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Single-Parent Families - The Effects On Children

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In the United States, the effects of single-parent family life on children fall into two categories: (1) those attributed to the lower socioeconomic status of single parents and (2) the short-term consequences of divorce that moderate over time. Four factors are predictive of U.S. children's adjustment to the divorce of their parents: the passage of time, the quality of the children's relationship with their residential parent, the level of conflict between parents, and the economic standing of the children's residential family. In the first few years after a divorce, the children have higher rates of antisocial behavior, aggression, anxiety, and school problems than children in two parent families. However, some of these problems may be attributed to a decrease in available resources and adult super-vision; many of the negative effects disappear when there is adequate supervision, income, and continuity in social networks (McLanahan and Sandefur 1994).

In mother-only families, children tend to experience short-and long-term economic and psychological disadvantages; higher absentee rates at school, lower levels of education, and higher dropout rates (with boys more negatively affected than girls); and more delinquent activity, including alcohol and drug addiction. Adolescents, on the other hand, are more negatively affected by parental discord prior to divorce than by living in single-parent families and actually gain in responsibility as a result of altered family routines (Demo and Acock 1991). Children in single-mother homes are also more likely to experience health-related problems as a result of the decline in their living standard, including the lack of health insurance (Mauldin 1990). Later, as children from single-parent families become adults, they are more likely to marry early, have children early, and divorce. Girls are at greater risk of becoming single mothers as a result of nonmarital childbearing or divorce (McLanahan and Booth 1989). Although the research findings are mixed on long-term effects, the majority of children adjust and recover and do not experience severe problems over time (Coontz 1997).

A common explanation for the problems found among the children of single parents has been the absence of a male adult in the family (Gongla 1982). The relationship between children and non-custodial fathers can be difficult and strained. Fathers often become disinterested and detached from their children; in one study more than 60 percent of fathers either did not visit their children or had no contact with them for over a year. The loss of a father in the family can have implications beyond childhood (Wallerstein and Blakeslee 1989). However, the lack of a male presence may not be as critical as the lack of a male income to the family. The economic deprivation of single-parent family life, in combination with other sources of strain and stress, is a major source of the problems experienced by both parents and children.


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over 5 years ago

I am a child of a single parent. I'm 18 yrs old and for almost all my life the only people that raised me was my mom and I also had some help form my grandmother that recently past away almost 5yrs ago. Even though most single parents are in povery or poor or rich or what ever the case might be it only puts a dent in the childs life if you let it. I use to think how it would be different if I had two parents in my life instead of one. Would my family be more stable in money wise? Would I have been like some of these kids that end up being spoiled? Would my personality have changed or would I have looked at things in a different perspective than the way I do now??? The point is no matter what the statistic is the results shows from what the single parents wants whats best for their child. My mom worked hard and struggled pratically 18yrs and is still doin it today to make sure I succeed in life. And you know what.... I graduated highschool and now attending a community college in pennsylvania majoring in Criminal Justice because of the future she struggled to produce for me and i am forever gratefull..

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about 3 years ago

Hi. Im 16 and a junior in HS and my parents broke up when I was in like 2nd grade. All Ive ever known is arguing and not talking about whats bothering me. When something happens I just keep it bottled up untill I explode later on. I currently smoke weed and have done a lot of other stuff. Even though its been years since the divorce, I know it has effected who I am today. I read that it makes ur insecure or lonley and things like that. Unhappy. Well it sounds like me. I do have friends but I only choose ones who I really trust. I dont have a million friends who I dont even really know. Ya know? I am violent with people that I dont like and I have problems explaining things thats on my mind. I have never known how to explain them. I dont think I ever will. And creating a close relationship with someone is also very hard. Again, I have never known how. Divorce sucks. My gma told me that when my parents would fight, I would say it was my fault they were fighting. I guess I still blame myself for things that have nothing to do with me. Idk. Anyone else got similar stories or am I nuts? Email me if you want.

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about 3 years ago

I am a 22 year old female. I was born out of wedlock and my parents broke up 5 days before I was born because my mother caught my father cheating. It was just me and my mother for the first 13 years of my life and during that time our relationship was extremely close, our bond much stronger than a normal mother child bond I think. I love and respect my mom more than any other in the world at this point in my life but I am not going to say it was easy. It wasn't. When I was two she went to university and 5 years later graduated as a teacher. I can't imagine how hard doing that with a two year old would be, she has always amazed me and I am extremely proud. But even saying all this, I definitely have my issues. In grade and high school I was always first in my class, very academically inclined, but I did feel rejected by my father and I think I was quite lonely because of how busy my mother always was. At that point my father was in and out of my life...always forgetting my birthdays or christmas but then when ever I did see him I was happy. I still loved him after all. After my mom graduated she found it hard to get a job. We moved around a lot and for a couple of years she worked up north in a native reserve, the experience of which has left me with its own scars. The children there were not very nice to me and I was teased. I think I first began hating myself up there, when I was only in grade 4. We moved around some more and eventually settled in a small rural town. By then I was 12 and extremely shy. I still did exceptionally well in school but I found it hard to trust others especially males. My mother and I loved each other unconditionally but we started fighting al the time. She then met Rich who would become my step father and the majority of my problems started. We simply didn't get along. He was very harsh and controlling and for a shy emotional girl who wasn't used to men this was a major shock. It probably didn't help that my mother was so infatuated she all but forgot about me. And then the fights between the three of us started. They were constant and lasted all through junior and senior high school. At that point I could still do well at school but my home life was a mess. I hated and feared Rich, I felt abandoned by both my parents. I was insecure and shy and hated everything about myself. I would keep one good friend at a time but the friendships didn't always last. In my grade 12 year Rich beat me up one day. It was only the one time and I suppose its not a big deal but it did effect me. I ended up dropping my english course and not graduating that year. It took me a couple years to get my act together enough to finish the class and then I enrolled in university. During that time there was tremendous pressure at home to succeed and get an education. I now find myself in second year engineering and I'm not faring so well. Its not that I can't handle the academics, its that I can't handle them on top of all my emotional baggage. I can't seem to figure myself out and I am terrifyingly lonely. I left all my family and friends behind when i started university and i can't seem to get close to anyone here. I spend all my days obsessing about my personal problems and not focusing enough on my studies. Engineering is difficult and I keep dealing with panic attacks. I'm scared and alone and have nowhere to turn. My friends are across the country and my mother is wrapped up in her own life and her new children with rich. I'm 22 and I've never been in a romantic relationship. I mean I've never even held hands and this lack of human contact is wearing on me but I've become so withdrawn I don't see it changing anytime soon. Anyway to be succinct I don't blame this all on my parents but I do think it has had an impact, the emotional scars from parental problems and the ones that were caused by the life I had to lead because my parents were not togehter

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about 3 years ago

I was born out of wedlock, my father never wanted anything to do with me.As an African, that was unacceptable in the society. My mother was 14years old when she gave birth to me. My grandparents, aunts and uncles supported me in my Education. I never got motherly love from my mother..she got married and had a family of her own..i have one half-sister and a half-brother. My mother always quarrelled me through in life and i developed a sense of rejection and self pity and lcak of self esteem...I used to ask my mother who my father was and when was i born ..but she never tolöd me...i think she was very bitter from the ugly experiences she went through. While i was in high school, my real father wrote me a letter informing me that he was my father and that the would want to meet me. I kept it a secret but one time i wold my mother...she was very mad with me..she went and confronted him..After that i realized..if he never wanted anything to do with me..why should i want anything to do with him in life...My step-father is always nice to me although he has drinking problems and he has other women...after high school..i worked with different humanitarian organisation afterwards i joined university and then my mother sponsored me to do my masters in Europe. Most of the times i have hard feelings towards my mother because i feel that she never gave me the parental love and guidance that i needed..ive contemplated many bad things in life because i feel a times its like i dont have a sense of belonging...i feel alone in this world. I pray to God always to give me a heart of forgiveness to forgive all those who hurt me, my uncle who sexually abused me when i was young...am full of bitterness but i hope that God and Jesus will relieve me this burden from my< heart...

