and my pooch that all thats matters!!!!

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over 1 year ago

WOW. Posted earlier. Just read a lot of the other posts.
Where the fxck are the rest of you people? Thought I was the only one to feel/be this way. Are you all hiding? Why is there no group for US? There's Parents Without Partners. There's Mothers Against Drunk Driving.

But when I google "Single woman who don't want children,can't have children but want a relationship with a man" I get this(which I'm thankful for) or I get bulls**t dating sites with women with kids or prostitutes posing as "single".

I'm not computer savy enough to set up a web site for this. Would someone who is please set up a site for childless singles.

Also, everybody should rent/stream the movie "Idiocrasy". It's a very real prophecy of what is happening in this world because the stupid, lazy, take care-of-me people are reproducing like unnutered cats and dogs while those of us who obviously care, are smart and willing to take care of children are not reproducing. Maybe then, I who have no children, can start appreciating other people's children instead of hating the majority of which who are stupid, lazy, ignorant, nasty, self-centered,... AHHHHHHHH.

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over 1 year ago

Shalondra:
I grew up like you. To be further alienated, I was the only white boy in the neighborhood back when MLK was shot to death in Memphis. I lived through the riots. I am now 56. I don't hate minorities. I don't own a gun. I believed in Martin's dream that "one day men would be judged by the content of their character...". What an idiot I was. I am living alone. I have had a few relationships with women. One when I was younger--don't know what her problem was with me. Said she loved me. Nah. Acted differently. Just broke one off with a woman my age. We were made for each other. Could finish each other's sentences. She was married. Twice. With two kids from different fathers. I tried constantly. She--very little. When I would try to break it off she would try to do better. Kept her dysfunctional, cracker, racist family in Md and tried living with me north of the Mason-Dixon line. It was a house divided by itself, which as they say, cannot stand.

It didn't.

Point is, her family got in the way, on her part. I'm looking for a woman that doesn't have children or doesn't want children or can't have children. CHILDREN ARE NOT EVERYTHING!!!! No matter what society trys to tell you. It's definitely time to say that children SHOULDN'T come first. Maybe they should start earning that privelege. You sound like a very nice person that wants love. People that are nice and want love deserve it. We don't always get it, though. Please don't stop looking because I'm twenty years older than you and being alone is unbearable. I was just gonna write,"Hey Shalondra. Just wait twenty more years and see if you don't stick a gun in your mouth." But I can empathize. I'm just like you. to a "t". I think when you grow up isolated you work on yourself. To improve yourself. You get to a point where you improve yourself so much that you become better than most of those around you. But you feel so low self esteem wise that you feel unworthy to go to those we call "winners". So we stay with the "losers". It won't work unless they try. Usually they won't. They are LAZY. But I never gave up. I still won't. I DESERVE love. I've paid the price. AND SO HAVE YOU. Good luck.

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over 1 year ago

i have been married for 13 years now,no child,not until i came across aigbedionspelltemple@gmail.com,he told me what to do and i did it,right now am blessed with a baby girl,am so happy,aigbedionspelltemple@gmail.com,thank you very much,i will always thank you till i die,you are so wonderful,sophia

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over 1 year ago

I have known quite a number of adult children of aging parents that rarely see their elderly folks, and they offer no help whatsoever. A child can live 20 minutes away and see his parents only two or three times a year (mostly on major holidays). It's hard to believe, but it is true. I do not believe in many cases that adult children will care for their parents when they are elderly. Very sad, but true.

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over 1 year ago

There is a 46 year old guy I am absolutely crazy over. I have had two unsucessful relationships that have both produced children. He has never been married never had children. He strings me along and talks alot about what is gonna happen when we get together....but getting together NEVER seems to happen.
Sometimes I sense in some of his talk that he REGRETS never having married or having any children. I dont know maybe I am not the one for him. I am a few years younger than he is and my child bearing years have really for all intensive purposes passed... and he has asked( about that).
Maybe he will be better off with someone else But I was really hoping to get a chance with him; sadly i seem to think his life has caused some problems for him and I do not think I will ever see the day ( of us getting together) will ever manifest.