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about 3 years ago

My parents had me when they were 17 years old. My parents split up before I was born and when I was 3 my dad moved away. I am now 17 years old, and for the past 14 years my father has been in and out of my life. I have seen him one time that I can remember and even tough we text, our relationship is barely there. I consider myself one of the lucky ones, because my mom has always showed so much support and love. Even though she never got married, I have 3 half brothers that I adore and my mom has never favored one of us over the other. I am an A average student, it honors classes, and I fully intend of attending college as a Psychology major. I don’t plan on having kids any time soon and I plan on getting married eventually but not until I am absolutely sure that is what I want. I want to get my Ph. D is Psychology eventually. So people cannot say that children from single parent home are unmotivated, violent, or blame one or both of their parents for their problems. My mom raised me the best she could with the help of her family and my dads mother. I have come to realize that my dad wasn’t there not because he didn’t want to but because he was scared and didn’t know how to be there for me. I he couldn’t be there for me the right way he wasn’t gonna be there at all. I know it wasn’t the best decision for him to make, but after most of life so far not having him, I can only forgive him at this point and move on.

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over 3 years ago

I'm 18 years old my dad left my mom when i was 3 months old... I have never missed him. My mom did the most any kid could ever ask for. I agree with ty that it would be nice to know what it was like to grow up with a dad but i never missed mine.

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over 3 years ago

i am a 17 year old girl who has spent her whole life living with my mom. I have turned out a lot better then friends who have both their parents. I get really good grades and i have a stable job. i think life is a lot better for me now that my parents are divorced and i do a lot better then i would if my parents were together. If they were together i would have to deal with fighting and wouldn't concentrate on my school work.

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about 3 years ago

I've read comments about this article and have come to two conclusions:
- Children who come from single parent households do NOT suffer significant long term psychological damage.

-Many children in these situations exploit the parent, and use the excuse of being raised as part of single parent family as an excuse.

My father left home when I was four, and does not pay child support to this day. He doesn't visit me, and I haven't seen him for at least six years. Despite this, I am an above average student, with a good attendance record record. I think that many children force blame on their parent/step-parents for their own shortcomings. It is your life and you can choose to live it however you like.

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over 3 years ago

I am a 18 year old girl and its been me and my mom my whole life. And we have been awesome on our own. And it makes me mad when i see you people that comment on this that think single parents are such a bad thing or bad people. for example my father was abusive and for one im glad he left. heres a question for ya would you people rather have me and my mom stay with an abusive parent and not "work it out" as you say. or would you rather us be safe away from that kind of life. so next time you find yourself saying horrible things or bad mouthing single parents i want you to read this and remember why some children dont have fathers. oh also my grandfather is the closest adn best thing i could ever wis for as a father figure much better than my no good father. thank you very much.plus mine and my moms bond is so much closer than anyone could hope for im so close with my mom and shes been on her own for 18 years. so once again to the single parent haters remember this comment.

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about 3 years ago

i am the step grandmother of a 5 year old girl. AS a new born she lived with her biological grandfather and my self as mum was 17 and did not want her.

At the age of 2 half mum got her life togerther and came and took her little girl. Then mum had problems and her and her daughter lived with us. A dna was performed and the babies father then wanted visitation rights all this went to court and the dad was given week about visits sunday noon till sunday noon. Dad lives with his mother and father. The childs mother now has her own home with her new boyfriend this child had seen mum in a previous relationship with this person that was abusive and violent eg: holes punched in walls. Now the child wants to live with us and her mum she says that she does not want to live with mum and her boyfriend all of this has resulted in the child not wanting to go to school my self and mum have to get her basicly prized out of our arms she only started school this year and she will be coming up for school holidays soon the seperation anixety that she is suffering is horendoz what can be done to assist this little girl in and out of this week about visitation order

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over 3 years ago

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over 4 years ago

I just turned 18 a couple of weeks ago, and my parents divorced when I was 12. On the way to Gulf Shores one year, he just decided he was tired of our family and decided he'd ruin the whole trip by informing us he'd be leaving when we got back home. Two days after we got home, he was gone. After that, I turned to the classic "troubled-youth" persona. I was a cutter from 13-17, 9 times out of 10 I was passed out drunk, I started smoking pot, and my relationships never consisted of an actual meaning. I almost died in a car accident a year ago, and since then, I've completely turned my life around. I've been sober (both for health reasons and by personal choice) for a whole year, I haven't touched weed for longer, and I can't even remember where I last hid my razorblade, nor will I look for it. Growing up through the divorce/single-parent home was a rough adjustment, yes, but I can't honestly attribute all of my bad choices to that one ordeal. I chose to do all those things rather than talk to people about my problems, and I had more than enough willing listeners; I just chose to push everyone away. Looking back on the past five years, I the choices I made and how I dealt. I know my situation is different from other's, and this is just my own opinion on how my life has turned out. I'm happy with my life now, and I'm not ashamed of who I am as a person. But just a word from personal experience, your life is what you choose for it to be. You can't always blame a divorce for every wrong you've ever made. Peace, Love && God Bless. If you don't know him yet, you're really missing out. Take my word for it, he'll get you through anything and everything!=)

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about 2 years ago

My conclusion...children grow up best in a HAPPY home. It doesn't matter if there are 2 parents, 1 parent, a grandparent, an aunt, 3 parents....doesn't matter, as long as the adults raising the child are HAPPY.

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almost 3 years ago

I am a counseling student doing research on the effects of single-parenting on adolescents. I am also a single parent.
Yes, the situation is not ideal. But, no, there is no mandate stating that there have to be problems.
Problems occur when the feelings we have surrounding these issues are not dealt with. @Adam, @Melone, and others, I urge you to find a professional counselor to talk to. Why? Not because you are broken and need fixing, but because they are trained to help you — as an individual — find ways to deal with the hurt and other emotions that you may not be able to deal with on your own. How do you find a counselor or therapist? Get a referral from a school counselor or a local Mental Health agency. Everything said is confidential. I can guarantee that you will feel better than if you do nothing at all.

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about 3 years ago

Melone...I am so sorry for the pain you had to endure at the hands of people who were suppose to love you and care for you.



You mentioned Jesus. Jesus loves you, HE cares about you and knows all about your pain. The bible says, "Cast your cares upon the Lord, He cares for us".I Peter 5:7



The Lord has a plan and purpose for your life.

Jeremiah 29:11 says,

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Your mother was 14 years old when she gave birth to you. A babe herself. Im almost certain that she didnt have an easy life. Soon God will begin to reveal to you why certain things had to be.



Thank you for sharing. I'm praying for you!!!!

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over 3 years ago

I hate divorce with passion. Parents should both join hands to riase there children. Love is the only solution to divorce and seperation. Every single parent should try and renconcile with his/her partner. Single parent is not good n the society.

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almost 4 years ago

Hey I am a single mother of 1 name is Mia. I'm not worried about her father not there to me it is much better than what it was. My mother also a single parent of 3 and I am 19 and going to college I have a full time job and I love it I'm not worried that my daughter is going to turn out bad because I make time for her and I show her things so to me its a pretty sweet deal.

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about 4 years ago

I am 21 yrs and have lived with my mother all my life. I am a in bar school. I am one of the exceptions to single parent families. I agree with the article since many blue colar crime occurs among children of single parent households. When one parent struggles to provide for their children it is very likely that certain aspects may be neglected not intentionally. Growing up w/o a parent is a difficult situation and people deal with it differently, this may result in a loss of focus in school, anger towards pairs/authority etc. The difference i guess are those that look at their situation and decide that the same wont happen to them. The best thing to do is make a positive effort to improve your situation...

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over 5 years ago

I am in a single-parent family. My father deid (because of illness of brain when he was 62)when I was 12, I lived with my mother since then. Now I am 22 and I am doing my postgraduate study in Shanghai. During all these years without my father, I think there are some problems that could not be solved in this kind of specail family. And now, I am searching for the ways of solving these problems.

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over 2 years ago

Hi all,



I find the following totally disgusting!!! I cannot believe I just read it here on this site!!



Quote: However, the lack of a male presence may not be as critical as the lack of a male income to the family.



I am a 40 year old Father whose "wife" has recently left and taken my 18 month old daughter with her. She has refused to "allow" me any contact with my daughter just because she is "unhappy" and "fed up". I am having to go to court. I will NEVER let this matter rest. My "wife" is being spiteful for no reason. She is a glorious example of Parent Alienation. Shame on her. For any child who has grown up with a single parnet please make contact with your Father. I know only too well how a "mother" and the law/court system can be biased against a Father. Many Fathers will be PUSHED out of your lives. The cost emotionally and financially can be crippling. Amicable is ALWAYS BEST.

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over 5 years ago

I am from a single parent family.I'm 18 yrs old and for as long as i could remember my mom was the only one playing that steady role in my life throught my high school years she waas my role to sucess.she gave me strong encouragement to take my work seriously and because of her although i had a boyfriend and never got pregant,i graudated from high school and now i'm a second year studen at a community collage,she devoted her life to me and her other childern and i thank god for her.It not most likely that person who are raised by a mother or father end up bad in the society.

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over 2 years ago

Wow this has really triggered some strong feelings. All of these feelings and thoughts are correct. My experience and opinions are different from everyone elses. It depends on how your parents reacted to the situation, how you handled it, and all other forces around you. I never knew my dad and my mom did not speak highly of him. But I always figured he is apart of me no matter what. When I was a teenager I was angery about the situation and blamed my mom. I always thought how could she do that to me and keep me away from my dad. He can't be that bad since he is apart of me. I feel like being an only child I had to grow up faster and become more self relient. Now that I'm older I'm greatful for my experiences and push myself to be the best I can be. I believe that you have to want better in your life and work towards getting away from all that you don't like or want. I love my mom dearly and think that she did what she had to. She insilled good morals and values in me. I guess to all those that I going through a hard time just remember you make your choices and lead your life. I know it's hard to encurrage yourself, but follow your dreams, don't fall into everything you hate. Stay positive, look to the little joys in life. I really enjoy the saying live, love, laugh; it's very true.

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over 3 years ago

hi i'm ten and um well im stil young and i have a single parent family. My mom takes care of me. I think she does a really good job. My so-called "dad" left when i was just three years old. He moved to arkansas without me. I was always a daddy's girl and seeing him go made me sad. I didn't express my feelings and still dont till this day instead i just forget about it and him. Iam vey talented.I play basketball,soccer, track, karate, and cheerleading. I'm also a straight A+ student and I take pride in that but my mom expects me to be perfect. My sister has adhd so she doesn't get in trouble as much as I do because my mom doesn't hold it against her. I sometimes cry myself to sleep, but I never cry in publkic because I try to be a good influence but it's getting harder. I used to let people push me around, but I refuse to put up with this any longer. People say that I'm meaner now but I'm not I just stand up for myself and what I believe in.One of my friends mom said that she liked me the best out of all her friends because I'm the most loyal and I am because I would die for my family and friends because thats the type f person I am and if someone doesn't like me i belive that that's their problem because I can find another friend just like that.My dad tries to call me now and then but I don't answer because if its important and he truly cares about me he would of been back or atleast care to visit atleast on hlidays. He didn't even come to see me on my birthday and I didnt get one present from him on Christmas.

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about 3 years ago

I just wanted to say that I grew up in a home were my parents never divorced, but stayed together util my mother died. They often fought and had difficulty financially. Even though some parents divorce, doesn't always mean that life is harder in a single parent home, then for children who grow up in a home where the parents stay together, but never really loved each other, argued and rarely showed affection to one another. Us kids naturally thought it was our fault our parents argued, because they would say; "Were only together because of the kids." In retrospect, there are many different types of families, esp now with such a high divorce rate in the US and Europe and now Asia. Hope this helps to shed some light on how things may have turned out, if your parents had stayed together.

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about 3 years ago

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about 4 years ago

I am a gay single father and problems with my child have raised from this in school. how can i get the bullies to leave him alone just b/c of my choices in life?

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over 4 years ago

I am a single parent ever since I am pregnant with my son.
He is such a wonderful son and he is 1 and a half years old now.
I am lucky because I have a good parent who is always supporting me.
I always believe that a child should be brought up by 2 individuals, a man and a woman
But I broke my own belief when I gave birth to my son alone.
My son is such a brilliant, wonderful, and happy child. I want the world for him. Because I love him so much I want all the happiness for him.
even though I tried to give my best to him, even at his young age I know that he is searching for his father...
It broke my heart thinking I can only pretend to be his father and mother...when I am actually him mother
I have a stable income and my father and mother also give love and support to me and my son, but I think it will never be enough and it will never be the same like a fathers love
I seriously believe that a child must be brought up with 2 parents instead of one...
If anybody can make a choice, do choose to bring up a child together with your husband or wife or don't make a child.
This is the best decision for a child. A child needs the love of both of the father and mother equally.

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about 5 years ago

I am a single mother of 3 & I strongly believe that if I would've remained in a relationship with their father...well it would've been a much worse situation. Neither of them have a good relationship with their father but without him being involved I have managed to raise well rounded, respectful individuals. It doesn't take two parents to raise a child... just one realy good one!!!!

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about 3 years ago

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about 3 years ago

face with traumour and dought from their own children

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over 4 years ago

There was something stated that there are more drop out rates with a mother only family and i think that this isnt true.Fathers tend to not think of their children needs before theres and this always causes a problem.Mothers are the hard workers and the life savers and i think that this statement is to be redressed.

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about 2 years ago

I am 18 and grew up in a single parent home. My life ahs been amazing and my mum did the very best to raise me and my 5 brothers. We have all turned out fine. Some researchers may think there is a disadvantage to children in every household but there isn't. I am now currently a single mum and I can only hope to be as amazing as my mum. Just because others say things doesn't make them true.

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about 2 years ago

I agree with a lot of things in this article, but then again I also know that it can be overcame. My parents were never married but they were together for a very long time and when they broke up my father just stopped coming around. When i finally realized everything that happened it broke my heart and it made me not trust anyone. It made me not want to love and allow anyone to love me because I was afraid they would leave. Then i got to a point where i just let it go..or so i thought. My father still played a huge part in my life and i didn't even realize it. We i began dating, i started to realize my actions towards guys. I really didn't like males touching me and no matter how hard they worked i would never let them in my heart. I also began to smoke weed just to deal with the hurt. When i started to acknowledge that it hurt me that he wasn't around and he didn't want to be, it helped me let him go. When i let him go, i was able to focus on me, my relationships, my education, my happiness and just my life in general.