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over 1 year ago

HELLO to my friends out there i am testifying about the good work of a man who help me it has been hell from the day my husband left me i am a woman with two kids my problem stated when the father of my kids travel i never help he was living but as at two weeks i did not set my eye on my husband i try calling but he was not taken my call some week he call me telling me that he has found love some where easy at first i never take to be serous but day after he came to the house to pick his things that was the time i notice that things is going bad i help he will come back but things was going bad day by day i needed to talk to someone about it so i went to his friend but there was no help so i give it up on him month later i met on the the internet a spell caster i never believe on this but i needed my men back so i gave the spell caster my problem at first i never trusted him so i was just doing it for doing sake but after three day my husband called me telling me that he his coming home i still do not believe but as at the six day the father to my kids came to the house asking me to for give him the spell work to said to my self from that day i was happy with my family thanks to the esango priest of (abamieghe)esango priest he his a great man you need to try him you can as well to tell him your problem so that he can be of help to you his content email is this esangopriest@gmail.com indeed you are a priest thank you for making my home a happy home again. remember his email is esangopriest@gmail.com

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over 1 year ago

This article doesn't totally apply to me because I did get married and am now divorced. That said, at 35 with no kids, I will NEVER marry again nor have children. The feminist movement of the last 50 years has destroyed the mindset of women in Western culture. Women today do not love men, they love what men can do for them. I refuse to let shaming language such as "man up", or "grow and pair and get married" cloud my judgement. I am a man going my own way and couldn't be more content with my decision.

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over 1 year ago

I am 48 years old, I am married for 20yrs now and I have suffered hell in the hands of my parents in-law, just because I am unable to bear a child, they have done all sort of everything to make sure I part with my husband. my husband has waited to the extent that he went having an affair outside our marriage due to pressure from his family. Just 4months ago here, I met with an old friend of mine and I told him about my critical life in my matrimonial home. He felt my pains and told me to meet a spell woman online who has helped so many people on issue even worse than that. I decided to meet the spell woman on the her email he gave me priestessifaa@yahoo.com., Unbelievably I told the spell lady my problems and he welcome me and asked me to leave all to her to handle, She told me that I would see result on the first night with my husband. Just as she says I got pregnant after a one night stand, It happened so easy like her powers has the key to open all doors. Am 7months pregnant now and has done a scanning to know its a boy. My family is so happy and my husband has promised me a car already all for the help of priestess Ifaa.
I owe this spell lady everything. she extremely powerful and strong with her powers and very encouraging.

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over 1 year ago

LOVE SPELL THAT HELP MY MARRIAGE
i have been married for 8yrs now and i have two kids,my husband used to love me but for now,he does not have my time,he hangs out with friends and girlfriends every day and spends more outside than in the house,i can't even remember when he last gave me money for my needs, he does not even like to take me out,i feel as if he does not want me any more, he even make love to me only when he feels as to, he does not care about my feeling, when i told my best friend about this, she introduce me to Dr Sambol, drsambolspelltemple01@gmail.com how help my cast a love spell and my husband was in love with me more than before, thank you drsambolspelltemple01@gmail.com, you can also contact his e-mail.




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over 1 year ago

LOVE SPELL THAT HELP MY MARRIAGE
i have been married for 8yrs now and i have two kids,my husband used to love me but for now,he does not have my time,he hangs out with friends and girlfriends every day and spends more outside than in the house,i can't even remember when he last gave me money for my needs, he does not even like to take me out,i feel as if he does not want me any more, he even make love to me only when he feels as to, he does not care about my feeling, when i told my best friend about this, she introduce me to Dr Sambol, drsambolspelltemple01@gmail.com how help my cast a love spell and my husband was in love with me more than before, thank you drsambolspelltemple01@gmail.com, you can also contact his e-mail.




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over 1 year ago

I want to get married to a wonderful and beautiful woman,who we broke up cause i think of her listening to her friends and controlling father

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over 1 year ago

To the point in the article about single young woman outscoring single men who end up up at the bottom of the social scale I say go and speak to Warren Buffet.

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over 1 year ago

There is so much in this article that is so incredibly unimaginative. For example, ageism must be consciously confronted socially and personally in our implicate conditioning.
The truth is many things about living quality of life are not really a problem, when we can separate the historic inertia of expectation_ reflecting social construction around conditioned expectations and projections.