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about 2 years ago

I agree with a lot of things in this article, but then again I also know that it can be overcame. My parents were never married but they were together for a very long time and when they broke up my father just stopped coming around. When i finally realized everything that happened it broke my heart and it made me not trust anyone. It made me not want to love and allow anyone to love me because I was afraid they would leave. Then i got to a point where i just let it go..or so i thought. My father still played a huge part in my life and i didn't even realize it. We i began dating, i started to realize my actions towards guys. I really didn't like males touching me and no matter how hard they worked i would never let them in my heart. I also began to smoke weed just to deal with the hurt. When i started to acknowledge that it hurt me that he wasn't around and he didn't want to be, it helped me let him go. When i let him go, i was able to focus on me, my relationships, my education, my happiness and just my life in general.

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about 2 years ago

Hello my name is Alana and I am 29 years old. My parents separated at the age of 9 and divorced three years later. When we first left home and moved back into my grandmother's house I was relieved. Over time I was sad, mad, depressed, and really didn't know how to compute the things that were going on in my life. My parents were the type that talked about one another to their children. This made me confused and angry and I started being promiscuous and had children out of wedlock and chose the wrong men. I had to learn things the hard way(through error) I was in an abusive realtionship(emotional and physical). I didn't know my self worth at the time. Now that I am an adult and have been through some things and because of the grace of God I am now better able to process my feelings and recognize when I am thinking irrational. I want to encourage the peopel who come from broken homes. Use the situation that you have been through with your parents and in your childhood to feul you to do better. Don't have a pity party, it's okay to grieve but you must move on and become a better person because if you don't anger, bitterness, and resentment could set in as a result of what you're dealing with emotionally. If you need prayer or help in dealing with some things email me @ alana_bryan@yahoo.com. Much LOVE.

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over 2 years ago

hi dose divorce dad have see his children on his vitiation day i have 2 teenage kids and they live with there mom and she has restraining order on me i am mean dad it came when my young son tried comment suicide and my ex had gone mexico with marriage man and i said he ruin are marriage i will call his wife and that when she put restrain order on and more rule on vitiation

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about 3 years ago

Thank alot white men for being racists against minorities who could create more businesses and jobs, making men have more money in order to create a family an feel like a man.

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about 3 years ago

Well im in a single paretn family and my mother take care of me by herself and i have another sister and brother.she try her best and its very hard for her. my father is in prison and i barely know him. and yes i have a couple of problems during the days and its hurts but i think if we keep pur head up we will be okay.but when you dont have your father you look for love in a boy and its crazy! But ilove my moma and i thank her for what she is doing.

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over 3 years ago

I am a single mom of 3.. Im only 20 an all 3 of my girls are young.. i have done everything on my own rasing them an goin to school and not havin there fathers in their lives.. Yes it is hard.. I did not have my father in my life until 2 yrs ago.. I do what i can to raise them on my own. My oldest really helps out with her sisters.. My girls are my world and i would not change that for nothing

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21 days ago

ogbefispell@gmail.com is absolutely wonderful! I requested a spell for love from you late 2013. Well, happily I can say we are now married (9months now) and are more in love than ever before. He's mad crazy for me and I'm loving it! We are now trying to get some little ones to our family to show our neverending love for each other. Thank you soo much for alll your work on my behalf! I LOVE YOU ogbefispell@gmail.com!!!!!!!
Candice Kensington

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about 1 month ago

I am 26yrs of age and a single parent raise. growing up wasn't easy for my mom and such situation brought poor leaving condition to both my self and mom because my father never carter for me and because two is always better than one,she couldn't do it alone and i have to go through a lot when growing up that made me to understand that in deed everybody need somebody no matter how rich or poor leaving condition you find your self in . my self in particular i misses my daddy a lot and use to worry my mom always to help me locate my father after j.h.s even though life was all what we wish for but things were not all that better with my family and that makes me very sad sometimes and i asked my self why all his because such situation affected my whole life and my education as well. whiles all my mates who where raise up by both parents where still in school and obtaining degree and some too diploma, i have to stop schooling to stay home and work to see my self though life because i could not afford to pay my fees. even though and am a grown up now but still have the pains of being raised up by my mom alone because am not comfortable with the life am leaving now even though i struggle to feather my studies after high school and am now a student of an aviation school in Accra ghana

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5 months ago


my Names is john roselin,AM from usa.i never believed in love spells or magic until i met this spell caster once when i went to Africa in June last year on a business summit i ment a man called PRINCE AYAWU, is powerful he could help you cast a spells to bring back my love s gone misbehaving lover looking for some one to love you bring back lost money and magic money spell or spell for a good job i m now happy & a living testimony cos the man i had wanted to marry left me 4weeks before our wedding and my life was upside down cos our relationship has been on for 3 year i really loved him, but his mother was against me and he had no good paying job so when i met this spell caster, i told him what happened and explained the situation of things to him at first i was undecided,skeptical and doubtful, but i just gave it a try and in 6 days when i returned to Vancouver my boyfriend (is now my husband ) he called me by himself and came to me apologizing that everything had been settled with his mom and family and he got a new job interview so we should get married i didn't believe it cos the spell caster only asked for my name and my boyfriends name and all i wanted him to do well we are happily married now and we are expecting our little kid and my husband also got a new job and our lives became much better in case anyone needs the spell caster for some help his email address: templeofgreatness@gmail.com




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5 months ago




who ever is reading this testimony today should please celebrate with me and my family because it all started like a joke to some people and others said it was impossible. my name is franceis i live in canada i am happily married with two kids and a lovely wife something terrible happen to my family along the line, i lost my job and my wife packed out of my house because i was unable to take care of her and my kids at that particular time. i manage all through five years, no wife to support me to take care of the children and there come a faithful day that i will never forget in my life i met an old friend who i explain all my difficulties to, and he took me to a spell caster and the name of the temple is called, imong.illuminati.temple@abv.bg, i was assure that everything will be fine and my wife will come back to me in after 2days time then he told me what i need to provided for him and i did the wonderful work of prince ogbondu, my wife came back to me and today i am one of the richest man in my country. i advice you if you are out there passing through any of this problems listed below:
1) If you want your ex back.
(2) if you always have bad dreams.
(3) You want to be promoted in your office.
(4) You want women/men to run after you.
(5) If you want a child.
(6) You want to be rich.
(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
yours forever.
(8) If you need financial assistance.
(9) How you been scammed and you want to recover you lost money
(10)(10)Stop Divorce

contact him now at imong.illuminati.temple@abv.bg

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5 months ago


My journey has been very difficult and at times I have come very close to giving up. dr obosianzen did and bring my lover
back to me but unfortunately it did not last because I did not listen to dr obosianzen advice. When my lover came back,
things weren’t “right on” and instead of calling dr obosianzen I took matters into my own hands and lost my lover AGAIN. dr obosianzen is the one who called me and knew what happened without me telling him. obosianzen is the one who called me and
told me his meditation showed him what needed to be done to correct the problem for me. Sometimes drobosianzen scares me with what he knows, but in a good way. contact him and in 3 days your love will be back to you obosianzenspelltemple@hotmail.com
is the answer

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5 months ago


My name is Rita i have a testimony to share with you. i was in relationship with this guy called davis. we well living
happily 4 months a ago my friend come to visit me. i never know my boyfriend know her. I never know my boyfriend was cheating
on me. he was going out with my friend some of my friends was tell me that my boyfriend is cheating on me. i never believe
them, until i saw them with my eye. I never believe in magic until my friend introduced me to this man Dr. SAMBA on
templeofpeaceandsurcess@gmail.com .he told me that he will cast a spell on him 2day after he cast the spell i receive a
call for him that he is coming home. My happiness was restored by the spell caster .i am so happy that my love is back to me
again so lovely and caring like never before. Big big thanks to you dr samba via templeofpeaceandsurcess@gmail.com

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7 months ago

I contacted Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com, because someone that I loved the most suddenly left me. I have always been the one that has been hurt. I knew that when I first met him, he was the one I have always been looking for. For some reason he's been holding on to the pain from a past relationship. Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com so far has been in contact with me every day and has decided that he will take my case. He told me that me and the guy was very well matched and she will help clear his mind from all the negativity. Thank you Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com Thank you for choosing my case. Thank you for giving me hope again. I'm looking forward for the spell to be casted and to be happy again. I have full faith in you and what you can do. Thank you.