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over 1 year ago

Amazing how wo many people on here need to talk themseleves up and say how good looking they are. At least they will have the mirror. I am single myself, never mnarried, no kids but I am not going to think I am God's gift to the world either. CHances are if on this site, there is soemthing where people aren't happy.

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over 1 year ago

i left a comment earlier as Dennis Teel..read it.btw,my url is skyhex.com
hope this publishes

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over 1 year ago

am disabled as i have dspds which is something that's not visible mearly by appearance. i receive disability payments each month(direct deposit) and have medicare but that's all.i don't lack for anything materially and if one were to see inside my apartment i would appear to probably be making a nice livng. i've been diagnosed since 1981 and began recieving'total' disability at that time.problem is,women do not want to date a man that doesn't make enough money to raise children,pay for their medical bills,insurance,schooling,etc.they desire a normal life and mine has never been normal in that respect.being unemployed since 1981,i was often times in the past suspected as being everything from a narc to a drug dealer to whatever.after all i was 21 when i began to recieve disability payments.unemployed thru my 20's,30's and 40's has given people incorrect extreme impressions of me and my lifestyle.i'm somewhat educated and quite intelligent.a very nice person.my being unemployed meant i had time to study so i did and am an ordained minister but have no church.i'm not legalistic and still love 80's music videos,horror movies and love to hang out in the coffee shop at 3am .my point is this.while i'm a nice guy with a normal life by appearances,the priority with women is money!period! to hell with love,they feel that they can muster that up(fall in love) if the right guy with the desired income comes along.i guess much of their thinking is normal.wanting children and a man who can monetarily take care of them.but doesn't that still regardless of the reason,point out that their priority is money?imo that stinks!!i'm alone based on nothing but the fact that i don't have the kind of monetary funds that women are looking for in a man.it's sad.i get out in public and two things occur when i actually meet someone that's obviously interested in me.first and most importantly she discovers that i'm not employed..disabled/i'm honest so i mention it up front,as she's going to ask me before that first date anyway.that.so i have to go in to a long explanation about my disabiliy and this doesn't help one iota.only to be turned down.no date.no relationship.also,by appearances i look to be between late 30's to mid 40's depending on one's judging abilites.i'm 58 actually.i always hung out with younger folks because i always attracted a younger crowd.that's also to my dating detriment,as i'm into 80's music and videos.but again..it's money.a lot of the single women i meet have kids(high school).i can't support them.i can't support a girlfriend financially.i can't pay her rent,.her car payment.if we got married i'd lose my disability as she'd be considered a means of support./to any single woman this is all drama to her that she doesn't have to endure if she just decides simply to pass me by for something else.easier to find someone that has money than to mess with the issues of a like of a guy like me. this is society.money will always be the priority.one major drwaback too is that having a girlfriend isn't what it used to be.it's like being married but living seperately.you can't have a girlfriend and still hang with the guys.dating isn't like it was with richie and fonzie.you know..the guys would go hang somewhere for a while and the girls would go do their thing somewhere and the guys would get back with their girls later in the evening sometime.when dating ws like that a person had his own space AND a girlfriend.today you're a couple but the guy still has husbandry duties or obligations.like being married but supposedly just a boyfriend.she expects you be with her in all your off work time.she goes to bed,you go home.that's as close to marriage as one can get/.anyway..that's my rant.

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almost 2 years ago


I have a feeling that i will be contacting you very soon regarding the phases of our schedule we set up on the subsequent contact. Plan one went according to your time line and has now been implemented in the right and correct procedure. No hiccups! I have great faith in you now I am living with the results from your first spell. (Amazing) Your second spell should be speeding in very soon. I will be able to tell more when the correct date happens.
So then, the right will be the next consultation to set up and coerce the blessed plan into action. Many thanks for your bold work and enterprising scope serving humanity dodogodssolution@yahoo.com . I am deeply impressed. Your authentic spiritual work is a refreshing change. It takes dedication to work as you do with such dignity and respect. I highly recommend your services and this. thank to you dodogodssolution@yahoo.com

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about 2 years ago

hi i think this network should connect me with Jon this 44yr old guy I am 33yrs and a single mom of one I am also born again and feel what Jon feels everyone needs someone in life.

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over 2 years ago

Dear Single Souls:

My name is LifeStar! First and foremost, I came across this website when I was “searching for the answer to my question that if Earth Angels on Planet Earth are meant to be Single rather than married” due to the fact that I have been single for a long time; and “recently Being Single AGAIN after I ended a very long-term relationship!”

Well, after reading what my fellow human beings said about their experience in a being single man or woman, I can sense and acknowledge all kinds of distresses” from these single souls that even led them to have self-esteem, image, and confidence issues during their singlehood on Planet Earth.

I have to admit that in the past, “I sensed and experienced extreme agony about being single” and “about why singleness had to choose me and chose some of my fellow human beings: men and women to be single despite the fact that we have the qualities that a spouse or potential partner would and could adore and that they could be happy with us!”

As time passed and as “I dug so deep into my heart, my soul, and my authentic purpose, mission, and visions including the purpose of my current important projects” that demanded so much of my time, energy, and care; “I came to realize that I am meant to be Single for a great cause; and this great cause is for humanity which is part of God’s Purpose for me” before I came down to Planet Earth to be human, so that I could and would have the time, energy, and freedom to carry out everything that I am asked and needed to do in this life time on Planet Earth!

Therefore, my Vibration as a Single Person or Single Soul on Planet Earth has emerged into “A New, Intriguing, and Refreshing Level with True Understanding, Acknowledgment, and Wisdom of My Single Life!” The truth is most “Earth Angels are meant to be Single;” and I finally understood this principle after searching for my answer since my early twenties!

Sincerely,

LifeStar

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over 2 years ago


Master Bunt;

Here the updated as you have requested on my situation. I have had
amazing things happen during the first week of my casting.Wilson has
done a 360 and is now talking with me and wanting to spend time with
me again. I can’t believe after all that has happened he actually
turned around and started talking and wanting to be with me. Its
AMAZING! You are like a god send, an angel in my life. What can I
say. Eliza and him just split up and he is wanting now to be with
me. We went out last night and he confessed his love for me and the
love told me how much he wanted to be with me. I still can not
believe that he has turned around like this. I am in shock. He was so
dead set on Eliza and not wanting to be with me that I could not
see it turning around. You know you were my last hope. After getting
scammed by many other spell casters that just wanted my money I am
glad that I put my faith in just one more person. I am in your debt
for a life time!

Tessy sys thank wintchcraftspell@gmail.com for me if he can not find this.

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over 2 years ago


Master Bunt;

Here the updated as you have requested on my situation. I have had
amazing things happen during the first week of my casting.Wilson has
done a 360 and is now talking with me and wanting to spend time with
me again. I can’t believe after all that has happened he actually
turned around and started talking and wanting to be with me. Its
AMAZING! You are like a god send, an angel in my life. What can I
say. Eliza and him just split up and he is wanting now to be with
me. We went out last night and he confessed his love for me and the
love told me how much he wanted to be with me. I still can not
believe that he has turned around like this. I am in shock. He was so
dead set on Eliza and not wanting to be with me that I could not
see it turning around. You know you were my last hope. After getting
scammed by many other spell casters that just wanted my money I am
glad that I put my faith in just one more person. I am in your debt
for a life time!

Tessy sys thank wintchcraftspell@gmail.com for me if he can not find this.

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over 2 years ago

I have read a lot of these stories and feel immensly saddened by how lonely some people are and how hurt and damaged some are by experiences in the past by parents or partners.

My parents left my sister and me when we were 2 to go around the world for a year.
That separation then has taken me the best part of 50 years to work out what was wrong with my relationships.

I was always attractive to women and never short of dates and fell in love twice reasonbly successful in business and good at mixing with people ,but for some reason relationships never lasted.,
I have finally worked it out but now at 60 maybe its too late.

My own conclusion, is many of us do get damaged in earlier stages of our lives but the choice is up to each one to decide to work it out or just live with it.

Sadly many good people choose the latter and resign themselves to their situation and stay that way generally unhappy and lonely and unulfilled.

Sometimes working it out can take years ,but then one day you get an epiphany and it all falls into place and you understand why you are the way you are.

That has happened to me and I can honestly say that I still have hope that I will meet someone that I can love and take care of.