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7 months ago

I contacted Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com, because someone that I loved the most suddenly left me. I have always been the one that has been hurt. I knew that when I first met him, he was the one I have always been looking for. For some reason he's been holding on to the pain from a past relationship. Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com so far has been in contact with me every day and has decided that he will take my case. He told me that me and the guy was very well matched and she will help clear his mind from all the negativity. Thank you Dr. Lee of Ancientfathersandmothers@gmail.com Thank you for choosing my case. Thank you for giving me hope again. I'm looking forward for the spell to be casted and to be happy again. I have full faith in you and what you can do. Thank you.

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8 months ago


Good day every one.

I want to share my testimony to you all which i believe you can still try your best to give a testimony like this so i was married to halen sergey at first will both love each other but short time he started a new behavior which i cannot even explain to any one then i keep it to my self hopping one day he will change for good no way he did not change so i was in pain every day don't no what to do on till one day when a friend of mine visited me in my office she met me crying then she was asking me what is going on i try to be cam but i could not then i open up to her telling me there is a way out which i will do before he left me with my kids i look up and not knowing what to do then i ask her to tell me. shortly she open up to me and say there is a man called SAMURA he is a spirit man he can do it with in three days then i look an said okay i will try my best to contact him four days later, my husband did not come home i called his phone switch off then i try my possible best i did not hear from him so i began to look for one way for a help so i remember my friend told me about one man call SAMURA i quickly run to my friend asking her if she still have samura contact then she gave it to me that was how i contacted this great man of spirit he did it for me so quick so now i can now control my husband in any thing even i can tell him that i don't want him outside today he will not. Now i have a happy family so via email SAMURATELLERSPELL100@YAHOO.COM or +2347030410643 he will do it for you as he did for me

halen sergey

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about 1 year ago

I have been a single mother of my 8 year old son for 4yrs now. My husband chose to leave me for another woman because she is wealthy and ready to have my husband at all cost. My husband forgot we both say "FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE" to each other as man and wife. I love him too mucg but there was no way i could stop him and he was even filling for a divorce. Since then i have been taking care of our son single handedly until i saw much talk about this spell lady (priestessifaa@yahoo.com) who have helped marriages come together and relationship. I contacted her and she promised me 2days that i will have my husband back and at the actual days which this priestess told me, my husband came back begging with his knees. I have never seen my husband beg me for any reason, but that day he did.
To cut this long sweet story short, priestessifaa@yahoo.com has helped me reunite my family and am happy with my husband. This spell lady is great i am a sure witness.

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about 1 year ago

My parent divorced when I was about two. My dad drank drove a few months ago, again. I haven't seen him since, I never really liked him and the weekends were very stressful. He tries so hard but... I dont pick up the phone. I am 12 years old now. I am much better off without an adult male in the house. I think I'm doing perfectly fine, actually better, without him. I am also an inly child, which has made things very hard at times. And no, I am not a spoiled brat.

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about 1 year ago

Hi, I’m a single weekend father to a beautiful 6 going on 7 year old Princess. A bit of history on how it all started-My daughter’s mother decided to call it quits when my daughter was one and a half. We were young and got married because we had baby on the way. I come from a family of 10 kids and two great parents (all of us from the same parents) and had a great Christian upbringing. My daughter’s mother struggled for the first year or two with drugs and alcohol so I had my daughter most days of the week. Once she had settled and made a decision to commit to our daughter I became the weekend father. She is a great mother and has been for the past 5 years. We’ve both had to sacrifice a lot to make things work for our daughter to this point and have so many times felt like giving up. I hope and pray my daughter doesn’t have to go through a lot of what I have read and have and will continue to support her mother and love my daughter to make that happen.
To the fathers
Be realistic and have a serious think about your decisions. Sort yourself out before putting anything into action. The honest truth is most of the time we don’t know what we’re doing when it comes to kids. 99% of us men aren’t raised (built) to be single parents and as much as its happening more frequently your kids will still suffer and if you’re going to be there then be there as the best father you can be. Find some help Mum, Dad, family, church, support centers etc. being a part time daddy with a full time heart is the hardest thing I have ever had to do and I wouldn’t have got this far without support
Genuinely support and respect your kid’s mother as a mother. This doesn’t mean you’re married it just means your connected through your kids so for theirs and both your sakes grow up. Put your emotions aside and try and keep on good terms (keep in mind she is also in for a roller coaster ride so why not ride it together). I honestly recon kids will be great adults when we parents stop being kids. Is it a good thing for you and your kid’s mother to have an understanding? You don’t have to be the best of friends but a mutual respect as parents who love and want the best your kids can be done when you accept that you both have the same goal and that you’re both going to fall short from time to time. Have some Grace for each other.
Be realistic about spending time with your kid/s. It doesn’t have to be every weekend or second weekend it just needs to be committed quality time. Make them feel like a daughter or a son. Give them a positive identity of themselves. Commit and follow through.
To the fathers who know beyond a doubt that at this stage in their lives they are bad news for their kids and choose not to stick around. Good on you for being honest. It’s never too late to change. Don’t feel too guilty just make a well thought out decision and go with it. We’re not always good people but we live and learn. Clean up your life for yourself and then think about everyone else. You can never fail in life you can only get it right. Thank God that his grace is enough! Who knows you may become a great father one day.
To the single mothers
I have nothing but respect and honor for what you do. You have the toughest jobs and you make it look so easy. As a weekend father its tough but you woman are machines. Don’t try and be fathers just continue being extremely great mothers. If a father wants to be a father and you know he’s capable then why not let him. We don’t want to be fathers on our terms we just don’t know how to be fathers outside of the of the normal fatherhood so any help would be appreciated. A lot of us just want our kids to have the best in life but are unsure on how to go about it. A bit of grace would benefit everyone. And it’s a long life so some patience wouldn’t hurt.

These are just my personal thoughts so please don’t look too deep into it.

“Do your best and let God do the rest”

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over 1 year ago

Hey, i am a product of a single strong mother who refuse to give up on us, it was 3 in the household when my mom put my dad out and the other two live with their mom. My dad had 5 of us and yes the one in my mom house have become successful citizens and yes, i bothers us at time but with us siblings being so close we guard each and protect each other, but not our mother hates us because she couldn't live her life, so at some point one would have to decide what's best for you and maybe people in general shouldn't have kids if they still dont' want them or hate them we all suffer from that daily, and now my dad is back in the pic after he lft us with syco bob(our Mother)LOL chose to live your life because only you can. I am currently in school getting my Masters in Education and yes i'm thankfully now that my parents didn't make it because if they did where would i be? Choices and decisions lies upon us, stop blaming your parents for your choices. Chose to do right by people and God other stuff will fall into place.