Someone said " An open mind is the ability to consider an idea without accepting "

Keep an open mind -and be more receptive to new ideas and thoughts you have even if it makes you uncomfortable at the start.

After all you dont have to accept it-just consider it!

Good luck-there are still a lot of good people in the world who would love to love you.
Rossco

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over 2 years ago

Wow, I read Phil Baker's post and a lot of what he had to say resignates with me. I agree that you MUST take action to affect your current situation...boy, have I been proactive. I've gone out clubbing by myself, joined social groups to increase my social life (all friends are in relationships or have children so we don't hang out anymore, we just catch up over the phone) I've dated guys from dating sites but these have ended badly. I ended up pregnant for the last guy I met online who swiftly dumped me when I told him. I'm not a mother but know I will be someday. I've put out ads for men (when you still could on gumtree) I've tried speed dating. It is all exhausting but I'm still alive and just have to keep striving till I get what I want. I guess I need to remember that failure is common particularly in the pursuit of success. Sometimes I wonder where I am on the attractiveness scale. Many guys think I'm pretty and sexy whilst others wouldn't even bat an eyelid. Sometimes I dress up and have many men interested other times nothing, I could even be wearing the same outfit. I think I'm like marmite you either love it or not. I do sometimes wish I was highly desirable all the time as I think this increases the pool of men available to select from. Currently 32, I want and will meet the love of my life I just need to figure out how, need a new stratergy

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over 2 years ago

i was going to read the comments but stopped at the first. Jon, please if you are lonely please never stop searching. there is a lonely woman looking for you. perhaps she does not want a family, perhaps she wants a partner, she might be feeling the same way as you feel. Do not shut yourself off from the possibilities there is nothing greater than touching another soul and sharing yourself with a compassionate and understanding human being they are out. Never give up!!!!

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over 2 years ago

Hi,
I viewed your profile Window cyprus penpal site and wanted you to know i am interested in you. I can see that the distance between us is great but i do believe We can overcome the great distance as distance should & does not come between two loving hearts but it does make it inconvenient. However I also believe " Where there is a will there is a way". Have been on this for less than 1week now and i'm in search of my Soul & Dream Mate, Lover, Husband and Life Companion, let me give you a brief introduction of me. My name is Kerry James Rolland. I'm the General Manager in my late father's company, I have a good sense of humor. I live in Arlington,VA. Arlington County is an urban county of about 203,000 residents in the Commonwealth of Virginia, directly across the Potomac River from Washington, D.C. I am 35 years of age and i am a woman with a strong heart, loving, caring, honest, compassionate, affectionate, i also believe in God. I like swimming, camping, fishing, reading & writing, tennis etc...When i read through your profile in this site, I was really amazed and motivated to send you an email and show my interest..I would want us to continue this conversation further through my email which is kerry_jamesrolland@yahoo.com or I M me on yahoo messenger "kerry_jamesrolland"
Have a Nice day.

Kerry

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almost 3 years ago

iam 65years old leaving singl now thining to marrge with agood one of age 45 t55 with good helh

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almost 3 years ago

I am 42 years of age and have no children, nor ever like to have them. I was one of those women that chased the corporate dream... I kind of wanted to do the dating thing but didn't get around to it- besides I never knew when a man was interested in me in a romantic sense- I was too busy chasing other degrees and workplacements as well as being a friend. How quickly time flies. After having a serious workplace injury which will never be cured, I realised that all the check box list I had for a mate and all the ambition in the world didn't matter. I realised it is how much I could share and give to a significant other which hopefully would bring happiness as we travelled through experiences together. No fanfare, wild trips around the world, just someone that would share themselves with me and could sit quietly watching the world go by. Injuries change your perspective on life and people's looks. I'd rather look into the soul of a person and earn their trust, listen to their troubles and triumps - basically be their best friend (with benefits of course) than look for some fantasy guy that doesn't exist. If I could find that guy that has similar values and interests (doesn't all have to be the same) and we have that "zing" that is the one I want to marry. It is the warm company I want to keep with that person in a marriage type of relationship, one that is not afraid to face issues head on with grace and strength than those people that walk away when it all gets too hard. I still hold out hope that someone will see my strength of character and joy for life that they would want to intangle their life with mine. I have learnt over the years that my women friends married, they leave the single friends behind and that the single friends have to be more understanding and flexible to their way of life because they have others to consider, husband, wife, children etc until your friendship is no longer needed. I hold out hope for a man around my age will turn up to enjoy some of the pleasures of life left to live before I become that skeleton on the park bench waiting for that perfect man!!