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over 1 year ago

My parents put me up for foster care when I was 5 years old and when I was ten I got adopted I lost both of my parents hoping one day that they would change there ways and get me back but it never happened .getting adopted changed my life because I have a family that really loves me.Now that I'm fifteen I love my adopted family and even though they aren't my real family I still love them.i no logger see my birth parents but I'm at a family that loves me and now it's time to move on with my problems and see what's ahead of me and the future.

P.S:my mother(adopted) has adopted 11 children including my twin sister.
God bless all of you and remember god will always love you even when you don't think he does.

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over 1 year ago

I only 17 yrs of age and being in a single parent family for me is a disaster because having your mom work to jobs 1 daylight and the other at nite u really don't have anyone to communicate with and your brothers don't really care in sunday fall on a thursday.wen u reach home from school there's no one to help u with your home work i am really sick and tired of this singlr parent thing it really suck wen i grow older i don't want the same thing for my kids at all and i'm not the only one out here that lives in as single parent home.so everyone who is out there jus b strong and trust in god.

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over 1 year ago

hi, i dont want my name to be stated but however my father passed away when i was one year old. Since then i never had a father i am 16 now and nothing is wrong with me. I dont smoke or drink or sport because of the hard work i saw my mom doing, and dont want to make her sad again. I know deep down that there is still sadness in my mom's heart for my dad.

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almost 2 years ago

Thank you for the extent of information generally on the jrank.org site.
I strongly wish to express however my dissatisfaction with the quality of information and lack of perspective.
It is my view that often the papers and research are self serving when you consider information is usually correlated by people and organisations funded to carry surveys and reports for a specific goal in mind and/or particular government in power.
I have included this page and the website on my cause site to Support Parents Parenting without Partners located here http://parentingwithoutpartners.org/home/the-facts/effects-on-u-s-children/
Thank you once again as obviously there is great reference material and I appreciate the work involved to establish such a site.
I will be returning to read more articles.
I would however like to part with a suggestion, if you bear any weight, that reflection on the comments made, by those in the know, would greatly, when implemented and combined with, highlight the deeper and more pressing issues.
Respectfully
Dianne Mead

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almost 2 years ago

Hi I am 12 and my dad left my mom when she was sick. I never talk about whats going on. All I do is argue and take my anger out on my brother. I have taken a lot of weight onto my shoulders. I havent speeken to my dad in over 8 monthes. I still love but he left when we needed him the most.

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almost 2 years ago

Hi I am 12 and my dad left my mom when she was sick. I never talk about whats going on. All I do is argue and take my anger out on my brother. I have taken a lot of weight onto my shoulders. I havent speeken to my dad in over 8 monthes. I still love but he left when we needed him the most.

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about 2 years ago

http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/family/single-parenting-affect-children1.htm

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about 2 years ago

who wrote this article????

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over 2 years ago

I was born in California when my parents were around the age of 19, they split up when I was about 3 1/2. I can vaguely remember some of the times when they were still together. After my dad moved out I was fortunate he didn't move far away, but that was when it all began. A few years went by I was in preschool, Kindergarten, and then into first grade when I was 6. I remember I was driving to Costco with my dad, and we were talking about something I think it was about my mom and he openly told me that I was going to be put up for adoption (now I have more understanding of that, but seriously? that's not something you would tell a young child). I remember after that was the start of me really not feeling that important in the eyes of my dad. As the years progressed everything only got worse. When I felt great about something I would always be told I can do better or it wasn't good enough. I felt as if I'll never meet his expectations. My mom and dad both had met someone new, who both have become my step mother and step father. When I finished my seventh grade year my mom and step father decided we were going to follow the family and move all the way to North Carolina. I went along with my mom and step father as my dad stayed back in California. I saw my dad and my dads family every break from school I got. My dad was always trying to control my life even when we were so far away, I kept bottling up anger inside of me, that's when I completely started changing. I was 15 going onto 16 I started experimenting with weed and alcohol getting involved in the wrong groups getting into trouble always, just becoming really rebellious. At about 17 I told my dad off and told him everything, he was in denial of it, but my family out here had my back for everything. Now I am 18, I was able to make it through my entire HS career. At my graduation everyone came out here, I saw a side of my dad I never really had seen before, he seemed proud. That's the side of my dad I have always wanted to see, I felt really happy then. But since that time I haven't felt the same towards him like I did the night of my graduation. Now its like he has fallen off the face of the earth I only really want to have a nice conversation with him but it seems he doesn't care anymore. It's almost a chore to even call him most of the time I just get a voice mail. I would like to have at least a little conversation with him when he isn't completely distracted. Now my mom and step father are going through a divorce it doesn't have to huge of an effect on me but losing what was once another father figure in your life can be devastating. I've decided that I have to move on even though I still blame myself for lots of stuff in the past, I feel like I was the cause of some of it. I have found someone who is now my girlfriend she has been helping me through, she also has come from a similar background. I guess now I have to hope for the best, it just really sucks knowing that I've now almost basically lost my father when he has been with me all my life. Even though everything out of him was negative I know there is still some positive there that I would like to find, and I hope he would find it. It was hard growing up with single parents for awhile, but I made it through it and I know everyone else can.

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over 2 years ago

I am a child of a single mum and I am writing because of the way my mum acts when she gets a boyfriend. she is single and has been for about 10 years. I see my dad frequently and love my parents both, but my mother is my soul carer, and she is an amazing mum. A few years ago, she got a boyfriend, straight after she broke up with my step dad. This was hard for us (me and my brother) to take in, we never really liked him. It felt like he was stealing her away from us, in a way... kinda like she was forgetting about us. It was horrible. I thought it would never end. but soon enough they broke up. To be honest I was glad, to finally not feel that horrible feeling. she has now met someone over the internet, and is absolutely inlove with him. she has never met him, as he lives in a different country. but I am worried that she will act the same. I tried telling her this; the way I felt when she was around her old boyfriend, and she just said that I was selfish, and I have no respect for her space . I do respect her space but I am just so worried that she will be so infatuated with this man that we'll feel forgotten, left out. That she'll love him more than us. I am not sure if anyone else has ever felt like this but I would like to know what is wrong or how i can get over the fact that mum has a boyfriend. Am i really disrespectful or selfish? please email me, anyone with a similar story, or someone who I can talk to.

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over 2 years ago

hi my name is Cindy in 15 years old, my mom and my father broked up when i was a baby, ivd never meet my father. and i really dont want to meet him. my mom is the best mom ever shes single with 6 kids. shes bein there all our lifes, my mom has a boy friend that i trully hate he always beats her up, when he came to our lifes everything changeed, we wernt that close anymore, my mom always payed attatntion to him and not to us, i really dont know why my mom got with hi,. me and my moms boyfriend hate each other, i wont say that hes my step father cause hes not. i dont have a father and thats it, my mom is my father and mother at the same time, till now my mom and her boyfriwend are still toghether, he still beats her up and everything, i dont know why y moms with him hes bein in jail for beating her up, but i guess my mom still loves hi, whatever. but my mom has being the best mom ever, and i love her very much, i dont havae a dad and im glad i =dont have one !

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almost 3 years ago

I have a 14teen year old daughter and her father walked out December 11, 2009. She has not seen or talk to him in over 10 + months. He is also dragging out the divorce. Because of the abuse (verbal) she does not want anything to do with him. Her grades have gone up since he left to A's & B's and is doing very well. She has been diagnos with Adjustment Disorder. Her father thinks that when we go to court that the wand will be waved and his property will have to come and visit him. I feel first that him treating us like property is wrong but feel this would be a bad move if couseling is not done first. Do you think that I am right?