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almost 3 years ago

i am a man aged 46 but a look of 35 havent married or had sex ,this was due to my early years in army ,after nearly 5years i left army and i preffered to stay alone in fact with parents,but of late i had a liking to get married because of lonliness, i dont smoke or drink may be one day i may find a female partner who may be of my mind set.till the age of 18 i was a with champion among the friends ,but still i have the same qualities but dosent show it outside ,just happy watching the world around very much worried hearing child laboures beaing harrassed and beaten why such thngs happen its all the effects of good teaching not given by the establishments to its citizens.hope world changes for the better

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over 3 years ago

I'm 27 and my parents have been married for 50 yrs now, all my brothers are over 44 and have been married too for 20 plus years, and I'm like the last child and odd one out who noone understands, idk, my dad always treated me like i was disgusting for wanting anything related to love, bashed me like he did to all the others, and forced me to study and there was a lot of slappage until my energy went out i guess, so now i mainly continue at university xd in a crazy peter pan complex, having sex with strangers in order to never have to explain myself to my family who has become a black hole of intromission... i have never had a serious couple, and no matter my age i continue to behave like some child,,, hostage to everything, i feel silly, mainly, but i wouldn't know how to change that, i have no abbility to keep a relationship with anyone whatsoever, and tried relationships with girls but they're far more demanding lolol, i did have 2 serious relationships which ended in me heartbroken, so i guess i've become agoraphobic and read and paint way too much to avoid falling into it ever again, but it is what it is. I guess i'm not attractive enough for someone to want to take constant care of me, but i'm over it xd when i decided to study yet another career,,, will probably meet loads of new pple and i'll pretend to be 10 yrs younger which is easy i dont have one wrinkle while my married friends or divorced look like crap haha, i suppose friendship will make it easier... one has to keep a cold head to survive the world.

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over 3 years ago

I'm 40 and never married. Spent most of my twenties living with a girl and we figured we would marry when we had kids, but she had affairs with two of my mates and ran off leaving me 100k in debt.
I ended up moving away and I've spent the last 10 years clearing that debt and rebuilding my life. Didn't have time for women. It's been a long hard slog but I now have no debt, no mortgage and new friends that I trust.
Yeah, I would like to be sat here now, married, kids running round the house, but it wasn't to be.

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almost 4 years ago

Yo Trevor, whats with that attitude? I,m 36 and also a kidney transplant patient, I no how you are feeling. Dont be afraid to get out there, you are a warrior and a surviver, if someone cant except you for who you are then to hell with them there not worth it anyway. If you want to talk feel free to hit me up rswang74@gmail.com

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about 4 years ago

Hi Trevor,
I just read your post and I completely understand what you are talking about. I am a 32 year old female, divorced for 7 years now. My health has ran my life too, but I have been in the depths and the pits of loneliness, helplessness, depression and feeling not well with myself because my health hasn't been well. I understand so much that I would like to talk to you. I never had kids with my now ex husband because of some female issues that made me infertile. I thank God we didnt have kids since we are no longer together. I hope you will email me Trevor. I know that I am a stranger, but your response to this article out of all them really touched me because I have been there done that. I am not writing to judge you. I am writing because maybe it would help you find you inner strength, determination and the mindset that although you know what hell is, you will not let your health and the way you feel about yourself tell you what to do. I have been going through hell since I was 8yrs old...all female probs. I am just now getting my life back together and discovering what it really means to love Liz.

The reasons why I am divorced is because of both me and my ex. His mother added to it, but it was mostly us. We never allowed each other enough time to become close friends to find out if we were really meant to be. We dated 2 months then jumped to more serious stuff. A year later we were married. He was 30 and lived with his mom, I was 23 and had no clue what I really wanted in my life. All I knew was that I had someone. Trevor, I can tell after reading your comment that you have a heart of gold, you are smart and a lot of fun to be with. I can also sense that you are a 'soldier'. You have been through so much that fighting has made you tired. I am a 'soldier' too Trevor.