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almost 3 years ago

I grew up with things always changing, whether it was my mothers boyfriends or where we were living, and anything else you can think of. I am now 28 and have 2 boys 3 and 7. I recently split from their father so my children are now going through a lot of what I went through, which worries me deeply. I've read some of you saying children are putting the blame on the parents and not taking responsibility or that this article is all wrong. I think that there are a few factors on how a child will turn out. Stability and feeling loved is a big aspect but I also think if children that may be more emotional, whether its heriditary or something has happened, can also play a humongous role in a childs development. To all of you who have grown up with great parents and in good living situations I think thats great, you are very lucky. To others, there are a lot of different factors I believe that all contribute to how the child grows up and the hurdles they face. You shouldn't be judgemental on those who state they have had a greater effect from their parents divorce then you, as well noone should be judgemental if someone grew up in a better situation and might not understand where your coming from. There is nothing you can do but keep moving forward and try and make things better, i.e seeking some help from someone.

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over 3 years ago

I am a young father that recently lost costudy of my son. My fiance cheated on me, left me and moved an away. Since we seperated I have made ever effort to see my son as much as possible. Which is every weekend for the past two and a half years. I went as far as to offer a shared parenting plan that gave us equal parenting time, but left me with the economic burden of rearing for him. The magestrait presiding over the case informed my lawyer 15 minutes prior to the case that he had already ruled in favor of my son's mother. I suppose the reason I am writing this is because after reading some of these posts. It is difficult to think of ever leaving my son but I empathize with these parents that probably have put their best foot forward. However without achieving results it demoralizes them. It is difficult to love something or someone and have stipulations to that time shared together, not to mention your conduct scrutinized every step of the way.

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over 3 years ago

I'm 18 years old my dad left my mom when i was 3 months old... I have never missed him. My mom did the most any kid could ever ask for. I agree with ty that it would be nice to know what it was like to grow up with a dad but i never missed mine. over 18 years i got no present at all not even a card or phone call from my dad. no b-day present no xmas presents... but my mom always made up for what he didn't do.

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over 3 years ago

I'm separated with 3 children. I do much better on my own than with my husband. I have tried to keep him in our lives for the children, but sometimes life deals you different cards. I'm not going to say it's easy..it's not. I fought for my marriage. He fought to become a heroine addict. My children are healthier, and happier without him.
"It's easier to build strong children, than to repair broken men." Frederick Douglass.

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over 3 years ago

Hi I'm Emilee and I'm 11 years old. My dad left us when i was 3 or 4 and he went to Texas. I always grew up with men i didn't like because they were always mean to me *such as my brother and my sister's boyfriends*. I have terrible problems in school. I feel isolated and lonely, i have less communication with my mom, i have depression, and emotional stress. It doesn't help that I am bullied at school. My mom is very mean. That doesn't help. I have grown up having something against men, like when i got yelled at by a male teacher I wanted to cry or kill someone. But I can't help it because I also have violent tendancy issues. The last time i saw my daddy was when i was 8. But he found someone he loved online and he moved back to Texas to live with her and her 2 kids. I felt like he chose them over me and he loved them more. All I know is I hope my dad feels guilty and he regrets not wanting me fr the rest of his life!

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over 3 years ago

I am 18 year old girl and its been me and my mom my whole life because i had an abusive father. So those people that say single parenting is bad i want you to read this. Like i said im 18 and its jsut been us this whole time and i am perfectly fine. Yes its hard to hear my friends talk about their dads but then i remember how much my mother has done for me and it doesnt matter. but like i was saying people who think single parents are bad in the world would you rather them had stayed together and me and my mother get abused or what? so your saying its ok to stay with a abusive father but not ok to be me and my mother i want you to think of this. We are more than fine we are awesome and were closer than anyone. plus my grandfathe is the closest and the best thing to a father i could ever wish for. just think about that syou single parent haters in the world..

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over 3 years ago

Single-Parent Families - The Effects On Children

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over 3 years ago

i am 18 years old and my mom was a single parent all my life. I have two sisters one 19 and one 23. I love all my family but i would like to know how it feels to have a father in my life just to go fishing,look at football on Sunday or just do things that females can't do. Some people have a father and some people have a mother but it was fun growing up without a father

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over 3 years ago

I am a 14 years old and have never met my father. I'm the second oldest of 7, and do not have the same father as any of them. Have a single parent family really does effect almost everything, because you're always questioning why he never bothered to stay, if he cared, or where he is now.

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over 3 years ago

I am 26 years old and was raised by my Grandmother who was divorced, so I guess you can say I was raised in a single "parent" household!! I turned out amazing however!! I've traveled around the world playing basketball and modeling! I earned a degree and plan to go back from my Master's!! But lets get to the nitty gritty...My Mother although she didnt raise me was always around my Father on the other hand was never there!! I grew up wondering why he didnt love me!! The day he died at the funeral I meet his 11 other children! Wow!! I accomplished so much in life to try and prove I could do it without him and deep down try and get him to wanna be apart of my life. It makes me sick to this day! But I am grateful for everything in my life, and who knows if he was in my life i could be a completely different person then I am today!! I have a 9 month old son, that thankfully has an amazing father!! We plan to be the best parents (together) and give him the family that we never had!!

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over 3 years ago

I don't like the whole idea of separation of family because it will be deficult for the child behavior towards life in the long run an if the child dose not have a father he are she will go out in the world to find father iove an it will cause sexual relationship

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over 3 years ago

I am 15 and lived with my mom most of my life and see my father every now and then but it aint really a bad life.

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over 3 years ago

Hi I'm Diana. Im an eldest daughter of 4 children (all girls) of my separated parents who happened to be still screwed up into being married because of our religion,but my mom's working for it though. My father left us when I was still in first yr high school and went after a prostitute,and it was terribly difficult and damn shameful in my part as being a studious and religious one. I never got serious to life since then which i ended to something that destroyed my life, i think. But even to that extent I was able to recover my parent's separation, what I can't still recover is knowing that my father has never been a supportive one, he earns a lot of money with his work and my mom's not that much. Since their separation my mom is the only one who supported us,and I'm glad for that;my mom's really responsible. and with this I feel really unfair because my is living an easy life,forgetting his responsibilities on us, and his prostitute mistress is experiencing a life that should ours. It pisses me off, really, it makes me hate my father so much that forces me to take revenge on him through graduating in college in a good university,much more with an honor though..and I'm almost there but it just crumbled when I got cancer.It really suck!i don't anymore know what to do..my mom can't support much of my medications and therapy,my father wont support me, my dream of graduating in college as an honor student is destroyed. Life, living in a broken family never really helps, much more than having an irresponsible, heartless father. =(

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almost 4 years ago

Hi, Im from New Zealand i am a pakeha/Samoan decent and i come from a family of 8 children and one parent, my mum and dad broke up when we were young and my father never got divorced due to his christian beliefs (which is cool) so anyway.. my father got custody of all us children while my mum just left him to it. out of everyone in the family it was my father and two oldest (brother and sister) who went through the hardest time which included drinking and drugs and alot of other bad stuff my father had a car accident which lead me and my youngest brother into foster care because we were the youngest and the state said he couldnt look after us - but the rest of them (6) stayed together and kept strong and helped him through it. my father is now sober and was in a wheelchair but is now not my father went through alot of life changes from strokes to cancer but we all pulled through(YAY) and my two older siblings are graduates from university and so are the rest of the children in the family apart from me and my younger brother who are at university at this current time. All im saying is that if u have faith in what you want it will happen. if i turned back time now i would not change a thing it has made me and family who we are and we still to this have little contact with our mother.