I have been on disability also...for 2 years. My Endometriosis and diabetes got so out of hand that I become debilitated, I had to quit my job, I could no longer do the things I always enjoyed doing, I stopped socializing, even missing family gatherings, I felt robbed, I felt like I was being punished for something I didn't know I did so wrong to suffer like this, I, being the person I am, as normally bubbly and sociable.

Trevor I took myself out of public, refused to get out or even go out into my front yard. I would cringe at the thought of having to go to the store to get a few groceries or to walk up the street. I felt so horrible about myself..I felt uglier than ugly, I hated being inside my own skin. I wanted to die and even prayed "God please take me." Trevor, I have fully believe that God 'allowed' me to experience that magnitude of pain because He knows my heart and that I can share my experiences with someone like you. You probably have felt for so long that nobody understands what you are going through. Friend, I understand, but only you know the feelings and the depth of pain.

Like I said, I am not writing to judge you, I am not writing to coach you. I am not writing to preach to you. I just feel in my heart that I might be able to help you. I look forward hearing from you Trevor if you feel up to talking. Wishing God's love and protection on you, Liz

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about 4 years ago

Hi Petre,



I have been in your situation before.



You will be surprised at how many women have different tastes in men and that your skin condition will not be an issue.



I suggest trying dating sites. It takes many emails to get a response on the dating sites (for men), but once you get a couple of dates set up your confidence will grow organically.



Sex will be better with a woman who you have grown close to.



It is a momentum thing. Push hard to get a date on match.com, an another, and soon your weekends will be booked.



Get ready to spend a little cash!



Take care,

Mario

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over 4 years ago

Thank of you to the ones who had the guts to tell us more of your lives. It was very diffcult for me to read at times because some of the things said mirrors my life. I found what the two 20 year olds has said on this subject kind of funny. One, because I forced myself to think the same way when I was in my late 20's and two, you are far too young to be swearing off marriage already. You just never know what tomorrow brings. I guess that advice can be given to all of us though.



I am a 33, soon to be 34 year old male. I do not have the social stigmatism as this article suggests that many men who has never married has. I do not consider myself the bottom of the barrell. I have been told by many women that are not related to me that I am a very attractive guy, and I have a great job that lets me live my life the way I want to. When I go out, or when I am at work, I notice women checking me out quite a bit. In my early years (early to mid 20's) I would use this knowledge to my advantage and try and get these women to bed for a one night stand. Then I met a very wonderful woman. I fell head over heels for her and we planned on getting married as soon as we finished college. Then she had to go back where she came from (she was an exchange student) and did the long distance thing for a while. Turns out no matter how solid you thought your relationship was, its usually not solid enough to last the test of distance. Anyways, as you can guess we went our seporate ways. I have thought of trying to find her again, but it is not easy trying to track down someone in a foreign country. Even if I did find her, would she even want me back again? After all I struggled so bad with the distance, that I treated her like a total jerk. Anyways, time passed, I met and dated other women and they usually ended pretty quickly (average of 1 month or less). Most of the times was because I found I was not the only guy they have been intimate with. One time, I saw one my exes late at night at a Dennys all curled up next to some other guy a week after we broke up. To top it off, my closest family members (brother and older cousin) both have been divorced because of infidelity. Same went for one my uncles, except it happened to him twice. Needless to say, life has taught me relationships hurt severely.



Add on top of my life lessons, I actually have a hard time asking women out. I thought I solved this problem in my earlier years, but it came back after I broke up with the distance relationship. I have no problems walking up to an attractive woman and strike up a conversation with her. Its very easy, but that is where I stop. I do not ask her for her phone number, nor do I ask her out on a date. Something in my mind makes me fear the rejection I might get, or worse yet what if this woman treats me like the other women in my past has. I know I am starting to sound kind of pathetic, I am a man and should have confidence in myself. Funny thing is I am a very confident man in general. I know my abilities, and I know how to use them to my advantage. I just have some sort of mental block when it comes to my love life.



I do not want to be alone for the rest of my life. I have not yet developed some of the cynical additudes some of the other men has, but I am noticeing some changes in my mind gravitating towards it. I just hope I can actually get to meet someone special before I am totally cynical.