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almost 4 years ago

I recently adopted a 3 year old as a single parent, and my worries are beginning already. She has no siblings or cousins her age, and at 42 I know marriage won't happen anytime very soon. Can anyone relate to this single parent scenerio? How do you help your child adjust?

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almost 4 years ago

situations of being the child of a single parent family is not "great." whenever you have younger siblings, you have to mature and watch them while your mother works. you have to give up your social life.

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about 4 years ago

I am 14 years old and my parents are divorced! i think its better of the way it is(:

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about 4 years ago

I am a single mother of 2, a daughter of 13 and son of 7.Their father has not been in their lives for almost 4 years now and i have no way of contacting him. Both of my kids are excellent in school but lately i have started to have problems with my son. Even though he's great in school with his teachers when he gets out he acts out when adults try to correct him or ask him to do something.Its not everyday but when he does it frustrates me because he is good with everything else. Can anyone suggest anything that i can do that may help?

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over 4 years ago

My name is Danny, I am 19 years old I have lived in a single parent family my entire life. I have lived in several states and attented many schools I belive that even if you do live in a single parent/mother family that you can still chose to advance in life. I am not a college freshmen and also play 2 sports get good grades and am class president i never let anything hold me back my mom is the best in the world she did everything in her power to make us succeed and she passed with flying colors no one tells you how you will live your life there is no restrictions to anything.

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over 4 years ago

I'm eighteen and still live with my mother. My mom received custody of both my sister and I when I was five and she was one. My dad never really bothered to try to keep a relationship with us and he was full of his own problems. He lives about two hours away now and i see him maybe twice a year. I actually don't really like my dad. Were two completely different people and I'm fine with it. I'm now in my first year of college and doing pretty well in life. My mom remarried and got divorced again a few years ago. I didnt like him either. I think because of it all I dont really take to guys very easily and I dont trust them. My boyfriend of two and a half years is one of the only guys i completely trust.

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over 4 years ago

I'm 18 years old, the oldest of 3 kids. My mom raised us all by herself since i was 2 years old. I saw my dad like twice in my life. My mother is an undocumented immigrant, therefore making money was a a big issue. She hardly worked and she never really had much to offer us but food, shelter, and love. Instead of working a lot, she dedicated herself to staying at home to raise us and be a part of our lives. I might of not had birthday parties, or camping trips or anything, but i had my mom present all the time. She left my abusive, alcoholic,irresponsible, father for our own good. It was hard growing up financially, but it shaped who i am today. I learned to be independent through all the work experience i had. I began paying rent at the age of 16, but it was all for the benefit of my family. Even though going to school, then sports, after go to work, and still be involved in my community and school was a big challenge, it was all worth it. Having a sigle parent a lot of the times is for the better, and i thank my mom for making all the right decisions. Its not so much of a negative outcome having a single parent. My mother was 2 parents at the same time, and we turned out fine. My sister and I made it out of high school, and now we attend cal state fullerton. Im sure my brother will to in 2 years. My moms sacrifices and my dedication and hard work has paid off, and now its my turn to give back to my mom =)

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over 4 years ago

1. No study can encompass EVERY situation.

2. The "IDEAL" situation is 2 parents, 2 incomes, 2 ideals that are effectively managed and impart to 1 child.

3. The studies don't lie. You have to know how to interpret them.

4. If you have a single parent that was economically stable and didn't come from an unstable household you are more likely to have a better outcome.

5. If you come from cyclically unstable households this remains to be true.

6. Young girls definitely NEED their fathers (good ones that is...)

7. Single parents should and typically use the "village" model for raising their kids.

8. Where there is love success is without a doubt eminent.

9. If you were in a bad situation...this discussion is not talking about you. Of course you should get out. However, children ARE more resilient than you know.

10. A lot of times single parent households are a Direct reflection of our irresponsible choices. Too late to feel guilty now. You just do what you have to.

@Manda...no one could've known that outcome. There should be better systems for children in those situations. Sorry you had to experience that .

MP...what about about them. This was not a study on them.

Mz.Tee...just like you, I should've been more responsible about my choices. All we can do is raise our children.

@Joni T. - way to take care of your family when your partner didn't know how to or just wouldn't.

Ricky..there's nothing wrong w being spoiled if it's done the right way. Spoiled kids can learn to be grateful and their well to do families have the right to spoil them and should.

Ricky...good for you. what a great mother. you are not alone.

J. aikonis...not sure I agree.

Liu...most of us are still searching. You are one of the people the above author is talking about.

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almost 5 years ago

my father raised me because the judge thought that it was best because my mom moved around a lot. if i would have lived with my mom i wouldnt have had the experience of getting abused and my father almost killing me. I am not sad for what happend i am thankful because it gave me experience and it helped me be a better person and how i would want to raise my kids when i have them. I feel that you put things about mothers raising kids but a lot of fathers raise children to. I think there should be facts on fathers raising their kids. I have problems but who doesnt? It all depends on how you take the experience.

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almost 5 years ago

What about family of illegal immigrants, when one of the parents is deported from the country. There are thousands and thousands of these families...
Who ever consider this type of single parent family and impact on children?
What kind of life/growing problems/ attitude/behavioral problems these US citizen children are having?

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almost 5 years ago

I believe this article is way off when it comes to the effects of raising children alone. My aunt and uncle raised me, my sister and brother plus their four kids. We all turned out fine. I have a son without a father. I choose not to be with him because I don't want my son growing up in a abusive household. They always try to point out the negative. What about why people choose to be single parents. My son is five and very smart and intelligent. I am proud of my son because I work full time and go to school fulltime and still managed to raise a smart and respectable child so far.

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about 5 years ago

Hi, I have been a single parent for my only child since before she was born until this day..



After I founded out I was pregnant. I confronted her father..who told me that...how do I know that it is for him... I felt real terrible inside after what he said..I eventually broke down in tears..I started to cry wondering how was I going to mange after all have been going through lost my job and now pregnant..how was I going to really care for my child.



Then I put myself together. Remembering, my other family were there for me..and with the help of them all..and other friends..who heard of my story..was of a tremedous help to me and her..and still is until this day..



He also, of recently..of two years ago, last year 2007 ..took out a summonds on me hoping to take away my child from me..the court gave us order for him to have her the last weekend of every month. Since those times spending with him..she was changed acting strange towards me..I began to get worried..she told me of how her father kissed his future wife infront of her , givin her flowers etc..and I thought to myself. I supposed he wants me to get jealous. which I was not..



at the result of our court case. We were giving a letter stating the arrangement of things between us and the child..he did not kept his responsibilities and promised..left the country and never keep in contact with his child but called once.



However, I thank God for blessing me with a job up on this day that am able to provide for my daughter even though not in the way am able to but still we are happy and her grades are doing so well..



She gives alot of talking but, some times it is often frustrating and I cried lots of time how will I ever get out of the discomfort we are presently in..I know God answereth prayers..so for those who are a single parent..don't give up..just keep the faith and the Lord will do the rest..look and learn from others and whenever in distressed..call upon a friend..the Lord Jesus in your closet and talk with him and even to a family or a friend who understands..



God bless

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over 5 years ago

I was successfully raised by my independent divorced mother, I have never been married and I am adopting my first child this year at the age of 35. None of these studies apply to single parent households that are able to financially support children. Note the comment ".. the lack of a male presence may not be as critical as the lack of a male income to the family." The keys to the puzzle are opportunity for education followed by equal pay for equal work. There will always be single parents and, so far, most of them are the mothers; we should arm them with the best defense against poverty, which is the true cause of disparity between the two groups of children.